Category: Mental Toughness

Life is Hard. Great. RU All-In?

In the grand theatre of life, every person encounters a unique blend of challenges, obstacles, and hardships. While some may view these difficulties as insurmountable barriers, others perceive them as stepping stones to greatness. This dichotomy in perspective often separates the ordinary from the extraordinary. In a world where competition is fierce and success is not handed on a silver platter, embracing the toughness of life and actively seeking out challenges can be the key to outshining your competition. The question is, are you all-in?

The Virtue of Hardship

Life is not designed to be easy. It’s a complex, intricate journey filled with ups and downs, triumphs and setbacks. Embracing this reality is the first step toward mastering the art of overcoming adversity. Hardship serves a critical purpose: it molds us, shapes our character, and fortifies our resolve. As the saying goes, “Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.” It is through facing and conquering challenges that we grow stronger, wiser, and more capable.

The Competitive Edge

When you actively seek out difficult tasks, you set yourself apart from the majority who prefer the path of least resistance. In every field, be it business, sports, academics, or personal development, those who excel are the ones who are not afraid to tackle the hardest problems. They understand that in doing so, they gain a competitive edge. By confronting and mastering difficulties, they develop unique skills, insights, and resilience that their competitors lack.

Consider the story of Sara Blakely, the founder of Spanx. Before her rise to fame, Blakely faced numerous rejections and setbacks. However, she viewed these challenges as opportunities to innovate and improve. By persevering through tough times and continuously refining her product, she ultimately created a billion-dollar business. Her success was not a result of avoiding difficulties but embracing them and using them to her advantage.

Life is Hard. Build Resilience.

Resilience is the hallmark of those who thrive despite adversity. It is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, to keep pushing forward even when the going gets tough. Building resilience requires a mindset shift. Instead of seeing difficulties as threats, see them as opportunities for growth. Every setback is a setup for a comeback.

Developing resilience involves cultivating a few key attributes:

  1. Optimism: Maintaining a positive outlook in the face of adversity helps you stay motivated and focused on solutions rather than problems.
  2. Adaptability: Being flexible and open to change allows you to navigate through challenges more effectively.
  3. Perseverance: The ability to persist in the face of difficulties is crucial. It’s about keeping your eyes on the prize and not giving up, no matter how tough the journey gets.

Life is Hard. Are You All-In?

To truly excel and outshine your competition, you need to be all-in. This means committing fully to your goals and being willing to do whatever it takes to achieve them. It’s about having an unwavering dedication to your vision and a relentless drive to overcome any obstacles that stand in your way.

Commitment to Excellence

Excellence is not a destination but a continuous journey. It requires a commitment to constant improvement and a willingness to push beyond your comfort zone. To be all-in means striving for excellence in everything you do, whether it’s a small task or a significant project.

Take the example of athletes like Michael Jordan or Serena Williams. Their commitment to excellence is evident in their rigorous training regimens, relentless pursuit of perfection, and refusal to settle for mediocrity. They understand that to be the best, you must give your best effort consistently.

COMMITTED TO Embracing Discomfort

Growth and comfort do not coexist. To achieve greatness, you must be willing to embrace discomfort. This means taking on challenging tasks, facing your fears, and stepping outside your comfort zone regularly. It’s about pushing your limits and discovering your true potential.

COMMITTED TO a Growth Mindset

A growth mindset, as defined by psychologist Carol Dweck, is the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work. This mindset fosters a love for learning and resilience, which are essential for great accomplishment. People with a growth mindset view challenges as opportunities to grow rather than threats to their self-esteem. This is a key aspect of dealing with, and embracing, the hard challenges in your life.

Practical Steps to Embrace Challenges

  1. Set Big Goals: Aim high and set ambitious goals that require you to stretch beyond your current capabilities. Big goals will motivate you to put in the extra effort and face challenges head-on.
  2. Break Down Challenges: Break down big challenges into smaller, manageable tasks. This approach makes daunting tasks more approachable and allows you to make consistent progress.
  3. Seek Feedback: Actively seek feedback from others to identify areas for improvement. Constructive criticism can help you refine your approach and enhance your performance.
  4. Learn from Failures: View failures as learning opportunities rather than setbacks. Analyze what went wrong, extract valuable lessons, and apply them to future endeavors.
  5. Stay Persistent: Persistence is key to overcoming challenges. Stay committed to your goals, even when progress seems slow. Remember that persistence often outlasts resistance.

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Real-Life Examples of Overcoming Challenges

Elon Musk: The founder of SpaceX and Tesla is no stranger to challenges. From facing near-bankruptcy to enduring multiple rocket failures, Musk’s journey is a testament to the power of perseverance and resilience. His ability to learn from failures and keep pushing forward has led to groundbreaking innovations in space exploration and electric vehicles.

J.K. Rowling: Before achieving worldwide fame with the Harry Potter series, Rowling faced numerous rejections from publishers. Despite these setbacks, she continued to believe in her story and persisted in her efforts. Her success is a powerful example of how embracing hardship and staying committed to one’s vision can lead to extraordinary outcomes.

Reflecting on Your Journey

Take a moment to reflect on your own journey. What challenges have you faced, and how have they shaped you? Consider the times when you chose the harder path and the lessons you learned along the way. Acknowledge the strength and resilience you’ve developed through these experiences.

Now, think about your future goals. Are you willing to go all-in? Are you ready to embrace the difficulties that lie ahead and use them as opportunities to grow and excel? Remember, greatness is not achieved by avoiding challenges but by confronting them head-on with determination and grit.

Life is hard. Deal with it.

Life is hard, and that’s what makes it great. It’s the challenges we face and the difficulties we overcome that define our journey and shape our destiny. By embracing hardship, building resilience, and committing fully to our goals, we can outshine our competition and achieve extraordinary success.

So, the next time you encounter a difficult situation, welcome it with open arms. See it as a chance to prove your mettle, to grow stronger, and to rise above the rest. Are you all-in? The path to greatness awaits those who dare to embrace the hard road and give it their all.

Find Success After “I Can’t”

By Coach Wheeler

Success comes AFTER "I Can't"

As a basketball coach, there’s one phrase that has always struck a nerve with me: “I can’t.”

I remember vividly the countless times I introduced a new skill or drill to a player, only to hear those dreaded words: “I can’t do it, Coach.” It felt like they were giving up before even trying, as if they had already decided failure was the only option. But over the years, I’ve come to realize something powerful: Success often lies just beyond that “I can’t.” If we can help ourselves—or others—push past that moment of doubt, there’s a whole world of growth and achievement waiting.

Let’s explore why we get stuck at “I can’t,” how to overcome it, and how to use that turning point to find success in every aspect of life.

Why “I Can’t” Feels So Real

When we say “I can’t,” it’s usually not about a true lack of ability. More often, it’s about fear, doubt, or a lack of vision.

  • Fear of Failure: Nobody likes to fail, especially in front of others. Saying “I can’t” is a protective mechanism. It’s easier to claim defeat upfront than to risk falling short after giving it a try.
  • Self-Doubt: Many people underestimate their own potential. They assume that because they haven’t done something before, they’ll never be able to.
  • Lack of Vision: Sometimes, people simply can’t see themselves succeeding. They can’t picture the steps or the outcome, so they shut down the idea entirely.

This is why “I can’t” often sounds like “I won’t.” It’s not that they lack the physical ability—it’s that their mindset has created a mental block.

The “Can’t Point”

What's your "I Can't" Point?

I call it the “Can’t Point”: That moment when someone bumps into the edge of their comfort zone.

For a basketball player, it might be the first time they attempt a spin move or shoot a three-pointer under pressure. For someone in life, it could be learning a new skill, speaking in front of a crowd, or starting a new venture.

The “Can’t Point” is where most people stop … where they let Self Doubt keep them from moving forward.

But here’s the truth: this is where the magic happens. The “Can’t Point” is not a wall; it’s a threshold. Beyond it lies growth, success, and achievement. The challenge is getting past it.

