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Find Success After “I Can’t”

By Coach Wheeler

As a basketball coach, there’s one phrase that has always struck a nerve with me: “I can’t.”

I remember vividly the countless times I introduced a new skill or drill to a player, only to hear those dreaded words: “I can’t do it, Coach.” It felt like they were giving up before even trying, as if they had already decided failure was the only option. But over the years, I’ve come to realize something powerful: Success often lies just beyond that “I can’t.” If we can help ourselves—or others—push past that moment of doubt, there’s a whole world of growth and achievement waiting.

Let’s explore why we get stuck at “I can’t,” how to overcome it, and how to use that turning point to find success in every aspect of life.

Why “I Can’t” Feels So Real

When we say “I can’t,” it’s usually not about a true lack of ability. More often, it’s about fear, doubt, or a lack of vision.

Fear of Failure: Nobody likes to fail, especially in front of others. Saying “I can’t” is a protective mechanism. It’s easier to claim defeat upfront than to risk falling short after giving it a try.
Self-Doubt: Many people underestimate their own potential. They assume that because they haven’t done something before, they’ll never be able to.
Lack of Vision: Sometimes, people simply can’t see themselves succeeding. They can’t picture the steps or the outcome, so they shut down the idea entirely.

This is why “I can’t” often sounds like “I won’t.” It’s not that they lack the physical ability—it’s that their mindset has created a mental block.

The “Can’t Point”

I call it the “Can’t Point”: That moment when someone bumps into the edge of their comfort zone.

For a basketball player, it might be the first time they attempt a spin move or shoot a three-pointer under pressure. For someone in life, it could be learning a new skill, speaking in front of a crowd, or starting a new venture.

The “Can’t Point” is where most people stop … where they let Self Doubt keep them from moving forward.

But here’s the truth: this is where the magic happens. The “Can’t Point” is not a wall; it’s a threshold. Beyond it lies growth, success, and achievement. The challenge is getting past it.

The Role of Confidence

One of my biggest jobs as a coach is to help players see their own potential—even when they can’t see it themselves. When a player says, “I can’t,” my response is usually something like this:

“Yes, you can. I’ve seen you do tougher things before. Let’s break it down step by step. I know you’ve got this.”

It’s amazing how much of a difference confidence—whether it comes from within or from someone else—can make. A player might go from refusing to try to giving their best effort simply because I expressed my belief in them.

Here’s the takeaway for you: if you don’t believe in yourself, borrow belief from someone who does. Surround yourself with coaches, mentors, or friends who see your potential. Their confidence can bridge the gap until you develop your own.

5 Steps to Move Beyond “I Can’t”

So how do you move beyond the “Can’t Point”? It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

1. Break It Down

Big challenges feel overwhelming because we see them as a single, massive task. Break it into smaller, manageable pieces. For example, when teaching a player to execute a spin move, I don’t just say, “Spin and score.” I break it down into footwork, hand placement, and timing.

Do the same in your own life. Want to run a marathon but feel like “I can’t”? Start with a single mile… a single walk down to the corner and back. Want to master public speaking? Begin by talking in front of a small group.

Like I say in my book, “One Step At A Time”, every great accomplishment is the result of a load of small steps, each one easy to accomplish if you just take action in the direction of your dreams.

2. Reframe the Challenge

Instead of focusing on what you can’t do, focus on what you can learn. Think of it this way… Every “I can’t” is an opportunity to either succeed or to grow. Keep trying until “you can”.

Another way to reframe the challenge is to change your mindset from “I can’t” to “I haven’t done it yet.” That small shift in language, adding the word “yet” can make a huge difference. It WILL happen. It just hasn’t happened YET.

3. Visualize Success

A lack of vision is a common reason people get stuck at “I can’t.” Maybe you “can’t” see how you could accomplish it (yet). If someone was wearing a blindfold would you say they “can’t” see? Or is there just something in the way of them seeing what needs to be done?

Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine yourself succeeding. Picture what it will look and feel like when you’ve accomplished the task. Visualization primes your brain for action and makes success feel more attainable.

4. Embrace the Struggle

Here’s the truth: it’s supposed to be hard.

Growth happens when we struggle and push through our current limites and overcome challenges. Instead of avoiding discomfort, accept it as part of the process of growing and lean into it.

Remind yourself that every time you overcome a “Can’t Point,” you’re getting stronger and more capable.

5. Take Imperfect Action

You don’t have to get it right on the first try. Most people don’t.

