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The Power of Response-ability

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Response-ability, as Coach Wheeler defines it, is the ability to choose how you respond to any given situation. This is very different from the experience of life where everything happens TO YOU. Take control of your life…

Response-Ability:
Choosing How to Respond

Life’s unpredictability means we are continually faced with situations that test our resilience, patience, and wisdom. How we respond to these challenges can define not only our character but also our growth as individuals. This power to choose our reaction has been coined as “response-ability,” a central aspect of responsibility. This concept, which is part of Coach Wheeler’s Roots of Success diagram, opens a new dimension in understanding personal development, mindfulness, empathy, and wisdom.

The Power of Choice

One of the most empowering realizations we can have as human beings is recognizing that we have control over our responses. While we may not control the events that happen to us, we absolutely control how we react to them.

Victor Frankl, a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, famously said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

The notion of “response-ability” is about embracing this space and choosing our reactions consciously and deliberately.

Embracing Mindfulness

Mindfulness involves being present in the moment, fully engaged with our current experience without judgment. By practicing mindfulness, we become more attuned to our thoughts, feelings, and reactions. This awareness enables us to respond to life’s challenges with clarity and wisdom rather than reacting impulsively.

Mindfulness helps us slow down and consider the best course of action, cultivating a deeper sense of “response-ability.” It’s not just about reacting; it’s about choosing the reaction that aligns with our values, goals, and principles.

Developing Mindfulness

Mindfulness helps us slow down and consider the best course of action, cultivating a deeper sense of “response-ability.” It’s not just about reacting; it’s about choosing the reaction that aligns with our values, goals, and principles.

One powerful way to develop mindfulness is through the practice of meditation. Meditation is a mental exercise that encourages focusing attention on a particular object, thought, or activity. It trains the mind to become aware of the present moment, acknowledging and accepting feelings and thoughts without judgment. By spending time each day in meditation, we cultivate a more mindful approach to life, enhancing our ability to consciously choose our responses.

Starting a meditation practice might seem daunting, but it can be as simple as finding a quiet space and dedicating a few minutes each day to focused breathing. Begin by sitting comfortably, closing your eyes, and paying attention to your breath. Notice the sensation of the breath as it enters and leaves your body. If your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to the breath. The important part of this is not to keep your mind from wandering, it’s going to happen, but rather to recognize when your attention waivers and be able to bring your attention back to where you want it. Over time, this practice will strengthen your mindfulness muscles, empowering you to approach life with greater intentionality and “response-ability.”

The regular practice of meditation not only fosters mindfulness but also lays the foundation for building empathy. By tuning into our own experiences and emotions, we become more capable of understanding and connecting with the feelings of others. This enhanced emotional connection sets the stage for the next section, Building Empathy, where we will explore how mindfulness and empathy together contribute to the ability to choose how we respond.

Building Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Integrating empathy into our response-ability means not only reacting to our circumstances but also considering how our actions and reactions might impact others.

This broader perspective fosters compassion, kindness, and understanding. It enriches our relationships and enables us to navigate conflicts and challenges with grace.

Cultivating Wisdom

Wisdom is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, understanding, and insight. By exercising response-ability, we tap into our wisdom to evaluate situations from various angles, seeking the best possible course of action.

Wisdom, combined with response-ability, leads to decisions that are not only beneficial for us but also for those around us. It transforms challenges into learning opportunities.

Real-Life Applications

The concept of response-ability can be applied in various aspects of life:

In Relationships: Choosing how to respond to conflicts, misunderstandings, or differences of opinion can make or break relationships. Emphasizing empathy, mindfulness, and wisdom can lead to more profound connections and mutual respect.

In the Workplace: Responding to work-related stresses, deadlines, and interpersonal dynamics with mindfulness and wisdom enhances productivity and fosters a positive work environment.

In Personal Development: Cultivating response-ability is a journey towards self-awareness, self-control, and personal growth. It aids in setting and achieving goals aligned with our core values.

In Sports: Athletes and coaches alike must choose how to respond to victories, defeats, injuries, or game-changing moments. Practicing response-ability in sports fosters resilience, teamwork, and a growth mindset. It enables individuals and teams to focus on what can be controlled and to approach challenges with a strategic and positive perspective.

What’s the real POWER of Response-ability?

Response-ability is not merely a play on words; it’s a profound realization that we have the power to choose how we respond to life’s myriad challenges. By embracing this concept, we begin to approach life with mindfulness, empathy, and wisdom, shaping our character, nurturing growth, and transforming our entire approach to life.

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”

Stephen R. Covey

Response-ability puts us in the driver’s seat, allowing us to navigate life’s twists and turns with intention, integrity, and insight. It’s a transformative concept that encourages us to live more conscious, compassionate, and purpose-driven lives.

By understanding and practicing response-ability, we are not just reacting to life; we are actively shaping it, turning challenges into opportunities for growth, and deepening our connection with ourselves and others.