The Role of Confidence

One of my biggest jobs as a coach is to help players see their own potential—even when they can’t see it themselves. When a player says, “I can’t,” my response is usually something like this:

“Yes, you can. I’ve seen you do tougher things before. Let’s break it down step by step. I know you’ve got this.”

It’s amazing how much of a difference confidence—whether it comes from within or from someone else—can make. A player might go from refusing to try to giving their best effort simply because I expressed my belief in them.

Here’s the takeaway for you: if you don’t believe in yourself, borrow belief from someone who does. Surround yourself with coaches, mentors, or friends who see your potential. Their confidence can bridge the gap until you develop your own.

5 Steps to Move Beyond “I Can’t”

So how do you move beyond the “Can’t Point”? It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

1. Break It Down

Big challenges feel overwhelming because we see them as a single, massive task. Break it into smaller, manageable pieces. For example, when teaching a player to execute a spin move, I don’t just say, “Spin and score.” I break it down into footwork, hand placement, and timing.

Do the same in your own life. Want to run a marathon but feel like “I can’t”? Start with a single mile… a single walk down to the corner and back. Want to master public speaking? Begin by talking in front of a small group.

Like I say in my book, “One Step At A Time”, every great accomplishment is the result of a load of small steps, each one easy to accomplish if you just take action in the direction of your dreams.

2. Reframe the Challenge

Instead of focusing on what you can’t do, focus on what you can learn. Think of it this way… Every “I can’t” is an opportunity to either succeed or to grow. Keep trying until “you can”.

Another way to reframe the challenge is to change your mindset from “I can’t” to “I haven’t done it yet.” That small shift in language, adding the word “yet” can make a huge difference. It WILL happen. It just hasn’t happened YET.

3. Visualize Success

Visualize what's beyond "I can't"

A lack of vision is a common reason people get stuck at “I can’t.” Maybe you “can’t” see how you could accomplish it (yet). If someone was wearing a blindfold would you say they “can’t” see? Or is there just something in the way of them seeing what needs to be done?

Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine yourself succeeding. Picture what it will look and feel like when you’ve accomplished the task. Visualization primes your brain for action and makes success feel more attainable.

4. Embrace the Struggle

Here’s the truth: it’s supposed to be hard.

Growth happens when we struggle and push through our current limites and overcome challenges. Instead of avoiding discomfort, accept it as part of the process of growing and lean into it.

Remind yourself that every time you overcome a “Can’t Point,” you’re getting stronger and more capable.

5. Take Imperfect Action

You don’t have to get it right on the first try. Most people don’t.

The key is to take action anyway. As I often tell my players, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Success is built on a foundation of attempts, failures, and adjustments.

Don’t let yourself get stuck at your “Can’t Point”.

Take Action. Any action is better than being stuck. If the results of your action turn out to be a “less than desirable outcome”, learn from it (#2-Reframe the Challenge) and try again!

A Real-Life Example… “I can’t make foul shots”

Let me share a story from my basketball coaching exploits. There was a young player I was coaching who struggled with free throws. Every time they stepped to the line in practice, they’d miss a few and mutter, “I can’t shoot free throws, Coach.”

One day, I pulled them aside and said, “What if I told you that you’re one small adjustment away from becoming the best free-throw shooter on the team? Let’s figure it out together.”

We spent extra time working on form, routine, and mindset. We settled on a simple routine for every shot. If you can make one free throw, you simply need to repeat that routine every time and you should never miss. The basket is not moving. You are standing in the same spot every time. Plus, the “free” part of free throw means that there is no one guarding you. There is no reason to ever miss a free throw, especially after you have practiced it … and practiced it … and practiced it… until it is the same every time!

I encouraged them to focus on progress, not perfection. Slowly but surely, they improved. By the end of the season, they were sinking free throws under pressure and grinning at the line.

What changed? They stopped saying “I can’t” and started saying “I’ll try.” That small shift unlocked their potential and gave them a chance to succeed every time they went to the foul line.

How You Can Use This

You don’t have to be a basketball player to apply these principles. The next time you catch yourself saying “I can’t,” pause and ask yourself a few questions:

  • Is it really true?
  • What’s one small step I can take right now?
  • Who can I ask for support or guidance?

Most importantly, remind yourself that “I can’t” is just a feeling, not a fact.

Success Lies Just Beyond

The phrase “I can’t” might feel like a stopping point, but in reality, it’s a starting line. Success doesn’t come from avoiding challenges; it comes from facing them head-on and refusing to quit.

As a coach, I’ve seen players go from “I can’t” to “I did it” more times than I can count. Each time, it’s a reminder of what’s possible when we push past our doubts and embrace our potential.

Remember: The moment you say “I can’t” is the moment you’re standing at the edge of greatness. Take one more step. Try one more time. That’s where success is waiting.

So, the next time you hear yourself—or someone else—say “I can’t,” smile and think: “I’m just getting started.”

Go out there and claim your success. It’s closer than you think.

The Hoo-AH! Mindset: How to Add Elite Focus and Relentless Drive

The Hoo-AH! Mindset... are you ready?

In life and in sports, there are moments that test us to our core. Moments where we question whether we have what it takes to push through the exhaustion, the doubt, and the setbacks. It’s in those moments when we need something more than just effort—we need mental grit, relentless confidence, and a winning attitude. That’s where the Hoo-AH! Mindset comes in.

More than just a word, Hoo-AH! is a battle cry born from the elite training of the U.S. Army Rangers. It represents a mentality of readiness, strength, and collective unity that has fueled some of the world’s most highly trained and disciplined soldiers. Now, this powerful mindset can inspire your approach to life, competition, and personal challenges.

But what does Hoo-AH! really mean, where does it come from, and how can you apply it to your life to level up your performance? Let’s dive in.

The Origins of Hoo-AH!

The term Hoo-AH! is a staple of the U.S. Army and, more specifically, the Army Rangers—elite soldiers who are known for their unmatched discipline, endurance, and tactical prowess. It’s believed that Hoo-AH! originated as a form of acknowledgment, a way for Rangers to say “I Hear you, I Understand, and I Acknowledge the order (I’m ready).” Over time, it evolved into something much more powerful—a rallying cry that soldiers use to affirm their resilience and their readiness to take on any challenge.

Whether they’re being asked if they’re tired, if they’re ready to face a mission, or if they’ve accomplished something monumental, the response is always the same: Hoo-AH! It’s a word that signals not only physical toughness but a mental toughness that is unshakable. It’s a commitment to never back down, no matter how hard the situation gets.

Imagine how powerful it would be if we could apply this mindset to our own lives—whether on the court, in the office, or facing personal adversity.

What Hoo-AH! Means

At its core, Hoo-AH! is about more than just saying a word; it’s about adopting a mentality that embraces challenges, embodies discipline, and fosters an unstoppable drive toward success. Here’s what the Hoo-AH! mindset really stands for:

Readiness: When you live by the Hoo-AH! mindset, you are always ready. Ready for the game, ready for the challenge, ready to push your limits. It’s about staying mentally prepared to give your best effort at all times, even when you’re tired, and even when doubt creeps in.

Mental Resilience: Hoo-AH! is the verbal embodiment of mental resilience. It’s a way of telling the world, “I’m still here. I’m not giving up.” In sports, and in life, this means you face adversity head-on, knowing that your strength comes from your refusal to quit.

Confidence Under Pressure: The Hoo-AH! mindset means that when things get tough, you get tougher. It’s about finding that inner belief when everyone else is doubting you, when the game is on the line, or when you’re on the verge of breaking down. You respond with Hoo-AH!, signaling that you are not just surviving but thriving under pressure.

Team Unity and Support: Hoo-AH! is often a collective cry, a shout that unites a group of people around a common goal. In sports, it’s the team’s shared belief that they can overcome any obstacle when they work together. It’s about having each other’s backs and knowing that your effort contributes to something bigger than yourself.

