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Winners vs. Whiners: The Path through Adversity

When it comes to Adversity, are you a winner or a whiner?

Success, as we’ve been taught, doesn’t come easy. There will be Adversity. But what separates the winners from the whiners? Is it talent, luck, or some magic formula? Or is it something deeper, something engrained in the core of their being?

Let’s tap into the wisdom of Coach Michael Burt, who often says, “Everybody needs a coach in life.” Burt’s philosophy emphasizes a “whole person theory,” aiming to tap into the body, mind, heart, and spirit of each player. But what does that have to do with our topic at hand? Well, the difference between winning and whining often boils down to your overall approach to life, encompassing all these facets.

Mindset: The Starting Line

Imagine this: The game is tied, seconds are ticking away, and you have the ball. At this moment, do you see an obstacle or an opportunity? Your mindset determines your actions.

As Burt articulates, “You can’t see the picture when you’re in the frame.” Sometimes you need an external perspective to guide you, to sharpen your mindset. This is where a coach comes into play, to help you see the game from angles you can’t perceive when you’re in the heat of the moment.

Ask Yourself: How can I adjust my mindset to be more aligned with that of a winner, and who can help guide me in that transformation?

Overcoming Adversity:

The Chicago Bulls vs. The Detroit Pistons
In the late ’80s and early ’90s, the NBA witnessed one of the most bitter rivalries: the Chicago Bulls versus the Detroit Pistons, also known as the “Bad Boys.” The Pistons were known for their physicality, often pushing the rules to the limits. The Chicago Bulls, led by Michael Jordan, initially couldn’t get past this obstacle. They were stuck, they were frustrated, and they were defeated. But did they whine about it? No. They evolved.

The Bulls took their failures as a challenge. They bulked up, they practiced harder, and Michael Jordan even worked on a more physical style of play. The result? They not only defeated the Pistons but went on to dominate the NBA.

Michael Jordan said, “Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” This epitomizes the mindset of a winner.

Ask Yourself: What walls are you facing right now, and how can you overcome them instead of complaining?

Building Resilience in the Face of Adversity:
Body, Mind, Heart, and Spirit

This is where Coach Burt’s “whole person theory” becomes essential. To be resilient, to overcome, and to win, you need to be strong not just in body, but in mind, heart, and spirit.

Body: Physical preparation and conditioning.
Mind: Strategic and critical thinking.
Heart: Passion, drive, and motivation.
Spirit: Ethical grounding and a sense of purpose.

Michael Burt explains that the best competitors in the world have all these four components finely tuned. They aren’t just showing up on game day; they are preparing with a relentless focus on these four aspects.

Ask Yourself: Am I nurturing each of these areas in my life, or am I neglecting one over the others?

The Accountability Factor

Winners hold themselves accountable; whiners look for someone else to blame. If you’ve ever listened to a post-match interview of any great athlete, you’ll find them taking responsibility for their performance, good or bad.

“A good coach will make his players see what they can be rather than what they are,” Burt opines. Accountability starts with oneself but extends to the community around you—your team, your coach, your family, and your friends.

Ask Yourself: Who is holding me accountable, and more importantly, am I holding myself accountable? Am I taking Responsibility for my outcomes?

Final Word on Adversity?

The line between winning and whining is thinner than you think, but it’s a line that defines your character. It’s a line that speaks volumes about your preparation, your values, and ultimately, your success. So the next time you find yourself at a crossroads, caught between the urge to blame and the drive to overcome, remember: winners find a way; whiners find an excuse.

Ask Yourself: Which side of the line do you want to stand on?

Coach Wheeler, inspired by the philosophies of Coach Michael Burt, asks you to reflect, to challenge yourself, and to always strive for the winning side of life. Don’t let adversity get the better of you. Let it challenge you and reveal your best qualities. Because when you decide to be a winner, you’re not just affecting the score of the game; you’re defining your destiny.

Recommended Books for Further Reading on the topic of Adversity:

“Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck
A deep dive into the concept of “fixed” vs. “growth” mindsets, explaining why your outlook often determines your outcome.

“Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth
Learn why grit often predicts success more reliably than talent.

“Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable” by Tim S. Grover
Written by Michael Jordan’s personal trainer, this book explores the mentality of top performers in any field.

“The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership” by Bill Walsh
A look into the coaching philosophy of Bill Walsh, one of the most successful coaches in NFL history.

“You Win in the Locker Room First: The 7 C’s to Build a Winning Team in Business, Sports, and Life” by Jon Gordon and Mike Smith
The book explains how to build a successful team by focusing on culture and character.

“The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph” by Ryan Holiday
A modern take on Stoic philosophy that teaches how to turn obstacles into opportunities.

“Everybody Needs a Coach in Life: Isn’t It Time You Found Yours?” by Michael Burt
A comprehensive view into Coach Michael Burt’s philosophies on coaching and personal development.

“Coaching for Performance: GROWing Human Potential and Purpose” by John Whitmore
A foundational text for understanding performance coaching.

The Franchise: Building a Winner With the World Champion Detroit Pistons, Basketballs Bad Boys by Cameron Stauth
For those interested in the historic rivalry mentioned in the article.

“Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t” by Simon Sinek
This book explores how great leaders can create a circle of safety that promotes trust and meaningful work.

Mental Toughness – Responsibility v. Blame

Who is to blame when a team loses? Who is at fault? Without seeing any part of the game I can tell you that both of those questions are less important than figuring out who is responsible. So, are you going to take responsibility? Should you?

Difference between Responsibility and Fault

I just finished reading a very interesting book titled, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson and he has a chapter about the difference between Responsibility and Fault. It is a concept that I have encountered before but it is something that is not always easy to remember … or build into your everyday life.

