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The Power of Struggle Time:

Why Embracing the Struggle Leads to Growth

In today’s fast-paced world, where immediate results are often prioritized over long-term growth, the concept of “struggle time” can seem counterintuitive. As a teacher and coach, I’ve found that one of the most challenging aspects of my role is convincing administrators, parents, and especially students or players, that struggling is not just okay—it’s essential.

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The video shared in a recent Facebook post (link below) illustrates the profound impact of embracing struggle. But what exactly is “struggle time,” and why is it so crucial?

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Understanding “Struggle Time”

“Struggle time” refers to the period during which an individual is faced with a challenging task, one that is not immediately solvable. This is the time when frustration, confusion, and even failure might occur. It’s the time when the mind is pushed to its limits, where the easy solutions don’t work, and where one is forced to think critically, creatively, and persistently to overcome obstacles.

In educational and athletic contexts, struggle time is often viewed as a negative experience. Many believe that if a student or player is struggling, it means they are not understanding the material or that they are not performing well. However, this mindset overlooks the fundamental truth that growth occurs in the struggle. It is in these moments of difficulty that true learning and development happen.

The Value of Struggle in Learning

Research in educational psychology supports the idea that struggle is a critical component of learning. When students or athletes are presented with challenges that are slightly beyond their current abilities, they are forced to engage more deeply with the material or skill. This deeper engagement leads to a more profound understanding and mastery.

Consider the concept of “desirable difficulties,” coined by psychologist Robert Bjork. Desirable difficulties are challenges that make learning harder in the short term but improve long-term retention and performance. When students are given time to struggle through a problem, they are more likely to remember the solution and understand the underlying principles. This is because the effort required to overcome the difficulty creates stronger neural connections in the brain.

Struggle in Sports: Building Resilience and Character

In sports, struggle time is just as critical. It’s easy to celebrate the victories, the moments of triumph where everything comes together. But it’s in the moments of struggle—when the game isn’t going well, when the training is grueling, when the competition is fierce—that athletes develop the resilience and mental toughness needed to succeed.

Take the story of Michael Jordan, widely regarded as one of the greatest basketball players of all time. Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team as a sophomore. He didn’t make the team, and that struggle drove him to work harder, to push himself beyond what he thought was possible. Jordan himself has said that it was the struggles, the failures, and the challenges that made him the player he became.

Struggle time teaches athletes to persevere, to keep pushing when things are tough. It teaches them that failure is not the end but a stepping stone to success. It builds character, resilience, and a mindset that welcomes challenges as opportunities for growth.

Overcoming the Resistance to Struggle Time

Despite the clear benefits of struggle time, there is often resistance to embracing it. In the classroom, parents and administrators may worry that students who are struggling are falling behind. They may push for easier tasks or more assistance, thinking that this will help the student succeed. In sports, coaches may feel pressured to focus on winning rather than development, leading to a reluctance to let players experience the struggle.

This resistance is understandable. We all want to see our students and athletes succeed. We want to protect them from failure and frustration. But in doing so, we may be doing them a disservice. By shielding them from struggle, we deny them the opportunity to develop the skills and mindset they need to overcome challenges in the future.

To overcome this resistance, it’s important to reframe the way we think about struggle. Instead of viewing it as a sign of failure, we need to see it as a necessary part of the learning process. We need to communicate to students, athletes, parents, and administrators that struggle is not something to be feared but something to be embraced.

Practical Strategies for Implementing Struggle Time

So, how can we, as teachers and coaches, effectively implement struggle time in our classrooms and on our teams? Here are some practical strategies:

Normalize Struggle: Start by normalizing struggle in your environment. Talk openly about the challenges you face and how you’ve overcome them. Share stories of famous individuals who have struggled and persevered. Encourage students and athletes to share their own struggles and how they’ve worked through them.
Create a Safe Environment: For struggle time to be effective, students and athletes need to feel safe. They need to know that it’s okay to make mistakes and that failure is part of the process. Create an environment where effort is valued as much as success, and where individuals are encouraged to take risks and push themselves.
Provide Appropriate Challenges: It’s important to provide challenges that are appropriate for the individual’s current level. The tasks should be difficult enough to require effort but not so difficult that they become overwhelming. As students and athletes grow, gradually increase the difficulty of the tasks to continue pushing them out of their comfort zones.
Offer Support, Not Solutions: When students or athletes are struggling, it’s natural to want to step in and help. But instead of providing the solution, offer support that helps them find the solution themselves. Ask guiding questions, provide hints, and encourage them to keep trying. This approach helps them develop problem-solving skills and builds confidence in their ability to overcome challenges.
Celebrate the Struggle: Finally, celebrate the struggle itself. Recognize and reward the effort and perseverance that individuals show, regardless of the outcome. This reinforces the idea that the process of struggling is valuable and worth celebrating.

The Long-Term Benefits of Embracing Struggle

When we allow students and athletes to experience struggle time, we are helping them develop skills and qualities that will benefit them far beyond the classroom or the sports field. These include:

Resilience: The ability to bounce back from setbacks and keep going even when things are tough.
Critical Thinking: The ability to analyze problems, think creatively, and develop solutions.
Perseverance: The determination to keep working towards a goal, even in the face of challenges.
Self-Confidence: The belief in one’s own ability to overcome obstacles and achieve success.

These are the qualities that will help individuals succeed in all areas of life. Whether they are facing challenges in their careers, their personal lives, or in their communities, the skills and mindset developed through struggle time will serve them well.