What the Hoo-AH! Mindset Does

When you adopt the Hoo-AH! mindset, it transforms how you approach every aspect of your life. Here’s how:

It Builds Unstoppable Momentum: When you live by Hoo-AH!, you develop momentum that propels you forward. Whether you’re an athlete pushing through a tough training session or someone striving for personal growth, the more you embrace Hoo-AH!, the more you push yourself beyond your perceived limits.

It Cultivates Mental Toughness: The Hoo-AH! mindset fosters an internal toughness that keeps you standing tall even when you’re faced with adversity. You become the person who looks at challenges not with fear, but with anticipation and readiness. This mental toughness becomes your secret weapon in overcoming obstacles.

It Elevates Your Team: Just like the Army Rangers who use Hoo-AH! to rally each other in the toughest of missions, you can use this mindset to elevate those around you. Whether in sports, business, or life, your commitment to never give up will inspire your team, your coworkers, and your community to do the same.

It Develops Consistency: One of the greatest challenges in any pursuit—whether athletic, academic, or professional—is staying consistent. The Hoo-AH! mindset pushes you to show up every day, even when you don’t feel like it, even when the odds are stacked against you. It becomes your daily mantra for perseverance.

How to Add Hoo-AH! to Your Life

Ready to add the Hoo-AH! mindset to your life? Here’s how you can start making it part of your personal and competitive journey:

  1. Set a Challenge
    Start by setting a challenge that will push you outside your comfort zone. Whether it’s running an extra mile, completing an advanced drill, or pushing yourself in the weight room, give yourself a goal that feels difficult. When you complete it, shout Hoo-AH!—celebrate the victory, no matter how small.
  2. Use It as a Rallying Cry
    Whenever you’re faced with a tough situation, mentally or physically, use Hoo-AH! as your battle cry. Tell yourself you’re ready. If you’re working with a team, get them to join you in saying it. Make it a point of uniting everyone around the idea that you can accomplish more together than you can alone.
  3. Push Through Fatigue
    When you feel tired, don’t give in. Let Hoo-AH! be your answer to fatigue. The next time you feel exhausted during a workout, practice, or long workday, ask yourself if you’re tired. Then respond with a loud Hoo-AH! and keep pushing. You’ll be surprised at how much further you can go.
  4. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Wins
    Hoo-AH! is about celebrating your effort, not just the final score. Anytime you put in the work, especially when it feels difficult, you’ve earned the right to say Hoo-AH!. This mindset shifts your focus from outcomes to the process, making you stronger in the long run.
  5. Make It Part of Your Daily Routine
    Start each day with a Hoo-AH! mindset. When you wake up, remind yourself that you are ready for whatever the day brings. When you go to practice, walk into the gym with the knowledge that you’ll give it your all. The more you embed this attitude into your daily life, the more it becomes second nature.


The Hoo-AH! mindset is more than just a word—it’s a way of life. It’s about readiness, resilience, and unshakeable confidence. It’s taking responsibility for what you are going to do to improve your situation. It’s about uniting your team around a common goal and using your mental and physical toughness to push through any obstacle.

So the next time you’re asked if you’re ready for the challenge, or if you’re tired, or if you’ve got what it takes, respond with the only answer that matters: Hoo-AH!

Please leave a comment below. I’d love to hear how you have applied the Hoo-AH! Mindset in your own life or even stories of how Hoo-AH! has helped others succeed.

The Power of Struggle Time:

Why Embracing the Struggle Leads to Growth

In today’s fast-paced world, where immediate results are often prioritized over long-term growth, the concept of “struggle time” can seem counterintuitive. As a teacher and coach, I’ve found that one of the most challenging aspects of my role is convincing administrators, parents, and especially students or players, that struggling is not just okay—it’s essential.

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The video shared in a recent Facebook post (link below) illustrates the profound impact of embracing struggle. But what exactly is “struggle time,” and why is it so crucial?

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Understanding “Struggle Time”

“Struggle time” refers to the period during which an individual is faced with a challenging task, one that is not immediately solvable. This is the time when frustration, confusion, and even failure might occur. It’s the time when the mind is pushed to its limits, where the easy solutions don’t work, and where one is forced to think critically, creatively, and persistently to overcome obstacles.

In educational and athletic contexts, struggle time is often viewed as a negative experience. Many believe that if a student or player is struggling, it means they are not understanding the material or that they are not performing well. However, this mindset overlooks the fundamental truth that growth occurs in the struggle. It is in these moments of difficulty that true learning and development happen.

The Value of Struggle in Learning

Research in educational psychology supports the idea that struggle is a critical component of learning. When students or athletes are presented with challenges that are slightly beyond their current abilities, they are forced to engage more deeply with the material or skill. This deeper engagement leads to a more profound understanding and mastery.

Consider the concept of “desirable difficulties,” coined by psychologist Robert Bjork. Desirable difficulties are challenges that make learning harder in the short term but improve long-term retention and performance. When students are given time to struggle through a problem, they are more likely to remember the solution and understand the underlying principles. This is because the effort required to overcome the difficulty creates stronger neural connections in the brain.

Struggle in Sports: Building Resilience and Character

In sports, struggle time is just as critical. It’s easy to celebrate the victories, the moments of triumph where everything comes together. But it’s in the moments of struggle—when the game isn’t going well, when the training is grueling, when the competition is fierce—that athletes develop the resilience and mental toughness needed to succeed.

Take the story of Michael Jordan, widely regarded as one of the greatest basketball players of all time. Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team as a sophomore. He didn’t make the team, and that struggle drove him to work harder, to push himself beyond what he thought was possible. Jordan himself has said that it was the struggles, the failures, and the challenges that made him the player he became.

Struggle time teaches athletes to persevere, to keep pushing when things are tough. It teaches them that failure is not the end but a stepping stone to success. It builds character, resilience, and a mindset that welcomes challenges as opportunities for growth.

Overcoming the Resistance to Struggle Time

Despite the clear benefits of struggle time, there is often resistance to embracing it. In the classroom, parents and administrators may worry that students who are struggling are falling behind. They may push for easier tasks or more assistance, thinking that this will help the student succeed. In sports, coaches may feel pressured to focus on winning rather than development, leading to a reluctance to let players experience the struggle.

This resistance is understandable. We all want to see our students and athletes succeed. We want to protect them from failure and frustration. But in doing so, we may be doing them a disservice. By shielding them from struggle, we deny them the opportunity to develop the skills and mindset they need to overcome challenges in the future.

To overcome this resistance, it’s important to reframe the way we think about struggle. Instead of viewing it as a sign of failure, we need to see it as a necessary part of the learning process. We need to communicate to students, athletes, parents, and administrators that struggle is not something to be feared but something to be embraced.

Practical Strategies for Implementing Struggle Time

So, how can we, as teachers and coaches, effectively implement struggle time in our classrooms and on our teams? Here are some practical strategies:

  1. Normalize Struggle: Start by normalizing struggle in your environment. Talk openly about the challenges you face and how you’ve overcome them. Share stories of famous individuals who have struggled and persevered. Encourage students and athletes to share their own struggles and how they’ve worked through them.
  2. Create a Safe Environment: For struggle time to be effective, students and athletes need to feel safe. They need to know that it’s okay to make mistakes and that failure is part of the process. Create an environment where effort is valued as much as success, and where individuals are encouraged to take risks and push themselves.
  3. Provide Appropriate Challenges: It’s important to provide challenges that are appropriate for the individual’s current level. The tasks should be difficult enough to require effort but not so difficult that they become overwhelming. As students and athletes grow, gradually increase the difficulty of the tasks to continue pushing them out of their comfort zones.
  4. Offer Support, Not Solutions: When students or athletes are struggling, it’s natural to want to step in and help. But instead of providing the solution, offer support that helps them find the solution themselves. Ask guiding questions, provide hints, and encourage them to keep trying. This approach helps them develop problem-solving skills and builds confidence in their ability to overcome challenges.
  5. Celebrate the Struggle: Finally, celebrate the struggle itself. Recognize and reward the effort and perseverance that individuals show, regardless of the outcome. This reinforces the idea that the process of struggling is valuable and worth celebrating.

