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Personal Mind Control

Let’s talk about Mind Control… specifically who controls your mind.

Because If You Don’t Have Control of your Mind, Someone Else Will

Personal Mind Control ... why you need to take control starting right now.

What if I told you your greatest battlefield isn’t out there in the world… but inside your own head?
What if the most important fight for your future isn’t with the economy, or your job, or even your relationships…
but with the thoughts you allow to set up camp in your mind?

Because here’s the truth:
If you don’t control your mind, someone else will.
And you can be sure—it won’t be in your favor.

How Does It Happen?

It’s subtle. Almost invisible. Like water shaping a stone drop by drop.

One suggestion here. One fear planted there. One “just trying to help” from someone who loves you… but never broke out of their own cage.

And before you know it, you’re living out a script that isn’t yours. A play written by someone else.
Parents. Teachers. Friends. Advertisers. Politicians. Even social media algorithms.

Not all of it is malicious. Most of it isn’t.

In fact, many of the people influencing your thoughts and decisions genuinely believe they’re helping you.
But even the most well-intentioned guidance can become a prison if it’s based on fear, limitation, or outdated beliefs.

Let’s look closer.

Your Parents Loved You …
. . . But They Weren’t Perfect

Nobody walks away from childhood without a few scars.

Even in the best homes—full of love, structure, and support—parents still pass along stories.
Stories that were passed to them, and to their parents before that.

“People like us don’t do things like that.”
“Money is hard to come by.”
“It’s better to play it safe.”
“You should be grateful and not want too much.”

Sound familiar?

These kinds of beliefs often masquerade as “wisdom.” And they might have made sense… decades ago, in a different time, in a different place, with different resources and different options.

But the world has changed. And if you never challenge those beliefs, they’ll quietly direct your life from the shadows.

You’ll pull back when you should push forward.
You’ll say “I can’t” when you really mean “I’ve never tried.”
You’ll pass up opportunity… because your mind has been trained to avoid risk.

And here’s the dangerous part: you’ll think those thoughts are yours. But they’re not.

They’re inherited.

The Media Is Selling You a Mindset

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room—media.

Not just “the news,” but advertising, entertainment, social platforms… all of it.

These systems are designed to capture attention, stir emotion, and influence behavior. That’s not conspiracy. That’s business.

If the media can make you feel fearful, angry, or like you’re not enough—
they can sell you something to fix it.
A product. A lifestyle. A political candidate. A belief system.

Ever notice how the news rarely ends with solutions?
It’s not because there aren’t any.
It’s because outrage gets more clicks than calm.

Fear holds attention better than hope.
Division is easier to sell than unity.

And guess what? Every time you scroll… every time you tune in… you’re training your mind.

Not just what to think, but how to think.

You’ve Been Trained—But You Can Retrain

Think about it. Most people spend more time programming their playlists than they do programming their thoughts.

We guard our passwords but let anything into our brain.
We say we want success but surround ourselves with messages that scream scarcity, danger, and division.
We’re hypnotized by repetition.
Entertained by fear.
And slowly… we forget we ever had the power to choose our thoughts in the first place.

But you do.

The ability to think independently—deliberately—is not some rare superpower.
It’s your birthright.
It’s just been neglected.

And now… it’s time to wake it up.

Why It Matters

You were not born to be a pawn in someone else’s plan.

You were not created to echo recycled fears.

And you certainly weren’t put here to live a secondhand life, following a map you didn’t draw.

You were born with the raw material to shape your own reality.

But that starts with the mind.

Control it—and you unlock everything else.

One Final Thought: Who’s In Charge?

Let me leave you with a question.

When your alarm goes off tomorrow morning…
When you look in the mirror…
When you choose what to focus on, what to believe, what to chase—

Who’s in charge?

Is it the scared voice from childhood?
The commercial you saw last night?
The political slogan drilled into your head?

Or is it you?

Take your mind back.
Guard it like your life depends on it.

Because it does.

And once you learn to control your mind…
You’ll find you can shape your habits, your relationships, your outcomes—
your entire life.

That’s power.
And it’s yours for the taking.