Conclusion: The Power of Struggle

The video shared in the Facebook post is a powerful reminder of the value of struggle. It shows that when we give students and athletes the time and space to struggle, we are not setting them up for failure—we are setting them up for success. By embracing struggle time, we help them develop the skills, mindset, and character they need to thrive.

Here is another example from Coach Calipari (back when he coached at Kentucky)… check it out!

As a teacher and coach, it’s my job to guide my students and athletes through the challenges they face. But it’s also my job to let them struggle, to let them experience the frustration, the confusion, and the effort that are necessary for true growth. It’s not always easy, and it’s not always popular, but it’s one of the most important things I can do to help them become the best versions of themselves.

So, the next time you see a student or athlete struggling, resist the urge to step in and fix it for them. Instead, offer support, encouragement, and the time they need to work through the challenge. In doing so, you’ll be helping them develop into resilient, confident, and capable individuals who are ready to take on whatever life throws their way.

Levels of Winning . . .

with Coach Dave Wheeler

Taking over a losing team is like inheriting a ship with holes in the hull—it’s taking on water, it’s slow, and it feels like it’s on the verge of sinking. As a coach, you’re tasked with not only plugging those holes but also getting that ship moving swiftly toward victory. It’s not a small challenge. The team comes with bad habits, weak skills, and mental control issues—focus, emotional control, frustration, anger—all of which have kept them anchored in a cycle of losing. Their effort and conditioning levels are probably less than ideal, too.

But let’s be clear: losing sucks. There’s no sugar-coating it. Whether you’re a coach or an athlete, repeated losses can be demoralizing, leading to doubt and frustration. The temptation to give up is real, but the journey from a losing culture to a winning one is not just possible—it’s achievable if you commit to a structured approach. This journey can be broken down into what I call “The Levels of Winning,” a progressive roadmap that takes a team from the depths of defeat to the heights of consistent victory.

Level C:
Improving Focus, Conditioning, and Skills

The first step in transforming a losing team is to focus on the fundamentals: Mental Focus, Conditioning, and Key Skills. At this stage, the goal is not necessarily to win games but to set the foundation for future success.

Mental Focus

One of the most critical issues in a losing team is a lack of focus. Players may have developed bad habits, such as not listening during practice, losing concentration during games, or getting easily distracted by emotions or external factors. As a coach, your first priority is to instill a sense of discipline and concentration in your players. This can be achieved through structured practices that emphasize attention to detail and mental toughness. For instance, drills that require players to react quickly to changing situations can help improve focus and decision-making.

Conditioning

Another common issue with losing teams is poor conditioning. A team that lacks endurance will falter in the final minutes of a game, no matter how well they play initially. Improving conditioning is non-negotiable. This involves not only physical training but also mental conditioning—teaching players to push through fatigue and stay mentally sharp when they’re physically exhausted. Implementing high-intensity interval training (HIIT) or endurance-based drills can help build the physical stamina required for sustained performance.

Skills Development

At this level, skill development is about going back to basics. This might mean re-teaching fundamental techniques like shooting, passing, dribbling, or defending. It’s crucial to ensure that players are not just participating in drills but are also understanding the “why” behind each exercise. Skills are developing when players start executing in games what they’ve been learning in practice—whether it’s successfully running plays, applying pressure defense, executing fast breaks, or setting effective traps.

As a coach, it’s essential to celebrate small victories at this stage. When a player successfully executes a new skill in a game, it’s a sign of progress. These moments build confidence and create a positive feedback loop, encouraging further effort and improvement.

Level B2:
Competitive Effort

Once the team has made progress in focus, conditioning, and skills, they often find themselves in close games. They may still lose more than they win, but there’s a noticeable shift—they’re competitive. This stage is characterized by increased effort and the ability to win parts of the game, such as a quarter or a half, even if the overall result is a loss.

Good Effort

At Level B2, effort is no longer a sporadic occurrence but a consistent theme. Players are beginning to take pride in their work ethic, pushing themselves and each other to higher standards. They’re competing hard every minute of every game, regardless of the score. This competitive effort is the foundation upon which winning is built. It’s about teaching the players that success isn’t just about the final score—it’s about winning each moment, each possession.

Winning Parts of the Game

Although the team may still lose, they begin to win quarters or halves. This is a significant milestone because it shows that the team is capable of executing a game plan effectively for extended periods. The challenge at this level is to maintain focus and effort throughout the entire game, rather than just in spurts. Coaches should emphasize the importance of consistency and perseverance, reminding players that winning quarters is the first step toward winning games.

Level B1:
Over the Hump

This is the stage where a team begins to experience more frequent success. They’ve “overcome the hump” and start to win close games that they might have lost before. Confidence begins to build, and with it, a crucial shift in mentality occurs—the team starts to believe they can win, even in high-pressure situations.

Winning Close Games

At Level B1, the team has learned how to handle crunch time. They no longer crumble under pressure; instead, they thrive in it. Winning close games is a skill in itself, requiring not only physical execution but also mental toughness and strategic awareness. Players must trust each other and their ability to perform in critical moments. Coaches should focus on situational practices—like late-game scenarios—to ensure the team is prepared for anything that comes their way during a game.

Crunch Time Confidence

Confidence is the key to success at this level. A team that believes in its ability to win is dangerous. This confidence is built through experience—by repeatedly finding themselves in tight situations and learning how to navigate them successfully. It’s important for the coach to reinforce this confidence by highlighting past successes and encouraging players to trust their training and instincts.