The Long-Term Benefits of Embracing Struggle

When we allow students and athletes to experience struggle time, we are helping them develop skills and qualities that will benefit them far beyond the classroom or the sports field. These include:

  • Resilience: The ability to bounce back from setbacks and keep going even when things are tough.
  • Critical Thinking: The ability to analyze problems, think creatively, and develop solutions.
  • Perseverance: The determination to keep working towards a goal, even in the face of challenges.
  • Self-Confidence: The belief in one’s own ability to overcome obstacles and achieve success.

These are the qualities that will help individuals succeed in all areas of life. Whether they are facing challenges in their careers, their personal lives, or in their communities, the skills and mindset developed through struggle time will serve them well.

Conclusion: The Power of Struggle

The video shared in the Facebook post is a powerful reminder of the value of struggle. It shows that when we give students and athletes the time and space to struggle, we are not setting them up for failure—we are setting them up for success. By embracing struggle time, we help them develop the skills, mindset, and character they need to thrive.

Here is another example from Coach Calipari (back when he coached at Kentucky)… check it out!

As a teacher and coach, it’s my job to guide my students and athletes through the challenges they face. But it’s also my job to let them struggle, to let them experience the frustration, the confusion, and the effort that are necessary for true growth. It’s not always easy, and it’s not always popular, but it’s one of the most important things I can do to help them become the best versions of themselves.

So, the next time you see a student or athlete struggling, resist the urge to step in and fix it for them. Instead, offer support, encouragement, and the time they need to work through the challenge. In doing so, you’ll be helping them develop into resilient, confident, and capable individuals who are ready to take on whatever life throws their way.

Locus of Control: Key to Building a Winning Mindset

Locus of Control

In the pursuit of greatness, whether in sports, business, or personal development, one of the most critical yet often overlooked factors is the concept of locus of control. This psychological framework is a cornerstone for building a winning mindset, allowing individuals to navigate challenges, seize opportunities, and maintain resilience in the face of adversity. Understanding and harnessing your locus of control can be the difference between a life defined by empowerment or one constrained by external forces.

What is Locus of Control?

Locus of control is a term coined by psychologist Julian Rotter in the 1950s. It refers to the degree to which individuals believe they have control over the outcomes of events in their lives. This belief system falls on a continuum between two extremes: internal control and external control.

Internal Locus of Control: Individuals with strong internal control believe that their actions, decisions, and efforts directly influence the results they experience. They see themselves as the architects of their destiny, understanding that their choices have a significant impact on their success or failure.

External Locus of Control: Conversely, those with strong external control attribute their outcomes to factors beyond their control, such as luck, fate, or the actions of others. These individuals often feel like pawns in a game, with little influence over their circumstances.

While most people fall somewhere in between these two extremes, the prevailing orientation of your locus of control can have profound implications on your mindset and approach to challenges.

The Connection Between Locus of Control and a Winning Mindset

A winning mindset is characterized by optimism, resilience, determination, and a relentless pursuit of goals. It is the mental foundation upon which success is built. The locus of control plays a crucial role in shaping this mindset by influencing how you perceive and react to the events around you.

Empowerment vs. Victimhood:

internal versus external locus of control

Individuals with internal control tend to adopt an empowering mindset. They see challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, believing that they have the power to influence the outcome. This sense of control fuels their motivation, driving them to take action even when faced with obstacles.
On the other hand, those with external control often fall into a victimhood mentality. They view challenges as insurmountable barriers imposed by external forces, which leads to feelings of helplessness and a lack of initiative. This mindset can create a self-fulfilling prophecy, where the lack of effort results in failure, reinforcing the belief that success is out of reach.

Responsibility and Accountability:

A key component of a winning mindset is taking responsibility for one’s actions and outcomes. Those with an internal locus of control are more likely to accept responsibility for their successes and failures. This accountability allows them to learn from their mistakes, make adjustments, and improve over time.
In contrast, an external locus of control can lead to a tendency to blame others or external circumstances for one’s failures. This deflection of responsibility hinders personal growth and prevents individuals from making the necessary changes to achieve their goals.

Resilience and Adaptability:

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks and continue pursuing goals despite adversity. An internal locus of control fosters resilience by reinforcing the belief that you have the power to overcome challenges. This mindset encourages adaptability, as individuals are more likely to see setbacks as temporary and within their control to change.
Those with an external locus of control may struggle with resilience, as they are more likely to view setbacks as permanent or out of their control. This can lead to a sense of defeatism and a reluctance to try again after failure.
Goal Setting and Achievement:

Individuals with an internal locus of control are more proactive in setting and pursuing goals. They believe that their efforts will directly impact their ability to achieve these goals, which motivates them to work hard and stay focused.
Conversely, those with an external locus of control may be less likely to set ambitious goals or put in the effort required to achieve them, believing that external factors will ultimately determine their success.

Real-Life Examples of Locus of Control in Action

To truly understand the impact of locus of control on building a winning mindset, it helps to look at real-life examples of individuals and scenarios where this concept has played a pivotal role.

Example 1: Michael Jordan’s Internal Locus of Control

Michael Jordan, widely regarded as one of the greatest basketball players of all time, is a prime example of someone with a strong internal locus of control. Jordan believed that his success was directly tied to his work ethic, determination, and relentless pursuit of excellence. His famous quote, “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed,” reflects his internal locus of control. Jordan understood that his failures were stepping stones to success and that he had the power to shape his destiny through his actions.

Example 2: The Rise of J.K. Rowling

J.K. Rowling, the author of the Harry Potter series, also exemplifies the power of an internal locus of control. Before becoming a literary sensation, Rowling faced numerous rejections from publishers and struggled with personal challenges, including financial hardship. However, she believed in her ability to succeed and continued to persevere despite the setbacks. Her internal locus of control fueled her determination to keep writing and pursuing her dream, ultimately leading to one of the most successful book series in history.

Example 3: The Dangers of an External Locus of Control in Sports

In contrast, consider the example of athletes who blame external factors for their failures—such as referees, weather conditions, or the actions of opponents. This external locus of control can lead to a defeatist attitude, where athletes feel that their success is out of their hands. This mindset can prevent them from taking the necessary steps to improve their performance, leading to a cycle of underachievement.

Example 4: The Business World and Locus of Control

In the business world, leaders with an internal locus of control are more likely to innovate, take calculated risks, and drive their companies forward. They understand that their decisions and strategies play a crucial role in the success or failure of their organization. On the other hand, leaders with an external locus of control may be more risk-averse, often waiting for external conditions to improve before taking action. This can lead to missed opportunities and stagnation.

Cultivating an Internal Locus of Control for a Winning Mindset

Building a winning mindset requires cultivating an internal locus of control. While some individuals may naturally lean towards an internal or external locus of control, it is possible to shift your mindset through conscious effort and practice.

Self-Reflection and Awareness:

The first step in shifting your locus of control is to become aware of your current mindset. Reflect on how you typically respond to challenges and setbacks. Do you tend to take responsibility for your actions, or do you blame external factors? Awareness is the first step towards change.

Focus on What You Can Control:

Start by identifying the aspects of your life and goals that are within your control. This could include your attitude, effort, and the decisions you make. By focusing on what you can control, you empower yourself to take action and influence the outcomes you desire.

Set Achievable Goals:

Break down your larger goals into smaller, achievable steps. This not only makes your goals more manageable but also reinforces the belief that your actions directly impact your progress. Each small victory will strengthen your internal locus of control.

Take Responsibility for Your Actions:

Embrace accountability for both your successes and failures. When you succeed, acknowledge the role your effort played in achieving that success. When you fail, analyze what you could have done differently and use it as a learning experience. This approach fosters a growth mindset and reinforces the belief that you have control over your outcomes.

Surround Yourself with Positive Influences:

The people you surround yourself with can have a significant impact on your mindset. Seek out individuals who embody internal control and a winning mindset. Their attitude and approach to challenges will inspire you to adopt a similar perspective.