“The responsibility/fault fallacy allows people to pass off the responsibility for solving their problems to others.”
– Mark Manson

In sports, there is always someone to blame. The key, especially for the players and the coaches, is to recognize your own responsibility because until you accept responsibility it is nearly impossible to improve. When you don’t take responsibility, you are saying that there is nothing that you can do to change your current or future situations and that is simply not true.

This concept extends far beyond the field or the court. In relationships, careers, and personal development, understanding the difference between responsibility and fault is crucial. It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming external circumstances or other people for our failures. However, embracing responsibility, even when a situation is not our fault, empowers us to take control of our reactions and our future.

Consider a business leader who faces a sudden market downturn. They could blame the economy, competitors, or myriad other factors outside their control. While these might not be their fault, the responsibility to adapt and guide the company through the storm remains squarely on their shoulders. Taking responsibility does not mean accepting blame for things out of one’s control; it means recognizing the power to respond, adapt, and grow.

In everyday life, we can practice recognizing the difference between fault and responsibility by reflecting on our reactions to challenges. Ask yourself, “Is this situation my fault? Maybe not. But what can I do to respond in a way that aligns with my goals and values?” By focusing on our ability to take charge rather than getting entangled in assigning fault, we free ourselves to learn, adapt, and thrive. It’s not just a path to personal growth; it’s a journey towards empowerment and a fulfilled life. In the words of Wayne Dyer, “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, it will not change you.” Focus on what you can change—yourself.

Blame: The Trap of Victims

Blame shifts the focus from personal control to outside forces. It’s a way of relieving ourselves of the burden of personal responsibility but at the cost of losing control over our own lives. Blame can hinder growth, trapping us in a cycle of victimhood. When we engage in blame, we relinquish our power to change our situation, handing it over to circumstances or others.

However, blame is not inherently bad. In some situations, recognizing external factors can be part of the healing process. But lingering in blame can create a mindset where progress is stunted, and opportunities are missed. The difference lies in whether blame is used as a stepping stone to understanding or as a barrier to personal growth.

A Story of Redemption: Consider the example of Malala Yousafzai. After surviving an assassination attempt by the Taliban for advocating for girls’ education, she could have blamed her circumstances, her country, or the political climate. Instead, she took responsibility for her mission, turning her experience into a platform for global education advocacy. Rather than falling into victimhood, she used her circumstances to fuel a movement that changed the lives of millions of girls worldwide. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of responsibility over blame.

John C. Maxwell’s words ring true in Malala’s story and many others: “A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.” Blame might provide a temporary salve for our ego, but taking responsibility can turn a moment of weakness into a lifetime of strength and purpose.

Embracing responsibility over blame is a choice with profound implications. It’s not just a path to personal growth; it’s a journey towards empowerment, fulfillment, and true leadership. In the words of Viktor Frankl, a survivor of the Holocaust, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” How will you respond to that challenge today? The road to empowerment awaits.

No Decision is still a decision

Even if you do nothing, you are still making a decision. You have decided to do nothing and let the situation continue in whatever direction it might go. As we know, small problems grow into big problems, so doing nothing is rarely a good choice… but it is always your choice (even if you don’t believe it).

The paradox of inaction can be both comforting and alarming. On one hand, it emphasizes the control and autonomy you have in every situation. On the other, it reminds you that passivity is not a refuge but a choice with its consequences. This realization should not breed fear but inspire mindfulness in our decisions, whether active or passive.

In many ways, the decision to do nothing is a missed opportunity. It’s the road not taken, the chance not seized, the potential not realized. It can often be the product of fear, uncertainty, or a sense of inadequacy. But as author and motivational speaker Tony Robbins once said, “The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment.” Imagine the possibilities that open up when you decide to take control and make deliberate choices.

Sometimes, the most potent action starts with the decision not to accept the status quo. If you find yourself inclined to do nothing, ask yourself: What is holding me back? What do I fear? What opportunities might I discover by choosing to act? Remember, every step forward begins with the decision to move, to change, to grow.

Consider a real-life example: Rosa Parks’ refusal to give up her seat on a bus was, in a sense, a decision to do nothing—to not comply with an unjust system. Yet that simple act of “doing nothing” became a catalyst for a movement that transformed a nation. Your choices, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, carry the potential to make waves.

No decision is void of consequence. The choices we make—or don’t make—shape our lives, our communities, and our world. Embrace the power and responsibility of choice. Whether to act or not to act is indeed a significant decision, one that requires courage, reflection, and wisdom. As you move forward, remember the words of Mahatma Gandhi: “The future depends on what you do today.” So what will you choose to do, or not do, today?

Even if you do nothing, you are still making a decision. You have decided to do nothing and let the situation continue in whatever direction it might go. As we know, small problems grow into big problems so doing nothing is rarely a good choice… but it is always your choice (even if you don’t believe it).

The Choice is yours.

The Power of Response-ability

Response-ability, as Coach Wheeler defines it, is the ability to choose how you respond to any given situation. This is very different from the experience of life where everything happens TO YOU. Take control of your life…

Response-Ability:
Choosing How to Respond

Life’s unpredictability means we are continually faced with situations that test our resilience, patience, and wisdom. How we respond to these challenges can define not only our character but also our growth as individuals. This power to choose our reaction has been coined as “response-ability,” a central aspect of responsibility. This concept, which is part of Coach Wheeler’s Roots of Success diagram, opens a new dimension in understanding personal development, mindfulness, empathy, and wisdom.

The Power of Choice

One of the most empowering realizations we can have as human beings is recognizing that we have control over our responses. While we may not control the events that happen to us, we absolutely control how we react to them.