Level A:
Consistent Winning

Reaching Level A is the ultimate goal—a stage where winning becomes a habit rather than an exception. At this level, the team not only wins but does so convincingly. You are blowing out opponents by 20+ points and doing so consistently.

Blowouts and Dominance

When a team reaches Level A, they’re not just winning—they’re dominating. Blowouts happen when a team is firing on all cylinders—offense, defense, and everything in between. The team has developed a winning culture, and the players expect to win every time they step on the court. This mindset shift is critical. The fear of losing is replaced by the expectation of victory, which drives the team to perform at a high level consistently.

Maintaining Consistency

Consistency is the hallmark of a winning team. It’s not about peaking for one game but about sustaining a high level of performance across the entire season. This requires relentless effort in practice, continuous skill development, and unwavering mental toughness. Coaches should keep pushing the team, reminding them that there’s always room for improvement, even when they’re winning consistently.

The Bottom Line: Don’t Give Up

Turning around a losing program is never easy. It’s a process that requires patience, perseverance, and an unwavering belief in the potential of the team. There will be setbacks, moments of doubt, and possibly an extended period of losing. But as long as you stay committed to the process and keep pushing your players to improve, the wins will come.

Win or Learn

One of the most important lessons to impart to your team is the concept of “Win or Learn.” In the early stages, when losses are more common than wins, it’s crucial to frame each game as a learning opportunity. What went well? What needs to be improved? By focusing on continuous improvement, rather than just the outcome, you help your players develop a growth mindset—a belief that they can always get better with effort and practice.

Set Clear Expectations

From day one, it’s essential to set clear expectations for your team. These expectations should cover everything from effort and attitude to punctuality and respect. By establishing a standard for everything, you create a culture of accountability and discipline. Rules are important, but standards are what sustain a winning culture. These standards should apply to everyone—no exceptions. When players understand that everyone is held to the same standard, they’re more likely to buy into the program and push themselves to meet those expectations.

Some Final Words from Coach…

“The Levels of Winning” is not just a theoretical framework; it’s a roadmap to success. By focusing on improving focus, conditioning, and skills, cultivating competitive effort, learning to win close games, and finally achieving consistent dominance, a coach can transform a losing team into a powerhouse. But remember, this transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, hard work, and a steadfast belief in the process.

As a coach, your job is to guide your team through these levels, celebrating the small victories along the way and never giving up—even when the going gets tough. Because in the end, it’s not just about winning games—it’s about building a culture of excellence, where every player strives to be their best, both on and off the court. And that’s the real victory.

About the Author:
Coach Dave Wheeler

Coach Dave Wheeler is a seasoned basketball coach with a proven track record of developing top-tier talent across multiple levels of the sport. Recognized as the #1 basketball development coach in Montana for the past two consecutive years by Coachup.com, Coach Wheeler has honed his craft through extensive experience at the middle school, high school, AAU, and college levels.

His expertise in building winning programs is well-regarded, making him a sought-after coach for teams looking to turn their fortunes around. Currently, Coach Wheeler is in the process of interviewing for his next head coaching position (2024-25 season) in the Bozeman / Belgrade / Livingston, Montana area where he aims to bring his winning philosophy and experience to a new team that is hungry for success.

Coach Wheeler can be contacted by leaving a comment below. He sees all comments and looks forward to hearing from you.

Mental Toughness – Responsibility v. Blame

Who is to blame when a team loses? Who is at fault? Without seeing any part of the game I can tell you that both of those questions are less important than figuring out who is responsible. So, are you going to take responsibility? Should you?

Difference between Responsibility and Fault

I just finished reading a very interesting book titled, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson and he has a chapter about the difference between Responsibility and Fault. It is a concept that I have encountered before but it is something that is not always easy to remember … or build into your everyday life.

“The responsibility/fault fallacy allows people to pass off the responsibility for solving their problems to others.”
– Mark Manson

In sports, there is always someone to blame. The key, especially for the players and the coaches, is to recognize your own responsibility because until you accept responsibility it is nearly impossible to improve. When you don’t take responsibility, you are saying that there is nothing that you can do to change your current or future situations and that is simply not true.

This concept extends far beyond the field or the court. In relationships, careers, and personal development, understanding the difference between responsibility and fault is crucial. It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming external circumstances or other people for our failures. However, embracing responsibility, even when a situation is not our fault, empowers us to take control of our reactions and our future.

Consider a business leader who faces a sudden market downturn. They could blame the economy, competitors, or myriad other factors outside their control. While these might not be their fault, the responsibility to adapt and guide the company through the storm remains squarely on their shoulders. Taking responsibility does not mean accepting blame for things out of one’s control; it means recognizing the power to respond, adapt, and grow.

In everyday life, we can practice recognizing the difference between fault and responsibility by reflecting on our reactions to challenges. Ask yourself, “Is this situation my fault? Maybe not. But what can I do to respond in a way that aligns with my goals and values?” By focusing on our ability to take charge rather than getting entangled in assigning fault, we free ourselves to learn, adapt, and thrive. It’s not just a path to personal growth; it’s a journey towards empowerment and a fulfilled life. In the words of Wayne Dyer, “All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, it will not change you.” Focus on what you can change—yourself.