Coming soon: This article was about Mind Control and WHY it is important. The upcoming follow-up article, being released on Monday, will give you the step-by-step process to take control of your mind. The title: “How to Control Your Mind for Fun and Profit.“

Because taking control isn’t just survival—it’s strategy.
And it just might be the smartest, most profitable move you ever make.

Mistakes: Your Key to Winning

Mistakes are often seen as setbacks, failures, or embarrassments, but for those with a winning mindset, they are stepping stones to success. They are lessons wrapped in challenges, teaching us what doesn’t work and pushing us closer to what does.

Mistakes are an inevitable part of life, especially when striving for greatness, and learning to recognize, move past, and grow from them is crucial to building a winning mindset. Let’s explore how to turn mistakes—both chronic and one-time—into powerful tools for improvement.

Recognizing Mistakes, Especially Chronic Ones

The first step to learning from mistakes is recognizing them. This might sound simple, but it can be surprisingly difficult, especially when dealing with habitual or chronic errors. These are the mistakes we make repeatedly, often without realizing it, because they are tied to ingrained patterns of thought or behavior.

Spotting Chronic Mistakes

Self-Reflection: Take time to regularly reflect on your actions, decisions, and results. Journaling or maintaining a simple log of daily experiences can help you identify patterns of behavior that lead to repeated errors.
Feedback from Others: Sometimes, chronic mistakes are easier to spot when others point them out. Surround yourself with people who aren’t afraid to offer constructive criticism and value their input.
Objective Analysis: Look at your performance metrics. In basketball, for example, a coach might track turnovers or missed opportunities to identify recurring problems.

The Emotional Blind Spot

One reason mistakes go unnoticed is that we tend to justify them emotionally. We might blame circumstances, other people, or bad luck instead of admitting our own role in the outcome. A winning mindset requires humility—the ability to set aside ego and take full ownership of our actions.

Ask yourself:

What am I consistently doing that’s not working?
If I were advising someone else, what would I tell them about this behavior?
How can I approach this differently?

By recognizing your mistakes—especially the chronic ones—you take the first critical step in turning them into growth opportunities.

Moving Past Mistakes:
Overcoming the “Sucked-In Effect“

It’s easy to get sucked into mistakes, letting them define you or derail your progress. Dwelling on them leads to fear, doubt, and hesitation, which can prevent you from taking the next step. A winning mindset involves acknowledging mistakes without letting them consume you.

1. Acknowledge The Mistake, Don’t Avoid It

When a mistake happens, acknowledge it immediately. Avoiding or ignoring it only magnifies its impact. Own it, name it, and accept it as part of the process.

Mindfulness is a key part of recognizing and acknowledging a mistake. Here is an article if you want to learn more about how Mindfulness is related to Mistakes.

Key Mindset Shift:
Mistakes are not the opposite of success…
they are part of the journey toward Success.

2. Avoid Overthinking

Dwelling on a mistake can spiral into overthinking, which hinders progress. Instead of ruminating, ask:

What can I learn from this?
What will I do differently next time?

Focus on solutions, not problems. For example, if you miss a critical free throw in a basketball game, dwelling on it won’t change the outcome. Instead, commit to extra practice and visualization techniques to improve next time.

3. Use Mistakes as Motivation

Instead of letting a mistake discourage you, let it fire you up. Channel the frustration into action. Many athletes and successful individuals have used their greatest setbacks as fuel to prove themselves.

4. Create a Reset Ritual

Develop a ritual to help you move past mistakes quickly. This might include deep breathing, repeating a mantra, or taking a moment to visualize success. For example, some basketball players tap their chest and point upward as a way of saying, “That’s on me, and I’m moving forward.” There is a softball team that uses the gesture simulating the flushing of a toilet as a way to show that they are letting go of their mistake and sending it down the drain.

Incorporating these practices into your life, or something similar of your own design, ensures that mistakes are temporary detours, not dead ends. Learn from them and let them go.

Growing from Mistakes

Once you’ve recognized and moved past your mistakes, the final and most important step is to grow from them. Growth involves turning every error into a learning opportunity and using it to improve your future performance.

1. Learn the Lesson

Every mistake carries a lesson, but you have to look for it. Ask yourself:

What went wrong?
Why did it happen?
What could I have done differently?
How can I prevent this in the future?