Practice Resilience and Adaptability:

Life is full of unexpected challenges, but how you respond to them defines your success. Cultivate resilience by viewing setbacks as temporary and within your power to overcome. Develop adaptability by being open to new strategies and solutions when faced with obstacles.

Celebrate Your Progress:

Finally, take time to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing your progress reinforces the belief that your actions have a direct impact on your success, further solidifying your internal control of your mindset.

The Last Word on …
Locus of Control in Building a Winning Mindset

Your locus of control is a powerful determinant of your mindset and ultimately your success. By cultivating an internal locus of control, you empower yourself to take charge of your destiny, embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, and maintain resilience in the face of adversity. This mindset is the foundation upon which greatness is built, enabling you to achieve your goals and live a life defined by purpose and fulfillment.

In the journey to building a winning mindset, remember that you are the author of your story. The decisions you make, the effort you put in, and the resilience you demonstrate will determine the outcome. Embrace your power, take control, and watch as you turn your dreams into reality.

Levels of Winning . . .

with Coach Dave Wheeler

Taking over a losing team is like inheriting a ship with holes in the hull—it’s taking on water, it’s slow, and it feels like it’s on the verge of sinking. As a coach, you’re tasked with not only plugging those holes but also getting that ship moving swiftly toward victory. It’s not a small challenge. The team comes with bad habits, weak skills, and mental control issues—focus, emotional control, frustration, anger—all of which have kept them anchored in a cycle of losing. Their effort and conditioning levels are probably less than ideal, too.

But let’s be clear: losing sucks. There’s no sugar-coating it. Whether you’re a coach or an athlete, repeated losses can be demoralizing, leading to doubt and frustration. The temptation to give up is real, but the journey from a losing culture to a winning one is not just possible—it’s achievable if you commit to a structured approach. This journey can be broken down into what I call “The Levels of Winning,” a progressive roadmap that takes a team from the depths of defeat to the heights of consistent victory.

Wheeler's Winning Basketball Pyramid

Level C:
Improving Focus, Conditioning, and Skills

The first step in transforming a losing team is to focus on the fundamentals: Mental Focus, Conditioning, and Key Skills. At this stage, the goal is not necessarily to win games but to set the foundation for future success.

Mental Focus

One of the most critical issues in a losing team is a lack of focus. Players may have developed bad habits, such as not listening during practice, losing concentration during games, or getting easily distracted by emotions or external factors. As a coach, your first priority is to instill a sense of discipline and concentration in your players. This can be achieved through structured practices that emphasize attention to detail and mental toughness. For instance, drills that require players to react quickly to changing situations can help improve focus and decision-making.

Conditioning

Another common issue with losing teams is poor conditioning. A team that lacks endurance will falter in the final minutes of a game, no matter how well they play initially. Improving conditioning is non-negotiable. This involves not only physical training but also mental conditioning—teaching players to push through fatigue and stay mentally sharp when they’re physically exhausted. Implementing high-intensity interval training (HIIT) or endurance-based drills can help build the physical stamina required for sustained performance.

Skills Development

At this level, skill development is about going back to basics. This might mean re-teaching fundamental techniques like shooting, passing, dribbling, or defending. It’s crucial to ensure that players are not just participating in drills but are also understanding the “why” behind each exercise. Skills are developing when players start executing in games what they’ve been learning in practice—whether it’s successfully running plays, applying pressure defense, executing fast breaks, or setting effective traps.

As a coach, it’s essential to celebrate small victories at this stage. When a player successfully executes a new skill in a game, it’s a sign of progress. These moments build confidence and create a positive feedback loop, encouraging further effort and improvement.

Level B2:
Competitive Effort

Once the team has made progress in focus, conditioning, and skills, they often find themselves in close games. They may still lose more than they win, but there’s a noticeable shift—they’re competitive. This stage is characterized by increased effort and the ability to win parts of the game, such as a quarter or a half, even if the overall result is a loss.

Good Effort

At Level B2, effort is no longer a sporadic occurrence but a consistent theme. Players are beginning to take pride in their work ethic, pushing themselves and each other to higher standards. They’re competing hard every minute of every game, regardless of the score. This competitive effort is the foundation upon which winning is built. It’s about teaching the players that success isn’t just about the final score—it’s about winning each moment, each possession.

Winning Parts of the Game

Although the team may still lose, they begin to win quarters or halves. This is a significant milestone because it shows that the team is capable of executing a game plan effectively for extended periods. The challenge at this level is to maintain focus and effort throughout the entire game, rather than just in spurts. Coaches should emphasize the importance of consistency and perseverance, reminding players that winning quarters is the first step toward winning games.

Level B1:
Over the Hump

This is the stage where a team begins to experience more frequent success. They’ve “overcome the hump” and start to win close games that they might have lost before. Confidence begins to build, and with it, a crucial shift in mentality occurs—the team starts to believe they can win, even in high-pressure situations.

Winning Close Games

At Level B1, the team has learned how to handle crunch time. They no longer crumble under pressure; instead, they thrive in it. Winning close games is a skill in itself, requiring not only physical execution but also mental toughness and strategic awareness. Players must trust each other and their ability to perform in critical moments. Coaches should focus on situational practices—like late-game scenarios—to ensure the team is prepared for anything that comes their way during a game.

Crunch Time Confidence

Confidence is the key to success at this level. A team that believes in its ability to win is dangerous. This confidence is built through experience—by repeatedly finding themselves in tight situations and learning how to navigate them successfully. It’s important for the coach to reinforce this confidence by highlighting past successes and encouraging players to trust their training and instincts.

Level A:
Consistent Winning

Reaching Level A is the ultimate goal—a stage where winning becomes a habit rather than an exception. At this level, the team not only wins but does so convincingly. You are blowing out opponents by 20+ points and doing so consistently.

Blowouts and Dominance

When a team reaches Level A, they’re not just winning—they’re dominating. Blowouts happen when a team is firing on all cylinders—offense, defense, and everything in between. The team has developed a winning culture, and the players expect to win every time they step on the court. This mindset shift is critical. The fear of losing is replaced by the expectation of victory, which drives the team to perform at a high level consistently.

Maintaining Consistency

Consistency is the hallmark of a winning team. It’s not about peaking for one game but about sustaining a high level of performance across the entire season. This requires relentless effort in practice, continuous skill development, and unwavering mental toughness. Coaches should keep pushing the team, reminding them that there’s always room for improvement, even when they’re winning consistently.

The Bottom Line: Don’t Give Up

Turning around a losing program is never easy. It’s a process that requires patience, perseverance, and an unwavering belief in the potential of the team. There will be setbacks, moments of doubt, and possibly an extended period of losing. But as long as you stay committed to the process and keep pushing your players to improve, the wins will come.

Win or Learn

One of the most important lessons to impart to your team is the concept of “Win or Learn.” In the early stages, when losses are more common than wins, it’s crucial to frame each game as a learning opportunity. What went well? What needs to be improved? By focusing on continuous improvement, rather than just the outcome, you help your players develop a growth mindset—a belief that they can always get better with effort and practice.

Set Clear Expectations

From day one, it’s essential to set clear expectations for your team. These expectations should cover everything from effort and attitude to punctuality and respect. By establishing a standard for everything, you create a culture of accountability and discipline. Rules are important, but standards are what sustain a winning culture. These standards should apply to everyone—no exceptions. When players understand that everyone is held to the same standard, they’re more likely to buy into the program and push themselves to meet those expectations.

Some Final Words from Coach…

“The Levels of Winning” is not just a theoretical framework; it’s a roadmap to success. By focusing on improving focus, conditioning, and skills, cultivating competitive effort, learning to win close games, and finally achieving consistent dominance, a coach can transform a losing team into a powerhouse. But remember, this transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, hard work, and a steadfast belief in the process.

As a coach, your job is to guide your team through these levels, celebrating the small victories along the way and never giving up—even when the going gets tough. Because in the end, it’s not just about winning games—it’s about building a culture of excellence, where every player strives to be their best, both on and off the court. And that’s the real victory.