Blame: The Trap of Victims

Blame shifts the focus from personal control to outside forces. It’s a way of relieving ourselves of the burden of personal responsibility but at the cost of losing control over our own lives. Blame can hinder growth, trapping us in a cycle of victimhood. When we engage in blame, we relinquish our power to change our situation, handing it over to circumstances or others.

However, blame is not inherently bad. In some situations, recognizing external factors can be part of the healing process. But lingering in blame can create a mindset where progress is stunted, and opportunities are missed. The difference lies in whether blame is used as a stepping stone to understanding or as a barrier to personal growth.

A Story of Redemption: Consider the example of Malala Yousafzai. After surviving an assassination attempt by the Taliban for advocating for girls’ education, she could have blamed her circumstances, her country, or the political climate. Instead, she took responsibility for her mission, turning her experience into a platform for global education advocacy. Rather than falling into victimhood, she used her circumstances to fuel a movement that changed the lives of millions of girls worldwide. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of responsibility over blame.

John C. Maxwell’s words ring true in Malala’s story and many others: “A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them.” Blame might provide a temporary salve for our ego, but taking responsibility can turn a moment of weakness into a lifetime of strength and purpose.

Embracing responsibility over blame is a choice with profound implications. It’s not just a path to personal growth; it’s a journey towards empowerment, fulfillment, and true leadership. In the words of Viktor Frankl, a survivor of the Holocaust, “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” How will you respond to that challenge today? The road to empowerment awaits.

No Decision is still a decision

Even if you do nothing, you are still making a decision. You have decided to do nothing and let the situation continue in whatever direction it might go. As we know, small problems grow into big problems, so doing nothing is rarely a good choice… but it is always your choice (even if you don’t believe it).

The paradox of inaction can be both comforting and alarming. On one hand, it emphasizes the control and autonomy you have in every situation. On the other, it reminds you that passivity is not a refuge but a choice with its consequences. This realization should not breed fear but inspire mindfulness in our decisions, whether active or passive.

In many ways, the decision to do nothing is a missed opportunity. It’s the road not taken, the chance not seized, the potential not realized. It can often be the product of fear, uncertainty, or a sense of inadequacy. But as author and motivational speaker Tony Robbins once said, “The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment.” Imagine the possibilities that open up when you decide to take control and make deliberate choices.

Sometimes, the most potent action starts with the decision not to accept the status quo. If you find yourself inclined to do nothing, ask yourself: What is holding me back? What do I fear? What opportunities might I discover by choosing to act? Remember, every step forward begins with the decision to move, to change, to grow.

Consider a real-life example: Rosa Parks’ refusal to give up her seat on a bus was, in a sense, a decision to do nothing—to not comply with an unjust system. Yet that simple act of “doing nothing” became a catalyst for a movement that transformed a nation. Your choices, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, carry the potential to make waves.

No decision is void of consequence. The choices we make—or don’t make—shape our lives, our communities, and our world. Embrace the power and responsibility of choice. Whether to act or not to act is indeed a significant decision, one that requires courage, reflection, and wisdom. As you move forward, remember the words of Mahatma Gandhi: “The future depends on what you do today.” So what will you choose to do, or not do, today?

Even if you do nothing, you are still making a decision. You have decided to do nothing and let the situation continue in whatever direction it might go. As we know, small problems grow into big problems so doing nothing is rarely a good choice… but it is always your choice (even if you don’t believe it).

The Choice is yours.

How to Get Into Basketball Shape

First off, let me acknowledge a great idea and the inspiration for this article about getting into basketball shape…

The basketball mile (courtesy of PGC basketball). Basketball Shape article by PGC

The theory behind the “basketball mile” is to simulate all the running in a full game including the starts/stops, breaks between quarters and more. The reason I am featuring this drill is because it simulates a real game. It also gives you more rest time if you run each segment faster. It might not be an exact match for the running that is done in a game, but it is a pretty good approximation.

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Coach Wheeler has come up with a “timing sheet” that shows when each segment of this drill should start so you can simply run the game clock continuously and call out start times. The timing sheet also allows you to mark off which players complete each segment. You can even add information such as the winner of each segment. If you want you can record any violations (double dribble, travel or turnover) if you are incorporating a ball into the drill. It’s up to you if you want to add a penalty for mistakes (pushups?).

Click the links below to download the Timing Sheet (using “Save As”) that utilizes 20 second segments or 15 second segments …

[Timing sheet – 20 sec segments] Basketball Mile Drill Chart

[Timing sheet – 15 sec segments]

Ways to make it harder…

One of the key roles of a coach is to challenge the players on their team so they are given an opportunity to grow and improve. The basketball mile is already a pretty challenging drill but how can your team get more value out of doing it?

The PGC article (link here) suggests making the time for each sprint segment shorter (see the 15 second sheet for timing cues) and/or dribbling a ball while sprinting. I might add a few more “twists” to create challenges that will help you in a game.

First, add two free throws at the end and record who makes one or both of them. Free throws at the end of a game (when you are tired) can make the difference between winning and losing. Don’t waste the exhaustion that this drill provides. The timing sheets provide a line at the bottom to collect how each player did on their free throws.

Second, make it more competitive by recording who wins each sprint. Perhaps the player who wins the most sprints takes the last two foul shots for a team win (while individuals can shoot for their own “win”).

Thirdly, how will you start or introduce this drill? How about having two players race each other while the rest of the team watches? If you time them, you can ask the question to the team… is this pace fast enough for us to win our games?