The key is to take action anyway. As I often tell my players, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” Success is built on a foundation of attempts, failures, and adjustments.

Don’t let yourself get stuck at your “Can’t Point”.

Take Action. Any action is better than being stuck. If the results of your action turn out to be a “less than desirable outcome”, learn from it (#2-Reframe the Challenge) and try again!

A Real-Life Example… “I can’t make foul shots”

Let me share a story from my basketball coaching exploits. There was a young player I was coaching who struggled with free throws. Every time they stepped to the line in practice, they’d miss a few and mutter, “I can’t shoot free throws, Coach.”

One day, I pulled them aside and said, “What if I told you that you’re one small adjustment away from becoming the best free-throw shooter on the team? Let’s figure it out together.”

We spent extra time working on form, routine, and mindset. We settled on a simple routine for every shot. If you can make one free throw, you simply need to repeat that routine every time and you should never miss. The basket is not moving. You are standing in the same spot every time. Plus, the “free” part of free throw means that there is no one guarding you. There is no reason to ever miss a free throw, especially after you have practiced it … and practiced it … and practiced it… until it is the same every time!

I encouraged them to focus on progress, not perfection. Slowly but surely, they improved. By the end of the season, they were sinking free throws under pressure and grinning at the line.

What changed? They stopped saying “I can’t” and started saying “I’ll try.” That small shift unlocked their potential and gave them a chance to succeed every time they went to the foul line.

How You Can Use This

You don’t have to be a basketball player to apply these principles. The next time you catch yourself saying “I can’t,” pause and ask yourself a few questions:

Is it really true?
What’s one small step I can take right now?
Who can I ask for support or guidance?

Most importantly, remind yourself that “I can’t” is just a feeling, not a fact.

Success Lies Just Beyond

The phrase “I can’t” might feel like a stopping point, but in reality, it’s a starting line. Success doesn’t come from avoiding challenges; it comes from facing them head-on and refusing to quit.

As a coach, I’ve seen players go from “I can’t” to “I did it” more times than I can count. Each time, it’s a reminder of what’s possible when we push past our doubts and embrace our potential.

Remember: The moment you say “I can’t” is the moment you’re standing at the edge of greatness. Take one more step. Try one more time. That’s where success is waiting.

So, the next time you hear yourself—or someone else—say “I can’t,” smile and think: “I’m just getting started.”

Go out there and claim your success. It’s closer than you think.

Imperfect Action: The First Secret to Building a Winning Mindset

How many times have you found yourself waiting for the perfect moment to act? Maybe you’ve said, “I’ll start when I’m ready,” or “Once everything falls into place, I’ll go for it.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. The quest for perfection is a common trap that catches even the most ambitious among us. But here’s the truth: Perfection is a myth. Waiting for it is a surefire way to stay stuck.

Success doesn’t come from waiting for perfect conditions—it comes from taking imperfect action. The key to building a winning mindset is to take action now, even if you don’t feel 100% ready, even if it’s messy, uncertain, or uncomfortable. Today, we’ll explore why imperfect action is so powerful and how it’s the foundation of success.

Fear of Imperfection: The Invisible Chain

One of the biggest reasons people hesitate to take action is fear. Fear of failure. Fear of being judged. Fear of making mistakes. These are the invisible chains that hold you back from achieving greatness. The truth is, fear will always be there. It whispers in your ear, giving you every reason why you shouldn’t start or why you’re not ready.

But here’s the good news: Action is the antidote to fear. The moment you take that first step, no matter how imperfect, fear begins to lose its grip. Every time you act, you prove to yourself that you can handle uncertainty. You build confidence by doing, not by thinking or planning.

As Marshall Sylver, a motivational powerhouse, often says, “Do something, even if it’s wrong.” This isn’t a call to be reckless, but a reminder that waiting for perfection is a form of procrastination. The time to act is now, not tomorrow, not next week. When you take imperfect action, you shatter the illusion that everything has to be perfect before you move forward.

Progress Beats Perfection

The world loves to celebrate perfection. But those who have built successful, winning mindsets know that progress is far more important than perfection. They understand that taking small, consistent actions—no matter how messy—leads to greater success than waiting for everything to be flawless.

Think about the most successful athletes, entrepreneurs, or thought leaders. Do you think they waited for the perfect moment to take action? Absolutely not. They moved forward despite the uncertainty. They embraced imperfection, knowing that progress, not perfection, is what fuels momentum.