About the Author:
Coach Dave Wheeler

Coach Dave Wheeler

Coach Dave Wheeler is a seasoned basketball coach with a proven track record of developing top-tier talent across multiple levels of the sport. Recognized as the #1 basketball development coach in Montana for the past two consecutive years by Coachup.com, Coach Wheeler has honed his craft through extensive experience at the middle school, high school, AAU, and college levels.

His expertise in building winning programs is well-regarded, making him a sought-after coach for teams looking to turn their fortunes around. Currently, Coach Wheeler is in the process of interviewing for his next head coaching position (2024-25 season) in the Bozeman / Belgrade / Livingston, Montana area where he aims to bring his winning philosophy and experience to a new team that is hungry for success.

Wheeler's Winning Basketball Pyramid

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Winners vs. Whiners: The Path through Adversity

When it comes to Adversity, are you a winner or a whiner?

Success, as we’ve been taught, doesn’t come easy. There will be Adversity. But what separates the winners from the whiners? Is it talent, luck, or some magic formula? Or is it something deeper, something engrained in the core of their being?

Let’s tap into the wisdom of Coach Michael Burt, who often says, “Everybody needs a coach in life.” Burt’s philosophy emphasizes a “whole person theory,” aiming to tap into the body, mind, heart, and spirit of each player. But what does that have to do with our topic at hand? Well, the difference between winning and whining often boils down to your overall approach to life, encompassing all these facets.

Mindset: The Starting Line

Imagine this: The game is tied, seconds are ticking away, and you have the ball. At this moment, do you see an obstacle or an opportunity? Your mindset determines your actions.

As Burt articulates, “You can’t see the picture when you’re in the frame.” Sometimes you need an external perspective to guide you, to sharpen your mindset. This is where a coach comes into play, to help you see the game from angles you can’t perceive when you’re in the heat of the moment.

Ask Yourself: How can I adjust my mindset to be more aligned with that of a winner, and who can help guide me in that transformation?

Overcoming Adversity:

The Chicago Bulls vs. The Detroit Pistons
In the late ’80s and early ’90s, the NBA witnessed one of the most bitter rivalries: the Chicago Bulls versus the Detroit Pistons, also known as the “Bad Boys.” The Pistons were known for their physicality, often pushing the rules to the limits. The Chicago Bulls, led by Michael Jordan, initially couldn’t get past this obstacle. They were stuck, they were frustrated, and they were defeated. But did they whine about it? No. They evolved.

The Bulls took their failures as a challenge. They bulked up, they practiced harder, and Michael Jordan even worked on a more physical style of play. The result? They not only defeated the Pistons but went on to dominate the NBA.

Michael Jordan said, “Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” This epitomizes the mindset of a winner.

Ask Yourself: What walls are you facing right now, and how can you overcome them instead of complaining?

Building Resilience in the Face of Adversity:
Body, Mind, Heart, and Spirit

This is where Coach Burt’s “whole person theory” becomes essential. To be resilient, to overcome, and to win, you need to be strong not just in body, but in mind, heart, and spirit.

  • Body: Physical preparation and conditioning.
  • Mind: Strategic and critical thinking.
  • Heart: Passion, drive, and motivation.
  • Spirit: Ethical grounding and a sense of purpose.

Michael Burt explains that the best competitors in the world have all these four components finely tuned. They aren’t just showing up on game day; they are preparing with a relentless focus on these four aspects.

Ask Yourself: Am I nurturing each of these areas in my life, or am I neglecting one over the others?

The Accountability Factor

Winners hold themselves accountable; whiners look for someone else to blame. If you’ve ever listened to a post-match interview of any great athlete, you’ll find them taking responsibility for their performance, good or bad.

“A good coach will make his players see what they can be rather than what they are,” Burt opines. Accountability starts with oneself but extends to the community around you—your team, your coach, your family, and your friends.

Ask Yourself: Who is holding me accountable, and more importantly, am I holding myself accountable? Am I taking Responsibility for my outcomes?

Final Word on Adversity?

The line between winning and whining is thinner than you think, but it’s a line that defines your character. It’s a line that speaks volumes about your preparation, your values, and ultimately, your success. So the next time you find yourself at a crossroads, caught between the urge to blame and the drive to overcome, remember: winners find a way; whiners find an excuse.

Ask Yourself: Which side of the line do you want to stand on?

Coach Wheeler, inspired by the philosophies of Coach Michael Burt, asks you to reflect, to challenge yourself, and to always strive for the winning side of life. Don’t let adversity get the better of you. Let it challenge you and reveal your best qualities. Because when you decide to be a winner, you’re not just affecting the score of the game; you’re defining your destiny.

Recommended Books for Further Reading on the topic of Adversity:


“Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck
A deep dive into the concept of “fixed” vs. “growth” mindsets, explaining why your outlook often determines your outcome.

“Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth
Learn why grit often predicts success more reliably than talent.

“Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable” by Tim S. Grover
Written by Michael Jordan’s personal trainer, this book explores the mentality of top performers in any field.

“The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership” by Bill Walsh
A look into the coaching philosophy of Bill Walsh, one of the most successful coaches in NFL history.

“You Win in the Locker Room First: The 7 C’s to Build a Winning Team in Business, Sports, and Life” by Jon Gordon and Mike Smith
The book explains how to build a successful team by focusing on culture and character.

“The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph” by Ryan Holiday
A modern take on Stoic philosophy that teaches how to turn obstacles into opportunities.

“Everybody Needs a Coach in Life: Isn’t It Time You Found Yours?” by Michael Burt
A comprehensive view into Coach Michael Burt’s philosophies on coaching and personal development.

“Coaching for Performance: GROWing Human Potential and Purpose” by John Whitmore
A foundational text for understanding performance coaching.

The Franchise: Building a Winner With the World Champion Detroit Pistons, Basketballs Bad Boys by Cameron Stauth
For those interested in the historic rivalry mentioned in the article.

“Leaders Eat Last: Why Some Teams Pull Together and Others Don’t” by Simon Sinek
This book explores how great leaders can create a circle of safety that promotes trust and meaningful work.

You Are an Ironman: Make The Decision NOW


The Journey Begins with the First Step: Repeat after me… “Your Are An Ironman”

Picture this: the setting sun casting golden rays on the sparkling waters of Kailua Bay in Hawaii. The crowd roars as you cross the finish line, sweat, and euphoria mixing in an indescribable cocktail of emotion. The announcer booms, “[Your Name], You are an Ironman!” Yet, if we rewind, we find that the seed for this achievement was planted much earlier than you may think. You didn’t become an Ironman when you crossed that finish line. No, you became an Iron man the moment you took that first committed step on the inaugural day of your training.

The Genesis of an Iron-man

“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” This quote by Winston Churchill could well be the unofficial motto of every aspiring Ironman. After all, Ironman isn’t just a race—it’s a journey of transformation that begins long before you dive into the water or saddle up on your bike.

As an Ironman aspirant, what is it that gets you out of bed at 4 a.m. for a grueling training session? Is it the magnetic pull of a distant finish line or something deeper, something intrinsic? When you start training, the attributes that define an Ironman—resilience, dedication, endurance—start brewing within you.

The Perseverance Test

Consider a real-life example of Sarah Reinertsen, the first female leg amputee to complete the Ironman World Championship. Born with a congenital limb deficiency, Reinertsen faced a unique set of challenges that most athletes don’t encounter. Yet, she still competed and completed the race. Why? Because from the first moment of her training, she embodied perseverance.

You, too, have your own challenges—whether they are balancing family life, work, or overcoming self-doubt. However, every time you face those issues head-on, you are paving the way for something greater. What challenges are you willing to embrace and learn from?