Are you ready to take control of your responses and embark on this empowering journey? The choice is yours, and the path towards a more mindful, empathetic, and wise life awaits.

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Feeding The Roots: Success Inputs

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Below, you will find a selection of books related to the deepest level success inputs in Coach Wheeler’s “Roots of Success” diagram. These books can help illuminate the concepts that underlie each facet of success as described in the framework.

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Success Inputs for Passion:
Vision and Mission

Vision:

“Start With Why” by Simon Sinek
Sinek explores how leaders and organizations can inspire others by identifying and communicating their “Why” or core purpose. He emphasizes that those who lead with ‘why’ are able to inspire and engage others more effectively.

“The Art of Possibility” by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander
This book is a guide to opening up one’s mind to the possibilities that exist within every situation. By aligning your vision with what’s possible, you can transform not only your personal life but also your professional endeavors.

“Dare to Lead” by Brené Brown
Summary: Brown provides insight into how to embrace vulnerability and uncertainty to create a more courageous and visionary leadership style. Her research-backed approach helps readers cultivate an authentic and inspiring vision.

Mission:

“The 4 Disciplines of Execution” by Chris McChesney, Sean Covey, and Jim Huling
This book focuses on how to execute strategy and mission with excellence. The authors present four essential disciplines that empower organizations to achieve their wildly important goals.

Good to Great by Jim Collins

“Good to Great” by Jim Collins
Collins examines how companies transition from being good to great, outlining the systematic process and the disciplined focus on mission that differentiates great companies. Two thumbs up from Coach Wheeler!

“Mastering the Rockefeller Habits” by Verne Harnish
Harnish presents a guide to business strategy focusing on clear planning and disciplined execution. The book offers tools and strategies for companies to define their mission and execute it successfully.

Success Inputs for Health:
Food, Sleep/Recovery, and Play

Food:

“The Omnivore’s Dilemma” by Michael Pollan
Pollan takes readers on an exploration of food choices, looking at the ethical and environmental implications of what we eat. He emphasizes the importance of conscious eating for personal and planetary health.

“Eat to Live” by Joel Fuhrman
Dr. Fuhrman provides a comprehensive guide on nutritional science, offering a diet that focuses on nutrient-dense foods to enhance overall wellness.

“In Defense of Food” by Michael Pollan
Pollan provides an easy-to-follow guide to eating healthily, boiling it down to the mantra, “Eat food, not too much, mostly plants.” His insights encourage mindful eating based on real, whole foods.

Sleep/Recovery:

“Why We Sleep” by Matthew Walker
A comprehensive exploration of the vital importance of sleep, this book delves into the science of sleep and its profound impact on our health, brain function, and quality of life.

“The Sleep Revolution” by Arianna Huffington
Huffington addresses the sleep deprivation crisis, arguing for a cultural shift that recognizes the importance of rest and recovery in our fast-paced world.

“Sleep Smarter” by Shawn Stevenson
Stevenson offers actionable insights and tips to optimize sleep quality, emphasizing how proper sleep supports overall wellness.

Play:

“Play” by Stuart Brown
Brown argues that play is not just essential for children but for adults too. He explores the science of play and how it improves creativity, innovation, and overall happiness.

“The Playful Brain” by Sergio Pellis and Vivien Pellis
This book delves into the neurobiology of play, showing how it shapes the brain and development, offering insights into why play is crucial for social and cognitive growth.

“Free to Learn” by Peter Gray
Gray explores how play and curiosity drive learning, advocating for an educational approach that incorporates play and self-directed learning.

Success Inputs for Conscienceness:
Accountability and Responsibility (A&R)

Accountability:

“The Oz Principle: Getting Results Through Individual and Organizational Accountability” by Roger Connors, Tom Smith, and Craig Hickman
This book focuses on how personal and organizational accountability leads to success and fulfillment. It offers practical strategies to take ownership and achieve better results.

“The Accountability Revolution” by Mark Samuel
Samuel presents a fresh perspective on accountability, emphasizing its role as a positive and empowering force within organizations.

“Ownership Thinking” by Brad Hams
Hams introduces a model of employee engagement based on accountability and ownership thinking, showing how to create a culture where employees think and act like owners.

Responsibility:

“Extreme Ownership” by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin
Two Navy SEALs share their leadership lessons on taking full responsibility and leading effectively under pressure.

“The Responsibility Virus” by Roger L. Martin
Martin explores the tendency to either take on too much responsibility or shirk it entirely. He provides a guide to balancing responsibility and empowering others.

“The Power of Responsibility” by Joelle Casteix
This motivational book offers a step-by-step guide to embracing personal responsibility, focusing on empowerment, healing, and personal growth.