Be specific. For example, if your basketball team lost a game because of poor communication on defense, analyze the breakdown and implement drills to improve teamwork.

2. Embrace Feedback

Feedback is a gift, even when it’s hard to hear. Seek out coaches, mentors, or teammates who can provide insights into your mistakes and how to address them. The more open you are to feedback, the faster you’ll grow.

3. Develop New Habits

Chronic mistakes often stem from bad habits. To grow, you must replace these with better habits. Bad habits don’t go away by themselves. If you try to stop, a “vacuum” is created and something worse might slide in to replace the bad habit. Create a new habit that pushes the old out for good.

Start small: Focus on one habit at a time.
Be consistent: Change happens through repetition. As NBA player Chris Paul says, “Stack the reps“.
Track progress: Celebrate small wins to stay motivated.

For example, if you habitually rush your shots, create a pre-shot routine to slow yourself down and improve accuracy. Or work on your shot so that you can get it off more quickly… and comfortably with confidence.

4. Stay Positive

Growth requires a positive mindset. Be kind to yourself. Mistakes don’t define you; how you respond to them does. Focus on your progress and remember that setbacks are temporary.

Mental Growth Example:
Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, famously said, “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

Mistakes / Team Dynamics

Mistakes don’t just happen individually; they happen within teams. A winning mindset involves creating a culture where mistakes are seen as opportunities for collective growth rather than reasons for blame. Everyone contributes to the team… and everyone makes mistakes at some point. It is part of the process and the stronger teams understand how to deal with mistakes productively.

Foster Open Communication

Encourage team members to admit mistakes without fear of judgment. This builds trust and ensures that mistakes are addressed, not hidden.

Collaborative Problem-Solving

When a mistake affects the team, involve everyone in finding solutions. For example, if a basketball team struggles with turnovers, brainstorm strategies together to reduce them.

Celebrate Growth

Recognize and celebrate when a teammate learns from a mistake and improves. This reinforces the idea that mistakes are part of the journey to success.

The Winning Mindset & Mistakes

Coach Wheeler helps you Build a Winning Mindset

I have made plenty of mistakes. (Check out the following article if you don’t believe me.) I firmly believe that mistakes are not failures; they are opportunities. They provide clarity on what doesn’t work and pave the way for what does.

By recognizing mistakes—especially habitual ones—you bring them into the light, where they can be addressed. By moving past them quickly, you prevent them from holding you back. And by growing from them, you transform setbacks into stepping stones toward success.

Key Takeaways as part of a Winning Mindset:

Recognize mistakes: Own your actions and identify patterns.
Move past mistakes: Avoid the trap of overthinking or dwelling on errors.
Grow from mistakes: Use every failure as an opportunity to improve.
Foster a growth culture: In teams, create an environment where mistakes are learning tools, not sources of blame.

Mistakes are not the enemy. They are your coach, your teacher, and sometimes your greatest ally in building a winning mindset. Next time you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up. Instead, smile, reset, and remember: every mistake is another step toward becoming a winner.

Meditation for Athletes

Meditation for basketball athletes There are a number of ways that meditation can be used by athletes to Train Your Brain to perform better both on the court or in the classroom. Some examples of the various types of meditations presented by Coach Wheeler include “No Regrets” meditation, Visualization and Mindfulness meditations. These and others will be discussed in the article below.

What are some places where can I use meditation?

There are also a number of situations where you can use meditation to put your mind in the proper state to perform at your best. Some of these are Pre-Game, Post-Game, Pre/Post Practice or in anticipation of a high stress event such as a playoff game or test in school.

What is meditation?

For the sake of this article, we will be talking about guided meditations where you listen to a voice that gives you directions to lead you through the meditation process. There is a whole field of meditation which is “unguided” and sometimes uses a “mantra” or a phrase repeated over and over to train your brain. Other types of unguided meditation have you focus on your breath and that technique has been incorporated into the guided meditations produced by Coach Wheeler. Speaking of that…

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Coach Wheeler produces his own basketball camp through InviteOnlyBasketball.com that features Mindset training. He also speaks at other camps on the topics of “Mind Control for Athletes” and “Train Your Brain for High Performance”. For more information and to check Coach Wheeler’s availability for speaking at your event, send him an email via the Contact Us page (click here).