Mental Toughness: The Hidden Muscle

Imagine running a marathon. Now imagine swimming 2.4 miles and biking 112 miles before you even get to that marathon. The physicality of Ironman is only one piece of the puzzle. The other is mental toughness. Elite athlete or not, everyone has a breaking point. The Ironman experience is all about stretching that limit, extending your boundaries, and asking yourself: “How far can I really go?”

Mentally, you have been preparing for this from day one of your training. The moment you chose to not let rain, exhaustion, or even minor injuries deter you from your schedule, you displayed the kind of mental fortitude required to complete an Ironman.

The Science of Self-Belief

In 1954, Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute mile, a feat deemed physically impossible until then. What changed? Bannister believed he could, and so he did. The first step you take in your Ironman journey is backed by a belief—a belief that despite the hardships, the long hours, and the physical demands, you will prevail. It’s the same belief that carried you through every mile, every pedal, every stroke, and finally, over that finish line.

Isn’t it curious that many sports psychologists emphasize visualization as a crucial part of training? Why do you think that is? Could it be because picturing yourself as an Ironman long before you officially become one allows you to embody those qualities sooner?

The Finish Line: A Milestone, Not a Destination

When you hear those words—”[Your Name], You are an Ironman”—know that it’s an acknowledgment of a journey completed, but not the end of the road. You have displayed an unwavering commitment to your goal, showcased unparalleled discipline in your preparation, and demonstrated mental fortitude in the face of countless adversities.

Ask yourself: if being an Ironman were just about the finish line, would it have the same aura of respect and accomplishment it currently does? Unlikely. Because Ironman is a title that you earn with each day of training, every bead of sweat, and all the willpower you can muster.

Now, take this Ironman mindset and apply it to other aspects of your life. What are the other “Ironman” challenges waiting for you? After all, once an Ironman, always an Ironman, not because you crossed a finish line in Hawaii but because you chose to become one when you took that very first step.

So, go ahead and take that step, for in doing so, you aren’t just training for a race, you’re transforming into something more. You are becoming an embodiment of dedication, of resilience, of sheer human will. You’re not just preparing to hear [Your Name] called out as an Ironman at the finish of the race. You’re preparing to say to yourself, “I am an Ironman,” and truly mean it, long before you set foot on Hawaiian soil.

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The next article will be an extension of “The Genesis of an Ironman“. Leave a comment below and we will be sure to let you know when it is published!

Responsibility: The Power to Transform Your Life

Your Invitation to Greatness

Responsibility isn’t just a concept or an obligation; it’s a transformative force that unlocks human potential, leads to personal growth, and propels us toward our dreams. This is a force that’s accessible to everyone, waiting to be harnessed to shape your destiny. Let’s delve into how it can become your personal compass, guide your actions, and motivate you to reach new heights.

Embracing Response-Ability: A Personal Choice

Life doesn’t just happen to you; you have the “response-ability,” the ability to choose how you respond. Every challenge and opportunity offers a choice. By consciously choosing your reactions and aligning them with your values, you take control of your life’s direction.

Mindfulness: Approach life with awareness and intention, making choices that resonate with your authentic self.

Empathy: Understand others’ perspectives and respond with compassion and wisdom.

Wisdom: Learn from each experience, and let it guide your future choices.

Your Passion: The Guiding Star As we’ve explored earlier, identifying your passion and taking responsibility for it turns hard work into a worthwhile endeavor. Your passion isn’t just a hobby; it’s a calling. It’s what makes you come alive, drives you forward, and fuels your hard work.

Ask Yourself: What is your passion? What are you willing to take personal responsibility for? Your answers aren’t just reflections; they’re directions.
Commit to Your Passion: Make your passion a priority. Take daily actions, however small, to nurture and grow what you love.

Responsibility and Hard Work: A Dance of Fulfillment Hard work, driven by responsibility, becomes more than a grind; it’s a joyful pursuit, a dance towards fulfillment. It’s the hard work invested in what you care about that leads to growth, success, and the realization of dreams.

Embrace the Journey: Hard work is not a burden but an exciting and purpose-driven pursuit. It’s filled with challenges, triumphs, growth, and above all, joy.

Inviting Opportunity: Where Responsibility is King As Jordan Peterson said, “Opportunity exists where Responsibility has been abdicated.” Embracing responsibility opens doors to unseen opportunities and aligns your path with your potential. It’s an invitation to greatness that awaits your acceptance.

Real-Life Examples of Responsibility

Community Leaders: Individuals who took responsibility for change in their communities have left an indelible mark on history and society. Malala Yousafzai, for instance, turned her passion for education into a worldwide movement, advocating for the rights of girls to learn and grow. Her courageous stance against oppression has inspired millions to take ownership of their dreams. Similarly, Mahatma Gandhi’s non-violent struggle for freedom in India was rooted in his deep sense of responsibility to create a just society. His commitment to non-violence and truth ignited a spark of change that eventually led India to independence.

Everyday Heroes: Beyond the luminaries and public figures, there are countless everyday heroes around us who embrace responsibility, pursuing their passions, contributing positively, and inspiring others through their actions. These may be teachers who go beyond the call of duty to foster creativity and curiosity in their students or volunteers dedicating time to environmental causes they passionately believe in. It’s the single parent balancing work, family, and personal growth, never losing sight of their responsibility to their children. It’s the athlete who spends endless hours practicing, driven by a passion for excellence and responsibility to their team.

Business Innovators: The world of business also showcases exemplary instances of passion meeting responsibility. Entrepreneurs like Elon Musk have pushed the boundaries of technology, driven by a passion for innovation and a responsibility towards sustainable energy. Howard Schultz, the mind behind Starbucks, created a company culture that emphasizes social responsibility as much as coffee quality. Their relentless pursuit of their vision shows how aligning passion with responsibility can create not only monetary success but societal impact.

Environmental Stewards: The passionate fight for the environment is another vivid illustration of responsibility in action. Figures like Jane Goodall and Greta Thunberg have become synonymous with environmental stewardship. Goodall’s lifelong dedication to understanding and preserving chimpanzees has redefined humanity’s connection to nature, while Thunberg’s youth-driven climate activism has mobilized a generation to take responsibility for the planet’s future. Their work demonstrates how passion and responsibility can ignite change on a global scale.

In all these examples, the underlying theme is clear: when individuals align their passions with a deep sense of responsibility, they don’t just achieve personal fulfillment; they become catalysts for change, inspiration, and positive impact in the world around them. It’s a call to action for each one of us to identify what we love, what we believe in, and take the necessary steps to bring those passions to life through our own sense of responsibility. The path might not always be easy, but as these real-life inspirations have shown, it is a journey filled with purpose, meaning, and the potential to make a lasting difference.

A Personal Invitation

Responsibility is more than a word; it’s a pathway, a personal invitation to greatness, fulfillment, and the realization of your dreams. It’s about becoming the author of your life story, turning challenges into growth opportunities, and aligning your actions with your authentic self.

Your response-ability is waiting to be tapped. Your passion is calling out to be embraced. Your hard work is ready to be transformed into a dance of fulfillment. Opportunity awaits where you decide to take responsibility.

So here’s the question, a deeply personal and transformative one: What are you willing to take personal responsibility for? Your answer is not just a reflection; it’s a direction, a key to unlocking the life you desire.

Your path is open, and the adventure of a lifetime awaits. Are you ready to embrace responsibility, take control of your destiny, and set out on a journey towards greatness? The time is now, and the rewards are boundless. Believe in yourself, take the leap, and watch how the world unfolds before you. The greatness within you is waiting to be unleashed. It’s time to take responsibility and let your greatness shine.

Comments on Responsibility…

We look forward to hearing what you think about this series on Responsibility in the comments here or on the Coach Wheeler Facebook page. If you are interested in the other articles in the series, we recommend starting with “Response-ability“, the first article in the series.

The Unexpected Combination: Passion & Responsibility

Passion+Responsibility is Article 3 in the Responsibility series. Link to first article… Response-ability.