Success Inputs for Knowledge:
Independent, Structured, General, Specialized and Memory/Recall

Independent Knowledge:

“The 4-Hour Chef” by Tim Ferriss
Ferriss explores how to learn anything rapidly and effectively. He offers a method for independent knowledge acquisition that can be applied to various subjects.

“Ultralearning” by Scott Young
Young provides a guide to mastering hard skills and acquiring knowledge independently. His methods are geared towards self-driven learners who want to achieve more in less time.

Structured Knowledge:

“Make It Stick” by Peter C. Brown, Henry L. Roediger III, and Mark A. McDaniel
This book explores the science of learning and provides insights into how to structure knowledge acquisition for long-term retention.

“How to Create a Mind” by Ray Kurzweil
Kurzweil investigates how the brain works, focusing on pattern recognition and the hierarchical structure of knowledge.

“Building a Better Teacher” by Elizabeth Green
Green offers a look at the art and science of teaching, exploring how effective education is structured and what it takes to foster deep understanding.

General Knowledge:

“A Short History of Nearly Everything” by Bill Bryson
Bryson takes readers on a tour of science and history, providing a comprehensive overview of general knowledge across various domains.

“The New Dictionary of Cultural Literacy” by E.D. Hirsch, Joseph F. Kett, and James Trefil
This reference book offers a guide to essential concepts and terms that everyone should know, fostering general cultural literacy.

“Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind” by Yuval Noah Harari
Harari explores the history and impact of Homo sapiens, providing a broad understanding of human history, society, and culture.

Specialized Knowledge:

“Outliers” by Malcolm Gladwell
Gladwell investigates why some people succeed, focusing on specialized knowledge, practice, and the various factors that contribute to high levels of success.

“Deep Work” by Cal Newport
Newport explores how deep, focused work leads to mastery and specialization. He offers practical advice for those seeking to hone specialized skills and knowledge.

“The Talent Code” by Daniel Coyle
Coyle explores how talent is developed, focusing on deep practice and specialized training. He provides insights into how anyone can develop specialized skills and expertise.

Memory/Recall:

“Moonwalking with Einstein” by Joshua Foer
Foer explores the art of memorizing and the science of memory, offering practical techniques to enhance memory and recall.

“The Memory Book” by Harry Lorayne and Jerry Lucas
This classic guide offers a range of techniques to improve memory, from simple tricks to advanced systems, suitable for anyone looking to enhance recall.

“Make Your Brain Smarter” by Sandra Bond Chapman, Ph.D.
Chapman provides strategies to increase brain performance and memory recall, focusing on scientifically proven methods to enhance cognitive function.

Inputs for Social Skills:
EQ Intelligence and Interpersonal skills

Intelligence of Emotions (EQ):

“Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves
Bradberry and Greaves offer a step-by-step program to increase emotional intelligence, focusing on four core EQ skills that drive success.

“Primal Leadership” by Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Annie McKee
This book focuses on leadership and the role of emotional intelligence in building strong relationships, teams, and organizations.

“Daring Greatly” by Brené Brown
Brown explores the power of vulnerability and empathy, emphasizing how emotional intelligence and connection can lead to a more fulfilled and courageous life.

Interpersonal Skills:

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
Carnegie’s timeless classic provides practical advice on effective communication, understanding others, and building lasting relationships.

“Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion” by Robert B. Cialdini
Cialdini explores the principles of persuasion and influence, offering insights into how to communicate and connect with others more effectively.

“Crucial Conversations” by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler
This book offers techniques for handling difficult and crucial conversations, focusing on communication skills that foster understanding and collaboration.

Inputs for Problem Solving:
IQ (basic intelligence) and Creativity

IQ (Basic Intelligence):

“Thinking, Fast and Slow” by Daniel Kahneman
Kahneman, a Nobel laureate, explores the dual-process model of the brain, revealing how our thinking is divided into intuitive and logical processes.

“The Mismeasure of Man” by Stephen Jay Gould
Gould challenges traditional measures of intelligence, providing a critical examination of IQ testing and the nature of intelligence.

“The Intelligence Trap” by David Robson
Robson explores how intelligent people make irrational decisions and offers insights into how to think more critically and effectively.

Creativity:

“The Creative’s Curse” by Todd Brison
Brison provides a guide for creative minds, offering insights into how to nurture creativity and overcome the challenges that creative individuals often face.

“Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear” by Elizabeth Gilbert
Gilbert offers a warm and wise perspective on creativity, encouraging readers to embrace inspiration and live a creative life without fear.

“The War of Art” by Steven Pressfield
Pressfield explores the internal barriers to creativity and offers motivation and guidance for overcoming resistance and unleashing creative potential.

Wrap UP…

These books cover a wide array of topics or “success inputs” related to the deepest-level inputs of the “Roots of Success” diagram created by . By delving into these texts, readers can gain a deeper understanding of the core concepts that shape success and personal development. Whether focusing on passion, health, conscience, intelligence, or social skills, these readings offer valuable insights and practical applications to foster growth and achievement.