Victor Frankl, a psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, famously said, “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

The notion of “response-ability” is about embracing this space and choosing our reactions consciously and deliberately.

Embracing Mindfulness

Mindfulness involves being present in the moment, fully engaged with our current experience without judgment. By practicing mindfulness, we become more attuned to our thoughts, feelings, and reactions. This awareness enables us to respond to life’s challenges with clarity and wisdom rather than reacting impulsively.

Mindfulness helps us slow down and consider the best course of action, cultivating a deeper sense of “response-ability.” It’s not just about reacting; it’s about choosing the reaction that aligns with our values, goals, and principles.

Developing Mindfulness

One powerful way to develop mindfulness is through the practice of meditation. Meditation is a mental exercise that encourages focusing attention on a particular object, thought, or activity. It trains the mind to become aware of the present moment, acknowledging and accepting feelings and thoughts without judgment. By spending time each day in meditation, we cultivate a more mindful approach to life, enhancing our ability to consciously choose our responses.

Starting a meditation practice might seem daunting, but it can be as simple as finding a quiet space and dedicating a few minutes each day to focused breathing. Begin by sitting comfortably, closing your eyes, and paying attention to your breath. Notice the sensation of the breath as it enters and leaves your body. If your mind wanders, gently bring your focus back to the breath. The important part of this is not to keep your mind from wandering, it’s going to happen, but rather to recognize when your attention waivers and be able to bring your attention back to where you want it. Over time, this practice will strengthen your mindfulness muscles, empowering you to approach life with greater intentionality and “response-ability.”

The regular practice of meditation not only fosters mindfulness but also lays the foundation for building empathy. By tuning into our own experiences and emotions, we become more capable of understanding and connecting with the feelings of others. This enhanced emotional connection sets the stage for the next section, Building Empathy, where we will explore how mindfulness and empathy together contribute to the ability to choose how we respond.

Building Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Integrating empathy into our response-ability means not only reacting to our circumstances but also considering how our actions and reactions might impact others.

This broader perspective fosters compassion, kindness, and understanding. It enriches our relationships and enables us to navigate conflicts and challenges with grace.

Cultivating Wisdom

Wisdom is the ability to think and act using knowledge, experience, understanding, and insight. By exercising response-ability, we tap into our wisdom to evaluate situations from various angles, seeking the best possible course of action.

Wisdom, combined with response-ability, leads to decisions that are not only beneficial for us but also for those around us. It transforms challenges into learning opportunities.

Real-Life Applications

The concept of response-ability can be applied in various aspects of life:

In Relationships: Choosing how to respond to conflicts, misunderstandings, or differences of opinion can make or break relationships. Emphasizing empathy, mindfulness, and wisdom can lead to more profound connections and mutual respect.

In the Workplace: Responding to work-related stresses, deadlines, and interpersonal dynamics with mindfulness and wisdom enhances productivity and fosters a positive work environment.

In Personal Development: Cultivating response-ability is a journey towards self-awareness, self-control, and personal growth. It aids in setting and achieving goals aligned with our core values.

In Sports: Athletes and coaches alike must choose how to respond to victories, defeats, injuries, or game-changing moments. Practicing response-ability in sports fosters resilience, teamwork, and a growth mindset. It enables individuals and teams to focus on what can be controlled and to approach challenges with a strategic and positive perspective.

What’s the real POWER of Response-ability?

Response-ability is not merely a play on words; it’s a profound realization that we have the power to choose how we respond to life’s myriad challenges. By embracing this concept, we begin to approach life with mindfulness, empathy, and wisdom, shaping our character, nurturing growth, and transforming our entire approach to life.

“I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.”
Stephen R. Covey

Response-ability puts us in the driver’s seat, allowing us to navigate life’s twists and turns with intention, integrity, and insight. It’s a transformative concept that encourages us to live more conscious, compassionate, and purpose-driven lives.

By understanding and practicing response-ability, we are not just reacting to life; we are actively shaping it, turning challenges into opportunities for growth, and deepening our connection with ourselves and others.

Are you ready to take control of your responses and embark on this empowering journey? The choice is yours, and the path towards a more mindful, empathetic, and wise life awaits.

What’s Next?

If you found this article helpful or if it inspired you to do something, you may be interested in the next article in this series. Be sure to follow Coach Wheeler on Facebook so that you will be notified when the next post drops!

SEEz Opportunity Stories

These three “opportunity stories” about Airbnb, JK Rowling and Stephen Curry demonstrate what it means to SEEz Oppty.

Story of Brian Chesky and Airbnb….

Brian Chesky created his own inspirational “opportunity story”

In the mid-2000s, a young man named Brian Chesky was struggling to pay his rent. He was living in San Francisco, trying to make ends meet while pursuing a dream of starting his own business.

One day, as he was brainstorming for ideas to make some extra money, he noticed that all the city’s hotel rooms were booked because of a design conference. An idea sparked in his mind – what if he could rent out space in his apartment to those who couldn’t find a hotel room?

This idea was the genesis of Airbnb, the online marketplace for lodging that has since become a multi-billion dollar company. Chesky’s story demonstrates all the key points in the concept of “Seez Opportunities”.

Vision to Opportunity…

The first key point was about understanding what kind of opportunities you’re looking for. In Chesky’s case, he was looking for a way to make money, specifically a business idea. He already had a goal in mind, which was to start a successful business.

Hidden opportunities…

The second key point was about challenging your own perceptions to uncover hidden opportunities. Chesky could have dismissed the idea of inviting strangers to stay in his apartment as crazy or risky. But he didn’t. Instead, he saw the potential value in providing a more personal, less expensive lodging option for travelers. This change in perspective is what allowed him to identify the opportunity that others missed.