Identifying Your Passion and Taking Responsibility:

The Worthwhile Endeavor
In the journey of self-discovery and personal growth, few questions are as vital as identifying what truly moves you. What’s your passion? What is important to you? What are you willing to take personal responsibility for? These inquiries lead us to the core of who we are and what we want from life. Let’s delve into how these questions can guide you to align your actions with your values and turn hard work into a fulfilling endeavor.

Find Your Passion

Finding your passion might seem like a daunting task, but it’s a journey that starts with self-reflection and honest assessment. Here’s how you can embark on this path:

Explore Your Interests:
What activities or subjects ignite a spark in you? What hobbies or tasks make you lose track of time?

Assess Your Skills and Talents:
What are you good at? What skills do you enjoy using?

Consider Your Values:
What principles and ethics resonate with you? What do you stand for?


Reflect on Past Experiences:
What projects or roles have brought you the most joy or satisfaction?


By answering these questions, you can pinpoint what truly drives you and discover your passion.

How to Take Responsibility
for Your Passion

Once you’ve identified your passion, taking personal responsibility for it means committing to nurture and pursue it. Here’s how:

Set Clear Goals:
Outline what you want to achieve related to your passion. Be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (SMART).

Create a Plan: Break down your goals into manageable steps and timelines.
Invest Time and Effort: Dedicate the necessary hard work to develop your passion. Remember, passion fuels hard work, making it a joyful endeavor.

Stay Committed and Resilient: Keep your commitment even when faced with obstacles or setbacks. Stay focused on your passion and values.

Turn Responsibility into Fulfillment:
Taking responsibility for what you love does more than just lead to success; it makes the journey itself rewarding. Here’s why:

Alignment with Values: When your actions align with your values and passions, every step feels meaningful and fulfilling.


Growth and Learning: Pursuing your passion through hard work leads to personal growth, skill development, and continuous learning.


A Sense of Purpose: Taking responsibility for your passion infuses your life with a sense of purpose, making everyday actions more meaningful.

Real-Life Examples:
Connecting Passion and Responsibility

Entrepreneurs Pursuing Their Vision: Many successful entrepreneurs took responsibility for their passion by building businesses around what they love. Think of Steve Jobs’ passion for innovation, which drove him to co-found Apple. His relentless pursuit of perfection and desire to change the world through technology led to breakthrough inventions like the iPhone, forever transforming the way we communicate. Or consider Oprah Winfrey’s dedication to personal growth and empowerment. Starting with a local talk show, she built an empire that extends to television, film, and publishing, all rooted in her desire to inspire others to live their best lives.

Artists Following Their Creativity: Artists like Frida Kahlo, whose bold and haunting paintings were a testament to her personal struggles and triumphs, took personal responsibility for her creativity. Her work not only became iconic for its vivid imagery and emotional intensity but also for its feminist themes, making her a symbol of strength and resilience. Musicians like Yo-Yo Ma have turned their passion into their life’s work, too. Ma’s mastery of the cello has led to multiple Grammy Awards, and his efforts to bridge cultures through music have earned him the Presidential Medal of Freedom. His dedication to his craft and desire to connect people through music is a stirring reminder of how passion and responsibility can create not just beautiful art, but also a more compassionate world.

Scientists and Innovators Changing the World: Scientists like Marie Curie, driven by her passion for discovery, took personal responsibility for her research, leading to groundbreaking work on radioactivity. Despite facing societal barriers as a woman in science, her perseverance and commitment to her passion led her to become the first female Nobel laureate. Innovators like Elon Musk, with his ambitious vision to make space travel accessible and promote sustainable energy, have shown how taking responsibility for one’s passion can quite literally reach for the stars. Musk’s SpaceX and Tesla are living proof that relentless pursuit of one’s dreams, combined with the responsibility to see them through, can lead to revolutionary changes.

Educators Inspiring the Next Generation: Teachers and educators often embody the profound connection between passion and responsibility. Educators like Erin Gruwell, whose story inspired the movie “Freedom Writers,” took personal responsibility for her students’ success. Her passion for teaching and belief in her students’ potential transformed a troubled class into engaged learners, demonstrating that with love, determination, and responsibility, we can change lives.

These examples resonate with a universal truth: When we take personal responsibility for our passions, when we commit to what we love with all our hearts and minds, we can achieve greatness. We can change the world, one dream, one goal, one responsibility at a time. The path may be fraught with challenges, but the joy and fulfillment of living our truth make the journey not just worthwhile but an adventure, an exploration, a dance with destiny. What’s your passion? What’s your responsibility? The world is waiting for your answer.

The Passion Connection

Identifying your passion and taking personal responsibility for it is a transformative process that turns hard work into a fulfilling journey. It’s about aligning your actions with what truly matters to you, making every step along the way resonate with purpose and joy.

Howard Thurman once said, “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

So, what’s yours?

More importantly, what are you willing to take personal responsibility for? The answers to these questions are the keys to a life imbued with meaning, joy, and fulfillment. The path is open, and the adventure of a lifetime awaits. Are you ready to embrace your passion and take responsibility for the life you desire? The journey is yours to embark on, and the rewards are boundless.

If you have identified your passion, tell us about it in the comments. We would love to hear about it. If you are still figuring things out, that’s great too. Leave a comment here or on the Coach Wheeler Facebook page and leverage the community to find solutions to your challenges!

Top 10 Passion / Responsibility (P&R) Resources:

“The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey
Covey’s book is a guide to personal and professional effectiveness, emphasizing ethical decision-making and proactive behavior.
Connection to P&R: The book’s focus on taking initiative and aligning daily actions with deeper values directly relates to personal responsibility for one’s passion.

“Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us” by Daniel H. Pink
Pink explores the psychology of motivation and how autonomy, mastery, and purpose drive us.
Connection to P&R: Emphasizing purpose and mastery, this book shows how connecting with our inner drive or passion leads to personal responsibility in achieving our goals.

“Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” by Brené Brown
Brown explores the concept of vulnerability and its role in building connection, empathy, and courage.
Connection to P&R: The book emphasizes taking responsibility for our emotions and actions, and how embracing our true passions requires vulnerability.

“Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance” by Angela Duckworth
Duckworth presents the idea that grit – a combination of passion and persistence – is a key to success.
Connection to P&R: This book centers around the importance of aligning one’s passion with a strong work ethic and taking responsibility for long-term goals.

“Mindset: The New Psychology of Success” by Carol S. Dweck
Dweck explores the concept of a “growth mindset,” the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through hard work and perseverance.
Connection to P&R: Emphasizes personal responsibility for growth and development, fostering a mindset that aligns with pursuing passions.

“The Passion Paradox: A Guide to Going All In, Finding Success, and Discovering the Benefits of an Unbalanced Life” by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness
The authors delve into the double-edged nature of passion, how to cultivate it, and its relationship to success.
Connection to P&R: A direct exploration of passion, it teaches how to harness and take responsibility for one’s passion in a healthy way.

“Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones” by James Clear
Clear provides a comprehensive guide to habit formation and how small changes can lead to significant improvements in life.
Connection to P&R: It shows how responsibility for daily habits is integral to pursuing and realizing one’s passion.

“Outliers: The Story of Success” by Malcolm Gladwell
Gladwell examines why some people succeed and how family, culture, and personal drive play a role.
Connection to P&R: The book illustrates how taking responsibility for one’s own development, combined with passion, leads to exceptional success.

“The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles” by Steven Pressfield
Pressfield discusses the internal obstacles that artists and creatives face and how to overcome them.
Connection to P&R: It resonates with the need to take personal responsibility for overcoming barriers to pursue one’s creative passion.

“Find Your Why: A Practical Guide for Discovering Purpose for You and Your Team” by Simon Sinek
Sinek offers practical steps to identify personal or organizational purpose.
Connection to P&R: Encourages readers to discover their passion and take responsibility for incorporating it into their lives and careers.
These books collectively encompass a wealth of ideas related to passion and responsibility, exploring different facets of these concepts, from personal growth and success to relationships and creative pursuits. Whether you’re seeking inspiration, guidance, or a deeper understanding of what drives you, these texts can illuminate the path.