Remember, success is not merely a destination but a journey shaped by continuous learning, self-reflection, and the relentless pursuit of excellence. By embracing these principles and integrating the wisdom contained within these books, you are paving the way toward a more fulfilling and successful life.

Now, let’s get off our metaphorical backsides and dive into these enriching resources! How will you take the next step in your personal or professional development?

SEEz Oppty: Turning Vision into Victory

Have you ever wondered why certain individuals can spot potential where others see nothing but challenges? These are the ones who seem to have a sixth sense for sniffing out opportunities. The secret isn’t a mystical power – it’s a skill, and one that’s grounded in our very own biology. Welcome to the world where we ‘SEEz Opportunities’.

Spotting Opportunities:
The Power of Your Brain

Seeing opportunities isn’t an exclusive gift only bestowed upon a lucky few. It’s a skill, akin to learning to play the guitar or mastering the art of public speaking. This skill, however, focuses on your perception, and altering the way you perceive the world around you. It’s about examining situations from multiple perspectives and unveiling hidden gems of potential.

This is where the brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) comes into play. The RAS is a bundle of nerves at our brainstem that filters out unnecessary information so the important stuff gets through. It’s the reason you hear your name across a noisy room, or why you spot a friend’s face in a crowded street. Your RAS takes what you focus on and creates a filter for it, sieving through the data and presenting only the pieces that are important to you. This means once you’ve set your goals and defined what opportunities you’re seeking, your RAS will work to highlight those opportunities when they arise.

But how do we develop the skill of seeing opportunities? It starts with setting a clear vision. First, identify the types of opportunities you are seeking. Is it a lucrative business deal? A chance to score in a sports match? A potential relationship? A unique travel experience? Just like setting a GPS before a journey, you need to define your destination before setting out to discover opportunities.

The Story of Airbnb

Take the story of Brian Chesky and Joe Gebbia, the founders of Airbnb. In 2007, during an industrial design conference in San Francisco, they noticed that hotels were fully booked. Seeing an opportunity, they decided to rent out their living space to those who couldn’t find accommodation. That idea evolved into Airbnb, a billion-dollar company. [For a more in-depth version of this story see our SEEz Opportunity Stories page.]

Once you’ve identified the type of opportunities you’re searching for, broaden your horizon and delve deep. Look at situations from different perspectives, ask ‘what if’ and dare to dream. The world is full of untapped possibilities waiting to be discovered.

Challenge Yourself:
A Different Lens for Perception

To truly develop this skill, challenge yourself to view your world through a new lens. Each experience, encounter, and event harbors potential opportunities. The key lies in priming your RAS to recognize these opportunities. If you’re an entrepreneur, train your RAS not just to see a product, but a solution to a problem, an enhancement to a process, or an entryway to a new market. If you’re an athlete, instruct your RAS to see beyond the game, towards mastering new techniques, fostering resilience, or uncovering a passion for mentorship.

Consider Howard Schultz, who, during a trip to Italy, was captivated by the country’s coffee culture. He didn’t just see a beverage – he saw an opportunity to bring this Italian experience back to America. This new perspective led him to transform Starbucks from a single coffee bean store into a global coffeehouse chain.

But recognizing an opportunity is merely the first step. Identifying potential is futile if you don’t take proactive measures to seize it.

Act Now: The Bridge to Success

It is action that distinguishes the dreamers from the doers. Transforming an opportunity from potential to reality requires action, often involving courage, dedication, and tenacity. It might mean stepping outside your comfort zone or accepting risks. However, as the adage goes, “Fortune favors the bold.”

A classic example is that of JK Rowling, the renowned author of the Harry Potter series. She saw an opportunity to create a unique magical world, but it was her actions – writing the story, persevering through numerous rejections from publishers – that transformed her vision into a reality, creating a billion-dollar franchise in the process. [For a more in-depth version of this story see our SEEz Opportunity Stories page.]

A simple framework to inspire action:

Chart the Next Step: Each opportunity demands a unique course of action. It might involve research, initiating a conversation, or jumping in headfirst. Regardless, identify the next logical step and take it.

Establish a Timeline: Specify a time frame for action. It could be immediate, within a week, or the next month. A timeline imparts urgency and curbs procrastination.

Assess and Adapt: Following your action, evaluate the outcome. Did it bring you closer to seizing the opportunity? If not, refine your approach and try again. Failure isn’t the enemy of success; it’s part of the journey.

The Art of Seizing Opportunities

Comprehending that seeing opportunities is a skill cultivated through intentional mental training, notably through harnessing your RAS, is transformative. Like any skill, it requires practice, patience, and resilience. However, the payoff is substantial. As you master the art of ‘Seez Opportunities’, you’ll start to perceive the world in a new light, spotting potential in previously overlooked corners and ready to seize these opportunities when they emerge.