Tool for spotting opportunities…

The third key point was about leveraging your brain’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) to spot opportunities. The RAS is the part of our brain that helps us filter out unnecessary information and focus on what’s important. By setting a clear goal of finding a business idea, Chesky’s RAS was primed to spot relevant opportunities – like the problem of unavailable hotel rooms during conferences.

Taking Action…

The fourth key point was about taking action on the opportunities you find. Once Chesky identified the opportunity, he didn’t hesitate to act on it. He and his roommate, Joe Gebbia, bought a few airbeds and created a simple website to advertise their “air bed and breakfast”. The idea took off, and they quickly expanded it into a platform where anyone could rent out their extra space.

The opportunity in continuous improvement…

The final key point was about reflecting on your actions and adjusting your approach based on the results. After launching Airbnb, Chesky and his team faced numerous challenges. They made several mistakes, but each time, they learned from their errors and adjusted their approach. They continuously improved their platform based on feedback from users, and this commitment to learning and adapting is a big part of what made Airbnb successful.

Brian Chesky’s “opportunity story” is a testament to the power of seeing and seizing opportunities. From spotting the initial opportunity to adapting his approach over time, he demonstrated all the key steps in the process. And his success with Airbnb shows just how transformative this skill can be. Whether you’re looking for a business idea, a career move, or a personal growth opportunity, the ability to “Seez Opportunities” can open up a world of possibilities.

J.K. Rowling: A Journey from Adversity to Opportunity

The backstory for J.K. Rowling, author of the Harry Potter series, is an incredible “Opportunity Story”

In the annals of literary history, few names shine as brightly as J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series. Her journey from hardship to extraordinary success is an inspiring testament to spotting and seizing opportunities.

The Struggle…

Before she became a household name, Rowling was a single mother struggling to make ends meet. She was jobless and living in Edinburgh, Scotland, going through a challenging phase that she described as being “as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless.”

Focus First…

Defining her focus was the first step in Rowling’s journey. She had always loved writing, with countless stories penned from a young age. The idea of a young wizard named Harry Potter came to her during a delayed train journey. Despite her personal difficulties, she recognized this as an opportunity to create a unique world of magic and wonder.

SEE what’s possible…

Next, Rowling demonstrated the importance of broadening one’s perception. Given her challenging situation, writing a novel might have seemed like a daunting task. Yet, she saw it as a path to change her life. She started writing the Harry Potter series in cafes while her baby daughter slept next to her, seizing every moment to create.

Rowling’s Reticular Activating System (RAS) was at work here. By focusing on her goal of completing the novel, she was able to spot opportunities in her day-to-day life to write, even when her situation was far from ideal.

Rejection after rejection…

After finishing her manuscript, she faced numerous rejections from publishers. However, Rowling seized the opportunity to learn from these rejections. She persevered, believing in her story and characters, demonstrating the ability to reflect and adapt in the face of adversity.

The opportunity she was looking for finally arrived when Bloomsbury Publishing decided to publish her book, primarily persuaded by the CEO’s eight-year-old daughter who loved the first chapter. It wasn’t an instant hit, but the opportunity had been seized, and the stone set in motion.

Opportunity in the US…

The real breakthrough came when Scholastic Inc. won the auction for the rights to publish the book in the US, giving her much-needed financial relief and international exposure. As she saw the opportunity unfold, she capitalized on it, working tirelessly on the rest of the series.

J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter series became a worldwide phenomenon, inspiring millions of readers and leading to a multi-billion-dollar franchise, including films, merchandise, and theme parks. What started as an idea on a delayed train journey, spotted and seized by a single mother during the toughest time of her life, became one of the most influential series in modern literature.

The Journey…

Rowling’s journey demonstrates the power of seeing and seizing opportunities. From identifying her passion for writing, to persisting despite rejections, her story reminds us that opportunities can come from the most unexpected places. It takes a clear vision, broad perception, resilience, and the courage to take action when the chance appears. It is a true “opportunity story”!

Rowling once said, “Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” Her journey from rock bottom to the heights of literary success is an inspiring real-life example of seeing and seizing opportunities, providing invaluable lessons that we can all learn from.

The Inspiring “Opportunity Story” of Stephen Curry

May 10, 2023; San Francisco, California, USA; Golden State Warriors guard Stephen Curry (30) shoots the basketball against the Los Angeles Lakers during the third quarter in game five of the 2023 NBA playoffs conference semifinals round at Chase Center. Mandatory Credit: Kyle Terada-USA TODAY Sports

Stephen Curry is an exceptional figure in the world of sports. He’s a two-time NBA MVP and a three-time NBA champion. Yet, his rise to stardom wasn’t straightforward. His journey perfectly encapsulates the process of spotting and seizing opportunities, which has led to his extraordinary achievements.

Growing up…

Growing up, Curry was not considered the typical basketball prodigy. He was overlooked due to his smaller size and lean build, attributes that defied the conventional idea of a basketball star. However, instead of being disheartened, Curry saw this as an opportunity to redefine expectations and focused on developing his unique style of play.

Curry’s interest was clear; he wanted to excel in basketball. His goal was to play at a high collegiate level, aiming for Division I schools, but none of the top schools recruited him. Here, he utilized the concept of Reticular Activating System (RAS). He was determined to find an opportunity, he kept his focus on his goal, and in return, his brain helped him spot potential avenues.

Rejection…

Despite the rejection from top Division I schools, he didn’t let this hinder his vision. Instead, he broadened his perception. He accepted a scholarship offer from Davidson College, a lesser-known Division I school. This move was an excellent example of challenging the traditional route and considering less obvious paths to achieve his goals.