Fourth, can you figure out a way to work in passing as part of the drill? Ideally players would have an opportunity to both dribble and pass based on whatever rules you come up with. Maybe players are paired up so that they pass the ball back and forth as they sprint the first leg and whoever ends up with the ball one step from half-court would have to dribble it back.

Finally, you could record the players who don’t finish the sprint in the time required. They can finish the rest of the sprints “at their leisure” or as additional conditioning work, but those who don’t meet the time targets could be marked on the recording sheet. Can you think of other scenarios? Leave your thoughts in the comments section below!

Final thoughts about How to get in Basketball Shape?

If you ask any basketball coach they would say that the sooner your players get in “basketball shape”, the sooner they will be ready to learn new skills and compete successfully on the court. The “Basketball Mile” is a great tool and there are plenty of ways that it can help your players get in Basketball Shape … the kind of shape that wins games!

Pushing Players – Coach Cal Wisdom

Here is another excerpt from Coach John Calipari’s book, “Players First, Coaching from the inside out” that talks about what it means when a coach is “pushing players” to improve…

Players First by John Calipari

None of my players are as ready as they think they are for how we play at Kentucky – let alone ready for the pros – because they have rarely if ever been really pushed. They have gotten accustomed to dominating even while putting out three-quarters effort. In fact, they probably don’t even know they play at three-quarters speed. That’s one of the things I have to show them.

How do you push the players on your team? Are they challenged to reach their full potential?

Coach Cal’s book provides some stories about how he recruits star players by being radically truthful with them. He feels that by telling the truth, even when it might be uncomfortable, he is able to inspire trust.

Here is a link to the previous blog article about this book… click here.

How are you pushing players on your team? Please leave a note in the comments with your story!

Book Review-12 Rules by Jordan Peterson

Jordan Peterson’s book, “12 Rules for Life, An Antidote for Chaos” has some good ideas but it is also heavy on Bible stories and quotes from philosophers and psychologists.

First question you probably have…

Are the 12 Rules worthwhile? Will they help you build a better life? Quick answer: Yes. They are worth reading but you might want to read through the summary below first to see if you are interested in reading more. Some of the chapters can get a little long winded (and go off on a few tangents) so you need to be motivated to stick with the book.

Let’s take a look at a brief summary of each rule…

Rule 1 – Stand up straight with your Rule shoulders back.

This is partly related to “Fake it until you make it.” It means that you should project confidence physically even if you might not be really “feeling it.” [Little secret that goes along with this… if you physically project confidence (or any other emotion really) you will start to move toward the actual feeling. Our emotions are tied to our physical “habits” so if you want to feel better (or more confident), move like you do when you feel that emotion… and the emotion will come.

Grade for Rule 1 … A+ (very worthwhile).

Rule 2 – Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.

Most people treat their pets better than than they treat themselves. They take them for regular checkups while forgetting to do the same thing for themselves. If you are a parent there are an endless number of ways that you sacrifice for your kids. This rule says that you should at least apply the same standards to yourself and while it makes sense, it may be difficult to change your habits when it comes to self-maintenance.

Grade for Rule 2 … B+. This should be common sense but more people need to recognize that they can give more by taking care of themselves instead of sacrificing for others.

Rule 3 – Make Friends with people who want the best for you.

If you have studied nearly anything in the area of “personal development”, you have probably heard the saying that “You are the average of the 5 people who you spend the most time with.” If you hang out with millionaires, the odds are better that you become one too. If you hang out with people who eat poorly and never exercise, what do you think the odds are that you will be overweight? Jordan Peterson takes a little different angle on this concept. He suggests that finding people who will hold you to a higher standard will help you become your best self and realize more of your potential, Good idea. Not especially original but definitely something to apply to your life.

Grade for Rule 3 … A. This is a good idea, just not especially original. You have probably heard something similar already.

Rule 4 – Compare Yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

This Rule especially applies to athletes but it can be applied to nearly any endeavor (academics, business). What you might think is “talent” may just be the result of someone working on a particular skill for longer than someone else. This article about “The Talent Myth” talks more about this concept.

The key point is that we need to be careful who we compare ourselves to. Everyone has their own journey and often someone else is a currently at a different point in their journey. Use them as an example or learn from them if you want to achieve whatever it is that they have achieved. Seems simple, right? Only if you keep this rule in mind and don’t make yourself feel bad because you “aren’t there yet”!

Grade for Rule 4… A. Important to remember. Learn from those ahead of you. Don’t feel bad because you aren’t there yet. Get to work!

Rule 5 – Don’t let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.

This rule applies mostly to parents but it could also be applied to managers within a company. Jordan Peterson includes many ideas for raising children as part of his 12 Rules and most of them are built around the idea of socializing kids so they can operate effectively in society. We live in a society and children need to learn what is expected. Making life easy for kids isn’t really doing them any favors in the long run. Another way of phrasing this rule… “Don’t raise a PIA.”

Grade for Rule 5 … B-. Good idea for parents but this rule doesn’t have as much application as the other rules.

Rule 6 – Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

This is, by far, the best advice of the “12 Rules” book. Another way to say it is to “Tame your demons before tackling the world’s problems.” Jordan Peterson suggests that it is important to “Create Order in your life” where you can. [He talks a lot about “Order” and “Chaos” while drawing comparisons with Heaven and Hell.] The basic idea is that creating Order in your life (by taking control of what you can control) will give you the secure foundation you need to tackle the Chaos you will inevitably encounter.