Encourage a mindset of curiosity, stay receptive to new experiences, and challenge established norms. Armed with this approach, you’ll not only spot opportunities at every turn but also be primed to seize them, converting your visions into victories.

Mandatory Credit: Kyle Terada-USA TODAY Sports

[For a more in-depth story demonstrating how Stephen Curry made the most of the opportunities he was given (and created many of his own opportunities), see our SEEz Opportunity Stories page.]

Remember, opportunities don’t just materialize out of thin air – they’re identified by those with the bravery to see beyond the surface and the commitment to act. So, equip yourself with the correct mindset, sharpen your perception, and get ready to ‘Seez Opportunities’ that will lead you to success. After all, it’s not merely about what you look at, but rather, what you see through the powerful lens of your RAS.

The Need for Speed

The Importance of Speed in Basketball

Basketball is a game of intensity and quick transitions. A key determinant of success in this adrenaline-fueled sport is speed. But when we say ‘speed,’ we’re not merely referring to how fast a player can sprint from one end of the court to the other. Speed in basketball is multidimensional—it encompasses physical agility, mental acuity, and strategic adaptability.

Physical Speed and Agility

Strength and agility allow an athlete to exercise better control. An agile athlete can change direction quickly and outrun his/her opponent.

Norbert Juma, Editor of EverydayPower.com

At its core, basketball requires physical speed. The ability to swiftly maneuver around the court, both offensively and defensively, can have a profound impact on a player’s performance. The ability to move confidently allows players to reach the basket quicker, defend more effectively, and react to changes in the game instantaneously. It can mean the difference between a well-executed fast break and a missed opportunity.

Speed also ties in closely with agility—the capacity to change direction quickly and efficiently. Agile players are able to dodge defenders, swiftly shift between offensive and defensive modes, and maintain control of the ball under pressure. As Bill Russell famously said, “Quickness is the essence of the game.”

Mental Agility and Decision-Making

“Speed is not just about moving fast;
it’s about making fast decisions.”

John Wooden

Speed, however, is not solely a physical attribute. Cognitive agility —the ability to quickly process information, make decisions, and react accordingly—is equally vital in basketball. When a player has the ball, they need to rapidly assess the situation, consider their options, and make a decision, all in a matter of seconds. This mental agility significantly influences a player’s effectiveness on the court.

Quick decision-making can contribute to efficient plays, reduced turnovers, and well-timed passes. It’s a key factor in running a smooth offense and making split-second decisions that can change the course of the game. As the great basketball coach John Wooden once stated, “Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

Strategically Fast and Adaptable?

Finally, strategic speed—the capability to adapt game plans in response to the opponent’s tactics—plays an instrumental role in basketball. In a dynamic and unpredictable game, a team’s ability to quickly adjust their strategy can be the difference between winning and losing.

Coaches and players must observe the opposing team, recognize patterns, anticipate their moves, and adjust their own tactics on the fly. Successful teams are those that can swiftly shift strategies without losing momentum, capitalizing on their strengths and exploiting their opponents’ weaknesses.

Training for Speed

Given its vital role in basketball, it’s essential for players to train for speed. This includes both physical training—such as sprinting drills, agility ladders, and plyometric exercises—and cognitive training, such as learning to read the game, understanding different strategies, and practicing quick decision-making.

But as Michael Jordan suggested, it’s not about wishing for it to happen; it’s about making it happen. Consistent effort, perseverance, and a growth mindset are required to improve speed. Every practice, every drill, every game is an opportunity to become faster—physically, mentally, and strategically.

Do you have “The Need for Speed”?

I feel very comfortable going at full speed.

Steve Nash, NBA All Star and League MVP

In basketball, speed is far more than just a physical trait—it’s a fundamental element that permeates every aspect of the game. From physical agility to mental acuity, from strategic adaptability to constant learning, speed in its various forms can give players and teams a significant advantage.

In the words of the great basketball coach, Phil Jackson, “Basketball is a sport that involves the subtle interweaving of players at full speed to the point where they are thinking and moving as one.” Speed—whether physical, mental, or strategic—is at the heart of this interweaving, and mastering it is crucial to basketball success.

So, whether you’re a player aiming to improve your game or a coach looking to guide your team to victory, remember—the importance of speed in basketball can never be overstated. As the game continues to evolve, speed remains a key component, underscoring its timeless relevance in this fast-paced sport.

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Perception is Reality:

In the 1980s, the American political strategist Lee Atwater said simply and succinctly: “Perception is reality”.

Perception is reality – this three-word phrase carries profound significance. It is the lens through which we view our world, shaping our understanding of ourselves, the people around us, and society at large. It is not just a point of view, but a fundamental truth that influences our actions, reactions, and ultimately, our results. As we embark on the journey to winning, we must first triumph over the battleground of perception.