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No Regrets

This meditation is similar to the experience that Scrooge goes through in the classic story, “A Christmas Carol”. It is a simple story… Scrooge is exposed to a vision of the past, present and [a potential] future. The key is to figure out what your current present (and past) is leading to (one potential future) and then figure out what changes you need to make (NOW) so that your future will be better.

In essence, this meditation takes you through a visualization of some future event that is causing you stress and which you might end up with regrets if things do not “go your way”. Once you have seen the future, you come back to the present and imagine the changes you need to make so that your future improves. The final part of this meditation is a visualization of the new (better) version of the future event based on the changes you will make in the present.

Typically this results in an empowered feeling that you have more control over your future and are motivated to take the actions needed to make your desired future happen.

Want to try it? Contact Coach Wheeler for information on how you can get a copy of his Guided Results Meditation for “No Regrets” audio file. He often does this meditation at his basketball camps or speaking engagements.

Performance Enhancement / Visualization

Using a guided meditation to help you visualize success in a particular activity has been proven to be almost as effective as actually practicing the activity… without the physical stress of the activity.

Visualization is a great way to”get more reps in” without putting added stress on your body. In fact, meditation, when done right, can be highly relaxing and aid in your body’s recuperation from hard training sessions. It is a great complement to the rest of your training on the court or in the weight room.

Visualization can be used to deal with a future pressure-filled situation like a game-winning shot or an exam in school. By visualizing the event, you can desensitize yourself to the potential stress. You also learn to relax so you can perform at your best.

Want to try it? Contact Coach Wheeler for information on how you can get a copy of his Guided Results Meditation for “Visualization for Athletes” audio file. He often does a Visualization meditation at his basketball camps or speaking engagements.

Relax/Focus [Mindfulness]

Mindfulness meditation is what most people are talking about when they talk about “meditation”. This type of meditating trains your brain to be mindful of the thoughts that pop up. Eventually, you will exercise control over how you interact with those thoughts.

The process of meditating, in almost all forms, is a form of relaxation for the body and mind. It is also a way to build the skill of control over the workings of your mind.

If you think about it… whose mind is the most important to control? If you control yourself, you are in a position to control the outcome of events in your life. This done through recognition of opportunities and application of actions toward your highest priority goals. Few people (or athletes) consider how much better they would do if they controlled their thoughts… and guided meditation is a great way to start.

Want to try it? Contact Coach Wheeler for information on how you can get a copy of his Guided Results Meditation for Mindfulness audio file. He often does this meditation at his basketball camps or speaking engagements.

Motivation / Focus

This meditation is a “thinking exercise” to help you uncover your motivation and focus on actions to achieve your goal. This is especially important when you know what you probably “should” do… but you don’t really feel like doing it. As you reconnect with your motivation in a meditative state, you are re-energized and ready to launch into action.

Want to try it? Contact Coach Wheeler for information on how you can get a copy of his Guided Results Meditation for Motivation / Focus audio file. He often does this meditation at his basketball camps or speaking engagements.

Topics related to Meditation for Student/Athletes…

Focus is critically important to your success in any endeavor. It is obvious that distractions are achievement killers.

As your brain is trained through meditation to be more mindful of things going on in your life, there is a great tool that you can use to help you focus on what is most important. It is called “W.I.N.” or the practice of asking yourself “What’s Important Now?” on a regular basis throughout your day. Click here for an article about how to use this tool to help you W.I.N.

Another great article on meditation for basketball players can be found here… click here. An infographic from that article is worth checking out.

Bottom Line …

Meditation is an incredible tool for athletes who want to get the most out of all their training efforts. You are working hard to improve your body and sport-specific skills. Why wouldn’t you Train Your Brain for high performance as well? This article presented different types of meditation to improve how your mind works in games, the classroom and life.

Coach Wheeler is not some sort of guru on a mountain top… he is a coach who is focused on results for the players he works with on a regular basis. Want to learn more? Contact Coach Wheeler to set up an appointment. click here.

When you control your own mind, you have an advantage over the competition. You are able to tackle bigger challenges with less stress. Are you ready to try meditation for yourself?