In my years of coaching and building teams, I’ve seen firsthand how the pursuit of perfection can paralyze players. They hesitate, waiting for the perfect opportunity to make a move, only to watch as their chance slips away. But those who act, even when things aren’t perfect, learn and grow faster than anyone else. Taking that first step—even if it’s imperfect—puts you on the path to progress.

Momentum is Everything

Imperfect action creates momentum, and momentum is a powerful force. It’s what separates winners from those who stay stuck on the sidelines. The first step you take may not be flawless, but it creates forward motion. And once you’re in motion, it’s easier to keep going. Momentum builds confidence, and confidence leads to even more action.

The biggest mistake you can make is to let perfectionism stop you from moving forward. Each time you take a small step, even if it’s not perfect, you gain real-world experience, solve problems, and refine your approach. Success loves speed—and imperfect action allows you to move faster. While others are still perfecting their plans, you’re already in the game, learning and improving.

Marshall Sylver talks about the importance of momentum in his programs, emphasizing the need to act fast. Once you have momentum on your side, it’s tough to stop. And how do you build momentum? By taking that first step, even if it’s imperfect. That step sets everything in motion, and before you know it, you’re making progress that would have seemed impossible if you had waited.

Clarity Comes Through Action

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you take action. In fact, clarity comes through action. Many people wait for a crystal-clear vision before they start, but the reality is, the path only becomes clearer once you begin. When you take the first step, the next one becomes more obvious. And after that, the next.

This is why action is so critical. Sitting on the sidelines, overthinking, or trying to perfect every detail won’t get you any closer to your goals. Taking imperfect action, on the other hand, allows you to learn as you go. It’s through doing that you gain the insights and experience necessary to refine your strategy. You adapt, adjust, and move forward. By the time others are still working on their plans, you’ve already gained the upper hand with real-world knowledge and experience.

As Coach, I’ve seen this play out in sports time and time again. Players who hesitate, waiting for the perfect moment to strike, often miss their chance. But those who step onto the court with confidence, willing to make mistakes, find their rhythm and create success through effort and adjustment.

The Power of Imperfect Action in the Present

One of the greatest gifts of imperfect action is that it allows you to operate in the present moment. You’re not waiting for a future that may or may not happen. You’re taking control of your life now. This sense of urgency is a game-changer. When you take action now, you send a message to yourself and the world: “I’m committed. I’m serious. I’m ready to win.”

Will you always feel ready? No. There will be moments of doubt. There will be times when you feel uncertain or unprepared. But if you wait until you feel perfectly ready, you’ll wait forever. The time is now, even if it’s messy, even if you don’t have all the answers. That’s the essence of imperfect action.

As Marshall Sylver emphasizes, “Take action now!” When you act in the present, you take control of your future. You stop being a spectator in your own life and start becoming a player.

Imperfect Action Builds Mental Toughness

Imperfect action also strengthens your mental toughness. It teaches you how to move forward, even when conditions aren’t ideal. It forces you to push through fear, uncertainty, and doubt. And over time, this process builds an unshakable resilience.

Mental toughness isn’t developed by waiting for things to be easy or perfect. It’s built in the trenches, in the moments when you feel uncomfortable or unsure, but keep going anyway. This ability to act despite the obstacles in your path is what separates winners from those who stay stuck.

The key is to embrace the discomfort that comes with imperfect action. Every time you push through, you become stronger. Every time you act, despite the fear, you get closer to your goal. You learn to thrive in uncertain conditions, and that makes you unstoppable.

The First Step is Everything

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Here’s the final piece of the puzzle: The first step is everything. You don’t need to see the whole path right now. You just need to take that first step, no matter how imperfect it is. Once you do, everything starts to fall into place. You learn. You adapt. You grow.

Imperfect action frees you from the pressure of knowing all the answers. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about moving forward, one step at a time. And the beauty of imperfect action is that it creates opportunities you wouldn’t have seen if you had waited.

So, what’s the one thing you can do today? What’s one small action you can take right now, even if it’s imperfect? Don’t wait for the perfect moment because that moment may never come. Act now, even if it’s messy. Because imperfect action beats perfect inaction every single time.

Success Favors the Bold

A winning mindset isn’t built on waiting for the right moment; it’s built on taking action, learning from mistakes, and moving forward despite the challenges. Success favors the bold, those willing to take imperfect action and adjust along the way.

So, what are you waiting for? The time to act is now. Take that first step today, no matter how imperfect. Because each imperfect step brings you closer to your goal. And in the end, that’s what winning is all about—moving forward.

Let’s get to work.