Winning the Inner Game

This chapter explores the three pillars of perception – Perception of others in our life, Perception of you as created within society/social media, and Perception of self. We’ll learn from the wisdom of thought leaders like Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Jordan Peterson, Geno Auriemma, Abraham Lincoln, Barack Obama, and John Wooden, drawing upon their writings and speeches to enlighten our understanding.

The Power of Your Tribe:
Perception of Others in Your Life

Perception is reality

In the quest for winning, the role of those around us cannot be overstated. As the legendary Jim Rohn observed, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This reality showcases the transformative power of our immediate social circle – their perceptions can significantly shape our personal reality. It’s a phenomenon of social mirroring, wherein we unconsciously adopt the attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors of those closest to us.

The charismatic life coach Tony Robbins emphasizes the connection between the quality of our lives and the expectations of our peer group. We are deeply influenced, consciously and unconsciously, by their perceptions and expectations.

So, how can we leverage this reality? Be intentional about the company you keep. Seek out those who inspire you, who push you to grow. Yet, maintain your uniqueness. Absorb the positive, let the negative flow past. Remember, you are not merely a reflection of others’ perceptions – you are the artist of your own reality.

The Digital Persona:
Perception of You Created Within Society/Social Media

Social Media Perception is reality

As we navigate the digital age, the perception of us within society and on social media has taken on a new dimension. It’s an arena where perception can often eclipse reality. This phenomenon reminds us of the wisdom imparted by John Wooden, the exceptional basketball coach, who said, “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.”

Today, our society shapes a narrative, a brand of ‘you.’ Social media platforms magnify this perception, often blurring the lines between reality and illusion. Robbins suggests, “It’s not about the goal. It’s about growing to become the person that can accomplish that goal.” Society and social media can either facilitate or hinder this growth.

How can we navigate this new digital reality? Remember, you are more than your online persona. Authenticity resonates. Stand for your values, share not just your triumphs but also your trials. Use these platforms to inspire, to learn, and to narrate your own unique journey. You are the author of your story, society, and social media are just the platforms.

The Inner Self:
Perception of Who You Are

What do you see when you look in the mirror every morning?

Jordan Peterson, a noted psychologist, preaches the importance of putting your house in order before criticizing the world. This advice extends to our perception as well. Our self-perception lays the foundation of our reality. It’s the prism through which we view and interpret the world.

However, we often fall into the trap of becoming our own harshest critics. This skewed self-perception can create a harsher reality than what truly exists. Geno Auriemma, a renowned basketball coach, aptly said, “What you permit, you promote. What you allow, you encourage.” If we permit a distorted self-perception, we promote a distorted reality.

How can we adjust this perception? Robbins proposes changing our strategy. Understand that you are a work in progress. Recognize your flaws, but celebrate your strengths. Own your mistakes, but also revel in your victories. The pursuit is not for perfection but for progression. By embracing our complexities, we start altering the perception of self.

Overcoming Frustration

Overcome your frustration by changing your perception of reality

Embarking on the journey of changing perception isn’t easy. It’s fraught with frustrations and obstacles. But as Robbins advises, “Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions.” Frustrations are not walls, they are mirrors. They reflect what we need to understand about our perceptions and ourselves.

John Wooden’s philosophy adds a powerful perspective to dealing with frustrations – “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” When faced with frustration, focus on your strengths and abilities. Transform frustrations into growth opportunities.

Barack Obama’s wisdom fits here beautifully. He once said, “Change is never easy, but always possible.” Changing perceptions is no different. It’s a journey filled with challenges, but the destination makes the journey worthwhile.

Abraham Lincoln’s statement provides another layer of insight. He said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” We can apply this to our perceptions. We can shape our future by consciously molding our perceptions today.

Wrap UP

Pick the facts you want and reinforce them in everything you do

“Perception is reality.” This powerful statement carries immense implications for our journey towards winning. However, perception is not fixed. Like a river, it is fluid, adapting and evolving with time. It is influenced by our experiences and in turn, influences our reality.

Navigating the journey of perception may seem like traversing a complex maze, but it is through this maze that we come to understand ourselves and our world. Every twist, every turn, every dead-end, and every clear path offers lessons for growth.

Embark on this journey with courage, patience, and resilience. For it is through understanding and molding our perceptions that we earn our victories, not just in the world outside, but most importantly, in the battleground within. In the end, perception isn’t just reality, it’s the foundation upon which our winning is built and ultimately, earned.

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Additional Resources related to
“Perception is Reality”….

Tony Robbins’ “Awaken the Giant Within“ – This book delves deep into the concept of personal perception and provides actionable steps on how to harness and change our perceptions. You can look for it on Amazon or other book-selling platforms.

Jordan Peterson’s “12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos” – Peterson explores the importance of self-perception and self-improvement. This book can be found on multiple platforms like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, etc. [The hardcover version is, at the time of this writing, selling for less than $15 on Amazon.com.]