Quick note… Chaos is not always bad. Creativity and Variety can come from Chaos. Order is not always good. Too much Order and you get boredom or limited growth. This may sound kind of Zen (Jordan explains the meaning of the Zen Circle and how it relates to Chaos/Order too.)

Grade for Rule 6 … A+ Best advice in the book. Do this first.

Rule 7 – Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient).

In other words… Shortcuts are not the answer. “Meaning” comes from “worthwhile challenges” and Jordan suggests that you should choose the challenges that will add meaning to your life. If you have been searching for the “Meaning of Life”, this might be as close to a good answer as you might find.

Grade for Rule 7 … A+. How can the “Meaning of Life” not get an A+? Is it easy to focus on doing something meaningful?…No. Is it worth it… you betcha.

Rule 8 – Tell the truth – or at least, don’t lie.

Truth is a tough subject. Jordan Peterson says Truth is order (and is also easier to remember than nearly any fiction you might conceive). Finding “Truth” also means confronting reality so tht you are not deceiving yourself (or others). The better we deal with reality, the better our results. Former CEO of GE, Jack Welch, has written a number of books and has said that the ability to discover reality and deal with it is one of the keys to the success he had when he ran General Electric.

Another way to state this rule would be to “Be a Pursuer and Purveyor of the Truth”. The only problem with the truth is that sometimes it isn’t “pleasant”. On the other hand, a little short term discomfort (like telling someone they need to improve something) is better than letting the problem grow. Rip that “Truth Bandaid” off quickly! [That’s my metaphor, not Jordan’s].

Grade for Rule 8 … A- While this rule seems simple, it can be tough to implement. If it was phrased along the lines of “Deal with Reality” (instead of the Truth angle) it might have wider application… but still worth applying!

Rule 9 – Assume the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.

This rule kind of shows how Jordan Peterson is Canadian. Canadians are known for being “nice” (compared to Americans) and this rule is something that will improve the connections you develop through your conversations with other people.

Another way to say it… Learn from others. They have done things you haven’t. If we focus on what we are going to say, we lose the chance to learn something.

Grade for Rule 9 … A. If you want to get better, you need new ideas. The best way to get new ideas is from other people. Listen. You have two ears and one mouth. 2-1, Listening to Speaking is a good start!

Rule 10 – Be precise in your speech.

This is one of the rules that isn’t exactly self evident by itself. One part of “precise speech” is the “Avoid blanket statements.” Another is to “Recognize Opinions vs Facts.” Jordan Peterson points out that precise communication requires work. It requires an understanding of the pitfalls of language as well as an open mind. How precise is your language?

Grade for Rule 10 … A. This is an area we could all improve and Jordan Peterson is someone who is very precise with his language. [Check out this interview where he talks about the Gender Wage Gap.]

Rule 11 – Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.

This is another rule that applies for parents (or adults who teach or manage children). Bottom line, according to Jordan Peterson, is that Children need challenges. This is how they explore the edges of their capabilities. They might get hurt. That’s part of the process… and part of the excitement.

Grade for Rule 11 … A. We all need challenges if we are going to grow. Not everyone will want to be a skateboarder but there are plenty of challenges out there… for adults as well as kids.

Rule 12 – Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.

Another way of saying this (without the cat reference) is to “Engage with Opportunites to LIVE!” This is a good rule to end with because it is very easy to hide in our own little world and miss out on lots of the great parts of life, such as petting a cat (or dog). Don’t forget to connect with the outside world. There are lots of great things going on out there. When the opportunity comes around… ENGAGE!

Grade for Rule 12 … A+. Maybe this grade is higher than it needs to be… but I get to pat my dog every day and I highly recommend it for everyone!

Bottom Line – Is 12 Rules worth a read?

Jordan B. Peterson has clearly thought about life and “what works”. He has a strong grasp of the studies that explain the human condition. He offers wisdom that is generally accepted (and backed by research) within his field (psychology).

By reading the “12 Rules”, I learned a lot about the Bible and the psychology of success. There are plenty of interesting stories and examples … if you can wade through everything else. There are also many pop culture references (and ancient wisdom) that I navigated fairly successfully. On the other hand, some readers who did not grow up in the 60’s/70’s might not get the references. I am about the same age & educational level as Jordan Peterson so we start from a similar frame of reference.

If you found this review of the 12 Rules interesting, you may want to read the book. If you didn’t see anything that you want to dig into, you probably won’t like wading through all of Jordan Peterson’s stories and cultural references. Professor Peterson tends to go off on tangents so the book is not as easy to read as it could have been. I also found that there were times when it seemed like he was trying to prove how smart he is. As a university professor, this might be second nature but I could probably edit the whole book down to less than 2000 words. [BTW- this post is less than 2000 words.] Hopefully this post was helpful.

If you have already read the book, please leave a comment below to tell us what you thought about the 12 Rules!

How to Fix Sore Knees from Basketball

The video below by Alan Stein shows some exercises designed to help fix the common problem of sore knees for basketball players. Under the video is an overview of how your lower body works so you can better understand the mechanics.

First things First…

Coach Wheeler recommends the use of a good physical therapist whenever possible. If you have sore knees that don’t heal by themselves in a couple weeks, look into medical assistance. Physical Therapists, in particular, are trained to evaluate joints & muscles to identify imbalances or nagging injuries that might be causing your sore knees.