Once at Davidson, Curry’s game flourished. He was now seeing opportunities every day and seizing them. He became one of the nation’s leading scorers and led the Wildcats on an unexpected tournament run. His performance during the 2008 NCAA Tournament, where he led Davidson to the Elite 8, was a prime example of seizing an opportunity to showcase his talent on a national stage.

Doubted …

Even with his successful college career, when the 2009 NBA Draft came, Curry wasn’t a top pick. He was selected as the seventh pick by the Golden State Warriors, a team that had been struggling for years. Many doubted his ability to perform at an elite NBA level, but Curry saw it as an opportunity.

Once in the NBA, Curry began to revolutionize the game with his extraordinary shooting and handling skills. He, along with his team, transformed the Golden State Warriors from underdogs to champions. Curry’s ability to see this opportunity, despite the odds, resulted in an unparalleled career and a transformed NBA team.

Opportunites for Growth…

Curry continually reassesses his game, reflecting on his performance and adapting his strategies. He has grown from being an excellent shooter to a versatile player who can also assist, rebound, and defend, showing his commitment to evolution and improvement.

His journey to becoming one of the greatest shooters in NBA history is a testament to the power of spotting and seizing opportunities. Curry’s story teaches us that opportunities may not always come in the shape and size we expect. It’s about adjusting our lens to spot them, having the courage to seize them, and the determination to use them to the best of our abilities.

Indeed, the “opportunity story” of Stephen Curry is a perfect real-life example of the “Seez Opportunities” mantra. It shows that opportunities are always around us – we just need to know how to identify and seize them. It’s a lesson not only applicable in sports but also in every facet of our lives.

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Hustling like a Winner

It’s been said before, but, in the foundations of winning, Hustling is a key cornerstone. As often observed in sports, business, or any area demanding relentless competitiveness, it’s the quintessential difference-maker—the trait that often sets the exceptional apart from the ordinary. It’s a defining superpower, a competitive tool, a unique differentiator, and a core component of any winning strategy.

The Decision that leads to Hustling

Geno Auriemma, the esteemed coach of the UConn women’s basketball team, insists that “Attitude is a choice.” So too, is the decision to hustle. Hustle isn’t merely about raw effort. It’s strategic and purposeful. Like Auriemma’s squads meticulously dissecting their opponents on the court, you, in life and business, have to understand your competition and the dynamics of your playing field. Hustling is about reading the game, anticipating the next moves, and responding with unmatched swiftness and decisiveness.

But hustle doesn’t mean being reckless. It’s rapid, yes, but it’s also calculated. It’s about making your presence felt, creating opportunities, and seizing control. A true hustler is a disruptor, altering the course of the game.

Hustling as a Strategy

Hustle isn’t a standalone trait; it’s intrinsically woven into the fabric of a winning strategy. John Wooden, the Wizard of Westwood, was known to say, “Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.” When the talent on the court is well-matched, the team that hustles—that gives a little more, fights a little harder—often tips the balance in their favor.

Your strategic hustle involves determination, resilience, and an unyielding will to win. It means running for every loose ball as if your life depends on it. Because, metaphorically, it does. Your future, your success, your victory—they all hang in the balance.

Differentiation Through Hustle

In a world where everyone is working towards achieving greatness, hustle is what sets you apart. It’s the mark of your identity, an unwavering testament to your determination and grit. Your relentless pursuit of your goals underscores your hustle, making you stand out from the crowd. When the going gets tough, your hustle will carry you through.

In the words of Croix Sather, the “Marathon Man” of motivation and peak performance, “If you don’t challenge yourself, you will never realize what you can become.” Hustle is your challenge to yourself, an unspoken pledge to push your limits.

Building Your Hustle Muscle

There will be days when your spirit will flag and your motivation will hit rock bottom. On such days, recalling the wisdom of Jim Rohn, the motivational speaker who said, “Either you run the day or the day runs you,” can be particularly useful. Rohn understood that developing your hustle muscle might not be straightforward, but it’s essential.

Start with small steps, maintain consistency, and soon, your hustle muscle will become stronger. If you stumble, learn to pick yourself up and get back in the game. Resilience is the true essence of hustle.

Tony Robbins, the renowned life coach, often reminds us that “The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.” Similarly, you can’t build your hustle muscle if you never start. So, kickstart your journey, however daunting it might seem, and let your hustle guide you.

Spreading the Hustle

In any team or organization, fostering a culture of hustle can turbocharge the path to success. As a leader, your hustle should inspire your teammates. Let them witness your drive, your passion, your unrelenting pursuit of your goals. Set an example; become the embodiment of hustle.

Just as Coach K did at Duke, Dean Smith did at North Carolina, and John Wooden did at UCLA, be the kind of coach who encourages, uplifts, and instills the power of hustle in your team. Remember, hustle is contagious. Encourage it, and it will spread like wildfire.

In conclusion, the power of hustling is undeniable. It is a superpower, a beacon guiding you to victory. It’s a competitive tool, a key strategy, and a unique differentiator. So, embrace the grind, let your hustle roar, and watch as it carves the path to your success. The wisdom of these coaching legends, motivational speakers, and high-performance experts reinforces one undeniable truth: Winning isn’t merely given—it’s earned, and hustling is integral to that journey.

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Here are some additional places that you can get valuable information. Most are links to books on Amazon.com (and you can help us out if you purchase through the links, at no cost to you).

“Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court” by John Wooden

A rich account of Coach Wooden’s life principles, lessons learned from basketball, and the philosophy behind his coaching success, this book delves deep into Wooden’s ideas of success, teamwork, and hustle.

“Geno: In Pursuit of Perfection” by Geno Auriemma

This autobiography of Coach Geno Auriemma details his journey to becoming one of the most successful coaches in women’s college basketball history. His relentless hustle, resilience, and pursuit of perfection are recurring themes.