Jim Rohn‘s “7 Strategies for Wealth & Happiness” – This book presents strategies on how to better navigate the influence of others’ perceptions in your life.

John Wooden‘s “Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court” – This book provides insights into how society’s perception of an individual can influence their actions.

The Obama White House Archives – On this website, you can find many speeches where Barack Obama discusses change and overcoming adversity.

Geno Auriemma’s Interviews and Speeches – Auriemma often speaks about self-perception and leadership in sports. His interviews and speeches can be found on various sports news websites and video-sharing platforms like YouTube.

Lincoln’s Letters and Speeches – Abraham Lincoln’s letters and speeches are insightful, many of which discuss the power of self-creation and shaping one’s future. These can be found on academic databases or dedicated historical sites.

Other points of view:

“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain – This book provides a contrasting view on how perception is influenced by introverted versus extroverted personality traits.

“The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains” by Nicholas Carr – This book discusses the impact of the internet (including social media) on our minds, offering a different perspective on the influence of digital platforms on our self-perception and reality.

How to Get Into Basketball Shape

First off, let me acknowledge a great idea and the inspiration for this article about getting into basketball shape…

The basketball mile (courtesy of PGC basketball). Basketball Shape article by PGC

The theory behind the “basketball mile” is to simulate all the running in a full game including the starts/stops, breaks between quarters and more. The reason I am featuring this drill is because it simulates a real game. It also gives you more rest time if you run each segment faster. It might not be an exact match for the running that is done in a game, but it is a pretty good approximation.

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Coach Wheeler has come up with a “timing sheet” that shows when each segment of this drill should start so you can simply run the game clock continuously and call out start times. The timing sheet also allows you to mark off which players complete each segment. You can even add information such as the winner of each segment. If you want you can record any violations (double dribble, travel or turnover) if you are incorporating a ball into the drill. It’s up to you if you want to add a penalty for mistakes (pushups?).

Click the links below to download the Timing Sheet (using “Save As”) that utilizes 20 second segments or 15 second segments …

[Timing sheet – 20 sec segments] Basketball Mile Drill Chart

[Timing sheet – 15 sec segments]

Ways to make it harder…

One of the key roles of a coach is to challenge the players on their team so they are given an opportunity to grow and improve. The basketball mile is already a pretty challenging drill but how can your team get more value out of doing it?

The PGC article (link here) suggests making the time for each sprint segment shorter (see the 15 second sheet for timing cues) and/or dribbling a ball while sprinting. I might add a few more “twists” to create challenges that will help you in a game.

First, add two free throws at the end and record who makes one or both of them. Free throws at the end of a game (when you are tired) can make the difference between winning and losing. Don’t waste the exhaustion that this drill provides. The timing sheets provide a line at the bottom to collect how each player did on their free throws.

Second, make it more competitive by recording who wins each sprint. Perhaps the player who wins the most sprints takes the last two foul shots for a team win (while individuals can shoot for their own “win”).

Thirdly, how will you start or introduce this drill? How about having two players race each other while the rest of the team watches? If you time them, you can ask the question to the team… is this pace fast enough for us to win our games?

Fourth, can you figure out a way to work in passing as part of the drill? Ideally players would have an opportunity to both dribble and pass based on whatever rules you come up with. Maybe players are paired up so that they pass the ball back and forth as they sprint the first leg and whoever ends up with the ball one step from half-court would have to dribble it back.

Finally, you could record the players who don’t finish the sprint in the time required. They can finish the rest of the sprints “at their leisure” or as additional conditioning work, but those who don’t meet the time targets could be marked on the recording sheet. Can you think of other scenarios? Leave your thoughts in the comments section below!

Final thoughts about How to get in Basketball Shape?

If you ask any basketball coach they would say that the sooner your players get in “basketball shape”, the sooner they will be ready to learn new skills and compete successfully on the court. The “Basketball Mile” is a great tool and there are plenty of ways that it can help your players get in Basketball Shape … the kind of shape that wins games!

Embrace The Grind.

Are you Grinding?

Do you even know what it means to Grind?

Lots of people talk about “The Grind” but what does it mean for you?

This is what will likely be a series about what it means to Grind and how you can do it better. I will start with this example. It is an excellent (basketball related) excerpt about “The Grind” from Coach John Calipari’s book, “Players First”…

Players First by John CalipariWeekends, holidays, just about every chance I got I was in the gym working on my game. I’d take shots from different parts of the floor, practice foul shots, work on my ball handling. I wrote down everything I did. I tell my guys now: “You’ve got to love the grind.” That’s something they probably hear from me more than anything else. You’ve got to love the grind. Embrace the work. Embrace the sweat. Embrace the pain.

And keep track of it all, because it keeps you honest. You’ve got to chart a workout and chart your shots. If there’s not something measurable, it’s not real. You say to yourself, I’m taking five hundred shots before I leave this gym, and I’m doing it every day. Count them up and write down how many you made.