As you saw in the video, Coach Alan Stein talks about how important Ankle & Hip Mobility are to the health of your knees. His recommended drills include: (1) Ankle Mobility – Toes2Nose, (2) Hip Mobility – Lunge Stretch. He also mentions that (3) Rear side strengthening also helps keep your lower body mechanics. Alan Stein specifically recommends the one-leg “flyer” position and the hip bridge. Finally, Alan Stein recommends drills for improving the mechanics of your landing (soft, quiet & on balance) including the 2 foot side-to-side bounding, lateral cross-over and 1-2 forward/stop. All of these exercises can easily be incorporated into a practice plan or, at the very least, your warm-up process.

Lower Body Mechanics

The lower body has 3 joints that absorb impact when you run and jump. The knee is more of a “hinge” joint while the ankle and hip have a larger range of motion… or at least they should. Restrictions in the mobility of your ankle and hip can show up as problems with your knee. That is why stretching out these joints while also keeping the related muscles balanced (equal strength on both sides of the joint) is critically important to the health of your knees.

Knee injuries can be prevented!

If you apply the exercises shown in these videos (above and below), you are reducing the chance of an unnecessary knee injury. If you play a collision sport (such as football), there is still a real possibility of your knee(s) taking a hit but that is “part of the game” (and is why Coach Wheeler likes basketball).

Other exercises to prevent or rehab sore knees?

The video below is by OverTimeAthletes and includes 4 ideas to help you improve your sore knees. The exercises presented in the video are:
(1) Passive Quad Stretch – using a foam roller, stretch out the quad. This is better than “active stretching” because it is easier on the knee.
(2) Glutes Strengthening to build a strong foundation for movement and protect your knees.
(3) Dorsiflexion Ankle Mobility to stretch out your ankle and associated muscles.
(4) Terminal Knee Extensions (TKE’s) – Use an elastic to “pre-hab” the muscles around the knee.

Bottom Line…

If you have sore knees and you continue to push yourself or mask the pain with pain pills, you are asking for trouble. It is better to build some of the exercises mentioned here into your warm-ups or “rest days” so that you can eliminate the problem. Don’t wait until you tear an ACL or something similar. If you have sore knees, that means you have already injured or over-used some part of your knee. Your knee is not at full strength and you won’t reach your full athletic potential without fixing the problem. As is mentioned in the video, seek medical help. These videos are useful but should not replace a qualified medical specialist.

The Problem with Problems – Why Problem Solving doesn’t work.

Everyone has problems. If you are alive, you have problems. They might be big, life-changing problems like a diagnosis of cancer or they could be minor inconveniences like a fly buzzing in your ear. That’s not why problem solving tactics don’t work. Problem solving is easier than you think, but I am getting ahead of myself.

The real problem with problems (and the way most people approach problem solving) is three-fold… and, as you will see, they are inter-related.

(1) Denial River. First, we are too often simply in denial of the problem. “I don’t have any problems” … as you buy the next bigger size of pants to fit your expanding midsection.

(2) Comfortable known vs Uncomfortable unknown. The problems we know are easier to accept compared to the great unknown that might exist if we tried to solve the problem. We get comfortable being sort of uncomfortable… we tell ourselves “it could be worse”. We don’t want to push through additional “discomfort”… so our “comfort zone” becomes a prison. A prison that we hold the key to unlock.

(3) Other people have problems. This is related to the denial we have about problems but it goes one step further. “I don’t have a problem. OTHER People have problems, but I don’t.” It is much easier to recognize other people’s problem than our own. We may be too close to them, in denial or just don’t want to face the work that would be required to fix them. It is so much easier to point out other people’s problems. The grass may be greener on the other side of the fence… but that’s just because that’s where your neighbor’s septic tank is leaking!

So, why am I writing a series about Problem Solving?

Especially when it is clear that most people won’t care enough to read it, much less apply the ideas to solve their problems?

I guess part of it is my own fascination with the topic. I see problem solving as a sort of puzzle. What follows are the tricks I’ve learned over the years to solve these puzzles.

Do I have problems?

Of course I do. As many, or maybe more, than most of you. My commitment, as part of writing this series of articles, is to use my own problems as examples that you might learn from. Ideally, I will solve some of my own problems in the process of thinking through all the steps I will be presenting. At least that is my hope.

The Process of Problem Solving

I have broken the process of Problem Solving into a series of skills or activities. They can tackle everything from the largest, most complex corporate problem at work to the daily nit-picking problems you have at home. As I add articles to the series, I will list them here and provide links. So depending on when you find this article, you may have additional links below. If there are no links or the series is not complete, sign up for our email notification service. Signup box is in the right column on every page of this blog. It is a simple two step process requiring a confirmation email.

Best Problem Solving process… Guaranteed.

My guarantee to you is that if you go through the whole problem solving process, you will find a solution. If you don’t, I will personally work with you. If we can’t solve your problem I will admit that I was beaten by your problem. Then we can see if my readers might offer suggestions that we missed. Got questions? Send Coach Wheeler an email via our Contact page.

The GRIND – Summer Basketball Edition

Time 2 GRIND Summer is when you can make huge improvements as a basketball player… especially if you grind. GRINDing is all about putting in the effort to get better.

Do you GRIND?

The GRIND is about overcoming obstacles. It is about staying motivated to execute your training plan. It is having a training plan in the first place. It is about the attitude that says “Nothing will stop me” and “I will do whatever needs to be done to achieve my goal(s)”.

Bottom line… if you are not part of TEAM GRIND, you will certainly lose to players who are out there grinding every day this summer.