“Leading with the Heart: Coach K’s Successful Strategies for Basketball, Business, and Life” by Mike Krzyzewski

Coach K shares insights into his leadership style, team-building techniques, and the role of hustle in his coaching approach, making this book a must-read for anyone seeking to understand the power of hustle.

“A Coach’s Life: My 40 Years in College Basketball” by Dean Smith

Smith shares his experiences from his coaching career, including how he fostered a culture of hustle in his teams. His perspective on the role of hard work in success is enlightening.

“Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins

Robbins shares his insights on how to master your emotions, body, relationships, finances, and life. His concepts on taking massive action and unleashing your power—essentially, hustling—resonate with the theme of our chapter.

“The Art of Exceptional Living” by Jim Rohn

Rohn presents his philosophy on life, success, and personal development. His ideas on taking control of your day, managing your time effectively, and consistently pushing your limits align closely with our exploration of hustle.

“Dream Big Act Big: Breakthrough and Unleash the SUPERSTAR Within You (“Run Across America” Special Edition)” by Croix Sather

In his book, Sather shares what it took for him to decide (and run) an ultra-marathon across America. His emphasis on challenging oneself and pushing one’s limits ties in perfectly with our discourse on hustle.

“The Talent Code: Greatness Isn’t Born. It’s Grown. Here’s How.” by Daniel Coyle

Coyle explores how talent is developed through a combination of deep practice, ignition, and master coaching. His discussion of hustle as a tool for developing talent offers valuable insights.

“Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable” by Tim S. Grover

As the trainer for athletes like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, Grover shares his philosophy on mental toughness, tenacity, and the relentless hustle required to achieve greatness.

“Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth

Duckworth delves into the concept of “grit,” a blend of passion and persistence that drives high achievers. Her insights on the role of nonstop effort and resilience in long-term success make this book an excellent companion to our chapter on hustle.

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Perception is Reality:

Perception is reality – this three-word phrase carries profound significance. It is the lens through which we view our world, shaping our understanding of ourselves, the people around us, and society at large. It is not just a point of view, but a fundamental truth that influences our actions, reactions, and ultimately, our results. As we embark on the journey to winning, we must first triumph over the battleground of perception.

Winning the Inner Game

This chapter explores the three pillars of perception – Perception of others in our life, Perception of you as created within society/social media, and Perception of self. We’ll learn from the wisdom of thought leaders like Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, Jordan Peterson, Geno Auriemma, Abraham Lincoln, Barack Obama, and John Wooden, drawing upon their writings and speeches to enlighten our understanding.

The Power of Your Tribe:
Perception of Others in Your Life

In the quest for winning, the role of those around us cannot be overstated. As the legendary Jim Rohn observed, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This reality showcases the transformative power of our immediate social circle – their perceptions can significantly shape our personal reality. It’s a phenomenon of social mirroring, wherein we unconsciously adopt the attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors of those closest to us.

The charismatic life coach Tony Robbins emphasizes the connection between the quality of our lives and the expectations of our peer group. We are deeply influenced, consciously and unconsciously, by their perceptions and expectations.

So, how can we leverage this reality? Be intentional about the company you keep. Seek out those who inspire you, who push you to grow. Yet, maintain your uniqueness. Absorb the positive, let the negative flow past. Remember, you are not merely a reflection of others’ perceptions – you are the artist of your own reality.

The Digital Persona:
Perception of You Created Within Society/Social Media

As we navigate the digital age, the perception of us within society and on social media has taken on a new dimension. It’s an arena where perception can often eclipse reality. This phenomenon reminds us of the wisdom imparted by John Wooden, the exceptional basketball coach, who said, “Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.”

Today, our society shapes a narrative, a brand of ‘you.’ Social media platforms magnify this perception, often blurring the lines between reality and illusion. Robbins suggests, “It’s not about the goal. It’s about growing to become the person that can accomplish that goal.” Society and social media can either facilitate or hinder this growth.

How can we navigate this new digital reality? Remember, you are more than your online persona. Authenticity resonates. Stand for your values, share not just your triumphs but also your trials. Use these platforms to inspire, to learn, and to narrate your own unique journey. You are the author of your story, society, and social media are just the platforms.

The Inner Self:
Perception of Who You Are

What do you see when you look in the mirror every morning?

Jordan Peterson, a noted psychologist, preaches the importance of putting your house in order before criticizing the world. This advice extends to our perception as well. Our self-perception lays the foundation of our reality. It’s the prism through which we view and interpret the world.

However, we often fall into the trap of becoming our own harshest critics. This skewed self-perception can create a harsher reality than what truly exists. Geno Auriemma, a renowned basketball coach, aptly said, “What you permit, you promote. What you allow, you encourage.” If we permit a distorted self-perception, we promote a distorted reality.

How can we adjust this perception? Robbins proposes changing our strategy. Understand that you are a work in progress. Recognize your flaws, but celebrate your strengths. Own your mistakes, but also revel in your victories. The pursuit is not for perfection but for progression. By embracing our complexities, we start altering the perception of self.

Overcoming Frustration

Overcome your frustration by changing your perception of reality

Embarking on the journey of changing perception isn’t easy. It’s fraught with frustrations and obstacles. But as Robbins advises, “Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions.” Frustrations are not walls, they are mirrors. They reflect what we need to understand about our perceptions and ourselves.

John Wooden’s philosophy adds a powerful perspective to dealing with frustrations – “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” When faced with frustration, focus on your strengths and abilities. Transform frustrations into growth opportunities.