Are you grinding towards your goal?

The Grind is about making progress.  It’s not always big steps. Sometimes the improvement is almost imperceptible it is so small. Sometimes you try something and it doesn’t work or, worse, it sets you back 5 steps. The Grind is about  wanting something enough that you are willing to keep persisting even when the going gets rough.

Here’s a quote and some explanation from an author, Ed Mylett, whose book, “One More”, I read this summer…

“It’s what you do when you aren’t motivated that determines success or failure.” – Ed Mylett

Ed explains … “Everyone has limits, and it’s natural for motivation to wane over time. When this happens, it’s crucial to examine your mindset. Being unmotivated happens to everyone; it’s an opportunity to look closely at when you need to power through and when you may need to step away to avoid burnout, overwhelm, or other health challenges. By balancing what absolutely must be done along with rest and relaxation time, you set yourself up for long term success.”

The Grind has 3 parts…

  1. Know what you want.
  2. Go after it.
  3. Don’t stop until you get it.

Where are you relative to your goal? Are you Grinding now so you will have success when it counts?  In basketball, the summer is the best time to Grind because your competition might be taking days off. They might be relaxing and thinking that since they were successful last season, they will be successful next season.

Nothing could be farther from the truth. The summer is the time when you pass your competition. You try new things. You work out and gain strength. You add skills. You take all aspects of your game to a new level.

Are you Grinding?

Mamba Mentality – a tribute to Kobe Bryant

Kobe Bryant coined the phrase, “Mamba Mentality” to describe his approach… to basketball, to competition, to life.

Mamba Mentality - tribute to Kobe BryantAs a life-long Celtics fan, it was hard for me to root for a Lakers player but you have to respect Kobe Bryant and his approach to the game of basketball. With his untimely passing, the time was right to take a look at how his mind worked and hopefully discover some of the secrets to his success.

I recently found the video below and it provides some of the best insights into how Kobe approached the game and his life. I’m not sure what else I can say except that it is well worth watching. If you want to be one of the best at something, this video will give you ideas that you can implement today. If you feel like you didn’t really know Kobe Bryant aside from his basketball career, this video provides glimpses into many other dimensions of the man.

I encourage you to watch this video and if you like it, please leave a comment below.

What did you think?
What can you learn from the Mamba Mentality?

Are you putting in the effort that is required to get what you SAY you want? Does your daily process and habits support your goals?

Do you have the Mamba Mentality? Are you serious about your game? Your life?

Inspirational Video – How hard are you working?

The inspirational video below is by ET, the hip hop preacher, and contains one of my favorite quotes…

“All men are created equal… some work harder in preseason.”
– Emmitt Smith

Check it out and see if it is as inspirational for you…

Ask yourself…

How hard are you working on the most important things in your life?

Do you have your priorities clear and in front of you at all times?

Are you willing to give up your cell phone to achieve success?

 

Game Face – Get it ON!

This blog article is dedicated to Eddie Siebert. Coach Wheeler, back when he was Player Wheeler, played with (and won championships) with him. Eddie taught me about the importance of “game face”. His famous quote, before every game, was “Get Your Game Face On!”

The video below from BasketballBrain.com is a great overview of the 3 types of approaches used by basketball players and it is worth watching.  Check it out…

The 3 types of basketball game face from the video are 1) Joyous, 2) No Expression and 3) Mean, Fierce or Angry. The video has some excellent NBA examples of each one so you can learn more about each one. The key to all of them is that they bring a focus to your game and just like you can improve your mood by physically smiling, the way you move your face can impact the way you feel and how you play the game.

Which one are you?

First, let me say that you NEED a Game Face. It is a sign to your team mates, your coach and even your opponents that you are serious about winning the game. The question is… Which game face works for you? I should also add that you may tap into different ones depending on the game situation and how you or your team is playing. Sometimes they need a “kick in the pants” and a Fierce Game Face might be needed. Or you might be getting shut down by the other team’s defense so you could break through and show some Joy (and your confidence) when you school them.

It is contagious!

Your attitude, demonstrated through your game face and how you play, is contagious and is an important way you can influence your team. Michael Jordan set a very high standard for the Bulls and they rose to the challenge. (The Washington Wizards… not so much.) What attitude are you bringing to your team? Are you making the practices more effective? Or just walking through them and not getting better? Your attitude & how you express it should help your team, not slow them down or give them reasons to doubt your commitment to winning.

Get You Game Face On!Want to learn more about Attitude?

Visit the “Attitude” page with all the articles about Attitude from the Building a Winning Mindset Blog ! It is important and there are lots of ways to look at it.

Think about it…

What kind of attitude do you want to bring to the game? How are you going to step up so you can defeat the competition? The choice is yours. Now, GO GET YOUR GAME FACE ON !