How to start GRINDing

You might say to yourself… “I really like to be comfortable and kick back but I also want to accomplish great things so how do I become a grinder?” You probably recognize how important it is to put in the hours if you want to improve, but, honestly, there are some days when you REALLY don’t feel like it. What do I do?

(1) Imagine yourself as a GRINDER

Your self image determines the actions you will take and which ones you won’t. If you want to put in the effort, you need to see yourself as someone who GRINDS!

How do you change your self image? Here are some ideas…

GET THE T-Shirt. If you are wearing a t-shirt that proclaims you as someone who GRINDS, then people around you will see the shirt and expect you to put in the effort. Other people’s expectations (along with your own) can shape your self image so that you are more likely to build the characteristics of a GRINDER into your picture of who you are.

Use Your Words. The words we use when we talk to other people are important because they set the expectations other people then place on us. We need to be sure that we don’t put ourselves down by saying things like “I can’t GRIND like he can.”

These words, spoken to other people, are important but even more important are the words we use when we “talk to ourselves”. If you say the same statement to yourself, your subconscious mind accepts it as the truth and programs your self image to represent that “truth”. In other words, we hold ourselves back (or get better) by the words we use. Our subconscious mind and our self image (more about these in my article about Mental Management here), don’t care as much about what is “true” as much as what you believe is true, or what could be true.

What if we changed the statement to “I am not at the level of GRIND that he is YET but I am working on it.” Doesn’t that feel different? If you say it enough, you will begin to believe it. More about Affirmations here.

(2) Make A Plan

If you lay out all the small steps that go into your long term plan for improvement, each one will be smaller and more likely to be accomplished. The truth is that the GRIND is about taking the one small step that is right in front of you. That’s the only thing you need to do. One step in front of the other. That’s how you run a marathon or become a lights-out shooter.

In addition, your plan will include milestones where you can start to see your progress. An example might be the first time you run a 5K (3.1 miles) without stopping to walk. Or it could be the first time you make 50% of your shots in a drill. Or 75%. Or 100%. You might not notice an improvement from one day to the next… but over a month or two, you will be able to look back on where you started and see how far you have come.

Your plan should also have a BHAG or Big Hairy Audacious Goal that is so BIG (and Hairy, whatever that means to you) that it will push you beyond your perceived limits. Want to dunk a basketball on the first day of tryouts next season? The time to GRIND is NOW! Do the workouts all Summer. Find new workouts to improve your vertical leap by searching YouTube.

(3) Partner up

If you can find someone with similar goals, you can help each other put in the work. There will be times when you won’t want to workout, but you can’t let down your team mate. This added accountability means that you will be less likely to miss a workout… and you will do the same for your team mate.

Don’t Let Me Down. Another way to boost your accountability is to announce your goals publicly. If your friends and team mates are anything like mine, they will constantly ask you how your plan to GRIND is coming… and maybe tease you a little bit if you don’t measure up. Go ahead and put your goals on Facebook. Or make an Instagram video explaining what you are going to do this summer.

Want to take it one step further?

Post a link to your Facebook “Declaration of GRIND” or Instagram video in the comment section below. Our readers (and Coach Wheeler) will definitely follow up to see how you are doing!

Summer will be over before you know it. Either you will get better or you will stay the same (which means you get worse compared to the competition who got better). Take control of your destiny and make a plan… and commit to the GRIND!

Will it be easy? Probably not.Will it be worth it? Definitely. Will you have to give up all the fun that happens in the Summer? Not necessarily. You can still go to the beach… and may go for a run before taking a dip in the cool water. You can still have fun while you GRIND. In fact, that is probably the best way to GRIND. Make it fun, involve others and at the end of the Summer you will be amazed by all the great experiences you have had as well as the improvements that will take your game to a whole new level for next season. Start the GRIND… now!

Do you want to win all the time?

If you follow women’s college basketball, you know that the UConn women’s basketball team seem to “win all the time”. . . until they lost in overtime in the NCAA semi-final game (in a way that was almost identical to what happened last year). During the season, it seemed like they could not be beaten. Now they have a new challenge which, unfortunately, seniors Kia Nurse and Gabby Williams won’t be around to help the team address.

Winning all the time…
is that what we really want?

Below is an excerpt that talks about “winning all the time”. It is from the last chapter in With Winning in Mind by Olympic Gold medalist Lanny Bassham …

Do you want to win? Do you want to win all of the time? Really? What if you did? What if every attempt was successful and nothing ever went wrong? What if it became way too easy to do? How long would it take for you to tire of it? Winning is special because it is so difficult to do. We tend to value things in direct proportion to the price we pay for them. We do not learn very much standing on the top of the summit. All of the becoming happens on the way up the mountain. I hope you are having a lot of challenges along your journey of a dream. Resistance makes you stronger. If you are not having problems your goals are too low.

My hat is off to the UConn women’s basketball team for a great season … even if they did not make it to the championship game this year. With the loss fresh in their minds, it is hard to remember that we WANT to be challenged. If no one stepped up to give us a challenge, the value of winning would be diminished.

I look forward to next season and expect the UConn Women’s Basketball (WBB) team to win many more games. I also expect that Geno Auriemma and his coaching staff won’t be satisfied with anything less than a championship. The bar is high at UConn… and that’s why the players signed up to be UConn Huskies! They work hard to win all the time … and they will certainly learn from this loss so they can improve next year!