Barack Obama’s wisdom fits here beautifully. He once said, “Change is never easy, but always possible.” Changing perceptions is no different. It’s a journey filled with challenges, but the destination makes the journey worthwhile.

Abraham Lincoln’s statement provides another layer of insight. He said, “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” We can apply this to our perceptions. We can shape our future by consciously molding our perceptions today.

Wrap UP

Pick the facts you want and reinforce them in everything you do

“Perception is reality.” This powerful statement carries immense implications for our journey towards winning. However, perception is not fixed. Like a river, it is fluid, adapting and evolving with time. It is influenced by our experiences and in turn, influences our reality.

Navigating the journey of perception may seem like traversing a complex maze, but it is through this maze that we come to understand ourselves and our world. Every twist, every turn, every dead-end, and every clear path offers lessons for growth.

Embark on this journey with courage, patience, and resilience. For it is through understanding and molding our perceptions that we earn our victories, not just in the world outside, but most importantly, in the battleground within. In the end, perception isn’t just reality, it’s the foundation upon which our winning is built and ultimately, earned.

What is your experience?
Please share in the comments!

Please leave a comment below and let us know your experiences with the “Perception is Reality” concept in your life, good or bad. It will make our website more interesting and we would really appreciate it!

Additional Resources related to
“Perception is Reality”….

Tony Robbins’ “Awaken the Giant Within“ – This book delves deep into the concept of personal perception and provides actionable steps on how to harness and change our perceptions. You can look for it on Amazon or other book-selling platforms.

Jordan Peterson’s “12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos” – Peterson explores the importance of self-perception and self-improvement. This book can be found on multiple platforms like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, etc. [The hardcover version is, at the time of this writing, selling for less than $15 on Amazon.com.]

Jim Rohn‘s “7 Strategies for Wealth & Happiness” – This book presents strategies on how to better navigate the influence of others’ perceptions in your life.

John Wooden‘s “Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court” – This book provides insights into how society’s perception of an individual can influence their actions.

The Obama White House Archives – On this website, you can find many speeches where Barack Obama discusses change and overcoming adversity.

Geno Auriemma’s Interviews and Speeches – Auriemma often speaks about self-perception and leadership in sports. His interviews and speeches can be found on various sports news websites and video-sharing platforms like YouTube.

Lincoln’s Letters and Speeches – Abraham Lincoln’s letters and speeches are insightful, many of which discuss the power of self-creation and shaping one’s future. These can be found on academic databases or dedicated historical sites.

Other points of view:

“Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain – This book provides a contrasting view on how perception is influenced by introverted versus extroverted personality traits.

“The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains” by Nicholas Carr – This book discusses the impact of the internet (including social media) on our minds, offering a different perspective on the influence of digital platforms on our self-perception and reality.

the “Myth” of Talent

I dislike the whole concept of “talent”. It assumes that some people have it and others do not. I believe that everyone is different and, for some people, “talent” may be buried or unseen for years or decades. Skill, on the other hand, is something that is always available for improvement. It is easy to see where you stand in terms of specific skills. On the other hand, the amount of “talent”, or even “potential talent” you have is difficult to determine precisely.

The fixed vs. growth mindset
Let’s start by saying that I am a firm believer in the growth mindset. Psychologist Carol Dweck wrote a book that said individuals can possess either a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. Those with a fixed mindset believe that abilities are inherent, fixed traits that cannot be significantly developed. On the other hand, individuals with a growth mindset understand skills and abilities can be cultivated. You can grow your abilities through dedication, effort, and learning.

This mindset dichotomy has far-reaching implications for the perception of talent. Some argue that talent is an innate, predetermined quality that sets individuals apart. The concept of a growth mindset challenges this notion. By emphasizing the importance of continuous learning, practice, and resilience you can develop your skills to their full potential. By accepting a growth mindset, individuals can tap into their capacity for growth. This can unlock your true potential, blurring the lines between talent and skill.

The Skill Stack:

In the ongoing debate between skill and talent, one concept that challenges the conventional understanding is the “skill stack.” This is a term coined by the renowned cartoonist and author Scott Adams. The skill stack refers to the combination of various skills that an individual possesses. Rather than focusing solely on innate talent or singular expertise, the skill stack emphasizes the value of acquiring a diverse range of skills and leveraging them in unique ways.

According to Adams, the skill stack is like building a personal inventory of abilities that, when combined, create a unique advantage in the professional world. By developing a collection of skills, even if they are not individually exceptional, individuals can create a distinctive skill set that sets them apart from others. It’s a concept that challenges the notion that talent alone determines success and highlights the power of deliberate skill acquisition.

The skill stack approach opens up opportunities for individuals who may not possess a specific talent but are willing to invest time and effort into developing multiple complementary skills. Rather than relying on a single outstanding ability, individuals can tap into the potential of their skill stack, combining their strengths to tackle complex problems and adapt to changing environments. This perspective challenges the traditional belief that success is predetermined by talent, suggesting that the path to success lies in intentionally cultivating and combining a broad range of skills.

By embracing the skill stack mindset, individuals can actively pursue learning and acquiring new skills, constantly expanding their repertoire. This approach allows for continuous growth and adaptability, enabling individuals to navigate diverse challenges and seize opportunities in an ever-changing world. The skill stack concept shifts the focus from fixed abilities to the development of a versatile skill set, ultimately empowering individuals to create their own unique paths to success.

Talent is just the most visible part of your skill stack. It’s what is on top of the stack. It does not mean that you don’t have other, perhaps even more impressive, “talents” or undeveloped skills. It is just visible… now.

Talent is what you make of it
How old was Michael Jordan when he first dunked in a game? (see the video below) What if he never practiced after the first time? Would he have made it to the NBA? Would he win 6 NBA championships? Probably not.

You may see a glimpse of your talent early in your life. However, if it is not developed through hard work, learning your craft and attention to details, you will never achieve your highest potential.

In summary, the skill stack mentality challenges the myth of talent. By highlighting the acquisition and combination of diverse skills, you will be able to achieve your highest potential. Success is not solely determined by the abilities you were born with but rather by the deliberate cultivation of a varied skill set. By embracing the skill stack mentality approach, you can unlock your full potential, adapt to new circumstances, and carve out your own path to success in a dynamic and competitive world.

Mamba Mentality – a tribute to Kobe Bryant

Kobe Bryant coined the phrase, “Mamba Mentality” to describe his approach… to basketball, to competition, to life.

As a life-long Celtics fan, it was hard for me to root for a Lakers player but you have to respect Kobe Bryant and his approach to the game of basketball. With his untimely passing, the time was right to take a look at how his mind worked and hopefully discover some of the secrets to his success.

I recently found the video below and it provides some of the best insights into how Kobe approached the game and his life. I’m not sure what else I can say except that it is well worth watching. If you want to be one of the best at something, this video will give you ideas that you can implement today. If you feel like you didn’t really know Kobe Bryant aside from his basketball career, this video provides glimpses into many other dimensions of the man.

I encourage you to watch this video and if you like it, please leave a comment below.

What did you think?
What can you learn from the Mamba Mentality?

Are you putting in the effort that is required to get what you SAY you want? Does your daily process and habits support your goals?

Do you have the Mamba Mentality? Are you serious about your game? Your life?

Game Face – Get it ON!

This blog article is dedicated to Eddie Siebert. Coach Wheeler, back when he was Player Wheeler, played with (and won championships) with him. Eddie taught me about the importance of “game face”. His famous quote, before every game, was “Get Your Game Face On!”

The video below from BasketballBrain.com is a great overview of the 3 types of approaches used by basketball players and it is worth watching. Check it out…

The 3 types of basketball game face from the video are 1) Joyous, 2) No Expression and 3) Mean, Fierce or Angry. The video has some excellent NBA examples of each one so you can learn more about each one. The key to all of them is that they bring a focus to your game and just like you can improve your mood by physically smiling, the way you move your face can impact the way you feel and how you play the game.

Which one are you?

First, let me say that you NEED a Game Face. It is a sign to your team mates, your coach and even your opponents that you are serious about winning the game. The question is… Which game face works for you? I should also add that you may tap into different ones depending on the game situation and how you or your team is playing. Sometimes they need a “kick in the pants” and a Fierce Game Face might be needed. Or you might be getting shut down by the other team’s defense so you could break through and show some Joy (and your confidence) when you school them.

It is contagious!

Your attitude, demonstrated through your game face and how you play, is contagious and is an important way you can influence your team. Michael Jordan set a very high standard for the Bulls and they rose to the challenge. (The Washington Wizards… not so much.) What attitude are you bringing to your team? Are you making the practices more effective? Or just walking through them and not getting better? Your attitude & how you express it should help your team, not slow them down or give them reasons to doubt your commitment to winning.

Want to learn more about Attitude?

Visit the “Attitude” page with all the articles about Attitude from the Building a Winning Mindset Blog ! It is important and there are lots of ways to look at it.

Think about it…

What kind of attitude do you want to bring to the game? How are you going to step up so you can defeat the competition? The choice is yours. Now, GO GET YOUR GAME FACE ON !

Intensity Wins

This past week, I witnessed an interesting example of how “Intensity wins basketball games”. Before I tell you that story, let me explain what I mean by “Intensity” as it relates to athletic competition.

Focus + Energy = Intensity

I know you have seen it in games. One team or maybe just a few players on a team want to win more than the other team. They are more “dialed in” on what they need to do as well as what the other team is giving them. These teams have more energy and they get to the loose ball more often than the other team. They are focused. Nothing distracts them when their opponent applies pressure. They execute their game plan and adjust to situations as they come up. They are intent on winning. I have yet to see a team lose that maintains their level of concentration and engages with energy.

Are some times when teams overmatched and have little chance to win? Yes … but they are usually overmatched in how intense they are playing as well.

Where does Intensity come from?

As a coach, how can you improve the intensity that your team brings to the floor? It’s a deep subject but let me say this, “The ability to play with intensity is a skill that is built in the unseen hours of practice and the off-season.” Intensity, while a skill that can be improved, is also a form of character. Players with intensity have enough ego to believe they can win and the will or determination to make it happen. It is rarely something that happens by accident.

I hope you have a sense of what I mean. I may write more about it in the future because I feel it is a topic that is often overlooked yet is critical to a winning mindset. If you want to discuss it further, send me a note via the Coach Wheeler Contact Page or leave a comment below this post.

Back to this week’s game…

The teams were evenly matched with similar records. Physically they were very similar as well. The difference in the intensity that one team brought to the contest showed up early in the first half. They raced out to a good lead. Double digits at times.

The other team mustered a bit of competitive energy and fought back to within 6 points or so. The first team did not lose their intensity and rebuilt their lead. As the game winded down, with less and less time remaining, something interesting happened.

Intense Patience

The team with the lead applied their intensity toward being patient and getting the best shot they could. In this state there is no shot clock so they were able to extend their possession time which reduced the chances for a comeback by the other team.

There were a few sparks of intense effort from a couple players on the other team but there were other players who had clearly given up. In a team sport like basketball, if someone gives up it is very difficult for a team to function at a high level.

It was such a clear demonstration of how intensity wins basketball games that I had to pass along the story to you. Do you have examples of how your team’s intensity helped you win? Or the opposite? How do you channel your teams energy into an intense focus on the game and not on distractions? I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!